Are you here just for girls ? ? ?

Bo592

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Do you come to this website hoping to find that special someone ?​
Do you thank it possible to find a girl that like you here ?​
To be honest I don`t think that it is possible to find someone here on this site. I thank women and girls find it creepy to meet a guys this way. They don`t know anything about you. I know alot of guys like to come here so they can just ask for dating advice. I don`t really see any shame in that. Dating is a social event and I see how we would see why it ties in with our socialPhobia.
 

Flanscho

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No. Aside from having a partner, I'd use okcupid to find one. In general, I've made great experiences by getting to know people online.

That a lot of people come here for nothing but dating advice is new to me.

There are also a dozen other reasons why I wouldn't use this website to find a partner. :)
 

Capsaicin

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It's definitely a scummy thing to join a site like this just to meet women.

A pool for singles to fish in is not a stable or supportive one, because dating is not a stable or supportive activity. You wouldn't turn to OKCupid or Plenty of Fish for support for a reason, and it's because people who are looking to date aren't looking to be a listening ear, a good friend, or to show compassion to suffering strangers. They want excitement, sex, intimacy, and romance. People who turn to support sites may just need to be treated like a human being by someone who understands and meet people they can talk to.

On another website I'll occasionally get random guys message me, be excited to have someone to relate to, and then have them disappear when I refuse to give out the required personal information for them to see how much of a hottie they've hooked (pics, Facebook, etc). What that says is that despite being the target audience and needing what the site advertises, I'm not valuable as a poster because I'm not interested in strange men 2,000 miles away... on top of feeling like I'm not noticeable because I'm not an active poster, good at cheering others up, or funny. It's everything bad about real-life in the one place I can turn to at 2 a.m. on my laptop when I'm starting to feel like a worthless freak again.

They should be ashamed of themselves, and if they have any decency at all they'll leave.
 
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nicole1

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Found my ex on a forum. But it wasn't related to this and we were friends for like a year before I invited him to Texas to stay for a vacation.
 
I'm here for a lot of things, but romance isn't one of them. ::p:

It's not so much the people (there's a ton of fantastic people here), but more the nature of the site. The last thing I want to do is make people uncomfortable on a site where you're supposed to let your guard down, and therefore make a conscious effort to view everyone as a platonic friend at best.

I sufficiently creep people out as is. ;D
 

Odo

Banned
Online forums wouldn't really work without people on them, but I guess sometimes people just need to vent... I wouldn't write anyone off as not being friend material just because they're on this site, but it's not such a practical way of meeting people because without knowing them in real life it's probably going to be hard to keep it going.
 

theoutsider

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I think you can find a good person anywhere. I wouldn't advise anyone to rule this website out. For starters, you have several people here of both sexes who will probably understand what each other is going through. In turn, they will be more sympathetic and supportive of each other's struggles. I really don't see why somebody who has any type of social phobia would completely rule out others who have the same problem.

It's funny, I have been on other forums for other topics not involving any kind of illnesses and the members all say the same thing: "I would not date anyone who is a member of this forum." Personally, I think part of it is they don't want to admit they are looking and open to the possibility for fear of rejection.
 

Hoppy

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I can meet girls here?:eek:

I wish someone has told me sooner.

For the girls out there: I'm rich, handsome and cool.
 

Xervello

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YES, and they're all MINE!! Hear that fellas? Back off or you all get a knuckle sammich, see. So don't be gettin' any big ideas.


:bat:


To be serious (for once) kinda/sorta. Not for anything romantic, but friendship. The majority of people I talk to online are girls. And the majority of girls I know talk mostly to guys. I think the internet offers that buffer zone 'tween guys and gals allowing them to be friends, at first, without worrying about the physical complications an offline friendship/encounter poses. The rare times I talked to dudes, one instance was about porn (which was weird in retrospect) and the other I begrudgingly listened to 'em talk for an hour about their band. Now a girl talking for an hour about her band wouldn't be so dull cuz I could at least flirtatiously joke with 'em. If I did that with the dude he'd just get all weirded out. Pfft, boys!
 
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THeCARS1979

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I would look in here but would not count on it to much. not even the other Social Anxiety Friends or SAS site. If it does happen its kinda miraculous , I dont count on nothing internet anymore, to many disappointments
 
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