Are relationships and SA impossible??

[dizzydean]

Any suggestions here? Also, anybody familiar with trueacceptance.com? I googled them and found a nami article but not sure.

 

[user12053]

I think it depends on what level of SA you are on. I've had lots of relationships. I have no problem with that.

 

[chris87]

I also believe it depends on the magnitude/extent of your SA. In a relationship setting, I know that I would be extremely nervous.

 

[LostViking]

For me it would be impossible, yet for others it seem to work and their SA is still as bad or actually worse than mine in other areas. The only person who can actually answer this is you, since it's impossible for us to know how severe your SA is.

 

[Hoth]

To put it simply: if you meet people, you can potentially date them. If you're one of us who never meets anyone, then you're not going to get any relationships out of thin air.

 

[Deus_Ex_Lemur]

To put it simply: if you meet people, you can potentially date them. If you're one of us who never meets anyone, then you're not going to get any relationships out of thin air.

I beg to differ, I've had plenty of fruitful relationships out of think air! =)

It's as Hoth said; you meet people there's a chance. I've had mine, never have been able to cash in. Well I have actually - but ended in - to keep with the analogy ended in just more "debt". Now I try not to "meet people". But it's far from impossible it does pend your level of SA but if you say it is impossible right off the bat then you already created the impossibility. I wish relationships could just manifest themselves out of thin air; or some magical situation like in the movies but if you don't seek to DO something aka meet people NOTHING will happen, literally and figuratively.

 

[jordo2]

i hope not. i'm counting on a couple things going on right now :? i need to get out of this rut ive been in the last couple of years. i need something to look forward to everyday otherwise i'm a total waste of space...

 

[Remus]

I Agee it does depend on the level of sp you have. it is impossible for me

My SP is extreme in groups/crowds, one to one is more managable, I have had a couple of relationships/good freindships, though have been a struggle still at times.

I think some with SP can hide in the crowd of people, they maybe prefer that than the one to one, hence relationship problems, maybe a poll would be in order?

 

[weak]

To put it simply: if you meet people, you can potentially date them. If you're one of us who never meets anyone, then you're not going to get any relationships out of thin air.

Yep. Basically 90% of the people you're gonna meet in your lifetime will either be through school or at work. If you have neither of these things, meeting new people can be painfully difficult.

Thank god for online dating. Without match.com, these past 3 years would've been some pretty lonely ones for me.

For anyone considering it, it's definitely worth a shot. When it comes down to it, meeting a stranger off the internet isn't as scary as it sounds. You can search around and find people who also have anxiety issues and are in the same boat as you. It's worked for me.. a number of times.

 

[proudmummy]

My boyfriend told me recently when we first met I was so quiet and he found it awkward to talk to me as I would give pretty blunt answers when he spoke to me. Have to say alcohol was involved when we got much closer. He has said I sometimes do still be too quiet around him, BUT he loves me, 4 years and one baby later........

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