Yeah I agree with ShyKiwi. They aren't mean.. because they still do care. Or, well, I'm not sure about my Dad because I really can't tell if I mean anything to him/haven't spoken to him in awhile. But, my mom, she cares, she is just..... so bad at handling people, and so obvlious to her words when she is angry/stressed/upset/depressed/afraid and unfortunately she is always angry/stressed/upset/depressed/afraid... A person who cannot even handle themselves, and then handles me in the same way. If anything, this causes us to both be mean to eachother. I know there's a good soul in there somewhere.. but GOD is it EVER in denial, paranoiad/harmful/fearful and defensive!