anyone else get this feeling?

#1
Ok, so does anyone ever speak out loud around a group of people like in a class room or somewhere public, but then after you say whatever you said, it feels like everyone is staring at you even when your done talking. I get this and I usually put my head down when I'm in class because I feel suddenly hot and uncomfortable. BTW I am 15. :roll:
 

Emma

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#2
I used to get that when I was at school (lucky I'm finished now, WOOOOO)
I would get told to do a speech in front of the class, and I would read two lines and run out of the classroom or sit down, and I would be all red and sweaty, like a hog out of that movie Deliverence :oops: :cry:
 

Lostida

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#3
Well I guess it's due to your little talking (if you normally don't talk a lot), so when you say something people are interested or simply curious in what you've got to say. OR it might as well be the typical class behaviour; they stare at whoever speaks.
Don't get stressed about it and above all, don't put your head down. I know the feeling, but believe me, when you finish school you'll see that it isn't worth it to put too much thought to these little things :wink:
 

rado31

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#4
i wish i can go to school back again. I wouldnt be such a good pupil :cry:
What a waste....We had a professors that literaly tortured us psychisal...
I think i would avoid every single their class
 

Harleyq

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#5
Only when nobody says anything back. I feel like the dumbest girl in the world when I say something and all I get from everyone is "......"
 

slapstick

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#6
yeah happened to me yesterday when I was training with my friends and people they know...bcos my friends and I r trash talkers when we score a try(touchdown 4 gridiron or goal for soccer) people laughed when they would do it and when I did people just carried on as if they never heard me lol I don't care bcos I know I'm tha shiz at playing rugby or sports in general..the eggs made me fell like I was speaking arrogance and they were jus speaking harmless trashtalk.. one girl laughed really loud when I slipped over and scraped my forearms and shoulder bcos it was raining...
 

P+G

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#8
I noticed that when people talk in a group, they look at whoever is speaking. So if we're exchanging ideas then the people who talk look at each other and not those who are silent. I found this really annoying because it excludes you from the group. Now and again I'll try to give my own opinions and people will look at you but not just when your talking but afterwards too. So after I've said my part and another person starts talking then they'll turn to look at me too as well as the one who is speaking for agreement or something like that. Does that make sense.....? It feels more like a discussion if everyone looks at each other whilst talking.
 

blue-roses

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#9
Yup. I'm always convinced my voice has come out sounding strained, too deep or too squeaky, or just plain shaky, and I think other people do hear it, because before I speak up in class I spend ages trying to psych myself up and by the time I actually do it, I really have to strain my vocal folds. So then I deliberately cough or clear my throat to kind of non-verbally "explain" to everyone why I sound so weird, haha...at least if they think I've got a cold or something then I won't seem as odd!
 

Lorraine Manca

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#10
Yup. I'm always convinced my voice has come out sounding strained, too deep or too squeaky, or just plain shaky, and I think other people do hear it, because before I speak up in class I spend ages trying to psych myself up and by the time I actually do it, I really have to strain my vocal folds. So then I deliberately cough or clear my throat to kind of non-verbally "explain" to everyone why I sound so weird, haha...at least if they think I've got a cold or something then I won't seem as odd!
i do the exact same thing. i never know how my voice is going come out. its like shaking a magic eight ball, and the little sides can either land on "too deep and manly", " saccharine", "shaky", "fast", "high pitched" on it goes. you never know what your going to get. And i have an "allergies" explanation for being hoarse even though i know its nerves.

i try to think of people i like who have strange voices. theres this one woman who is a living saint who has a very deep voice. she helps refugees. she has a strange voice and everyone loves her so it doesnt really matter, doesnt label you as strange.
 

Sinar_Matahari

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#11
I have felt like this before. I normally feel that strangers are listening in on my coversations when I'm out in public and I am speaking to someone. Chances are, most people are nosy or just can't help but hear in on other people's conversations so I'm trying to not care about that.
 

rainstreet

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#12
this seems like ancient history but when i was in school i wouldn't speak unless forced to. i dreaded any kind of oral presentations and would worry about them for weeks beforehand. when i actually had to say something in class my voice sounded weird and hollow, like it was coming from somewhere else. i don't think i ever actually ran out of class but afterward i tried my best to disappear.
 

Marletta

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#15
I had that feeling a lot in high school. Not so much in college. Probably because I took classes at night which were filled with older adults. I am unemployed now so I can't share any situations work related however, I do remember an awkward moment at a Weight Watchers meeting years ago.
This was my first and last WW meeting. Here I was in a room full of women who had snack bags of food out. The meeting leader was a woman who successfully lost 100lbs and had kept it off (good for her). The topic was how to avoid bad foods at work and parties. I made the comment that since taste was 70 percent smell, just smelling the food might satisfy your craving for it. The entire room fell dead quiet. Everyone stared at me. I replied to that with,"it is a scientific fact, look it up." I got even more stares and blinks from those cows and their feed bags (lol). Finally the meeting leader spoke up and everyone ignored me. Even the WW staff ignored me. Needless to say, I never went back.
 

Mikefly

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#16
Yes that happened to me all the time you have to know when to stop talking and always hold your head up . Those people aren't anymore special than ur.
 

funkyy

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#17
can u imagine..i used to be in choir, and was asked to stand in the centre first row for performance. and i was very anxious, all i always did was fake singing...i could not sing because i always sound eerie when i was anxious. but at home i could sing...it was really demoralising.
 

rainstreet

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#18
:cool:this is not specifically related to the subject but my mother does this whenever shes in the room. she has to know what i'm doing or who i'm talking to on the phone and tries to listen to every conversation. it's sad, because i'm 55 years old!
 

rainstreet

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#19
I've talked to people who say that they would rather do oral reports than written. They must come from another planet.
ORAL REPORTS made school a living hell for me. come to think of it, if oral reports hadn't existed, school would have been reasonably tolerable.

and i know people who prefered oral to written reports. my wife is one of them. she's dyslexic, so i somewhat understand her p.o.v. but personally, i think i would have written a report each and every day, to::(: escape an oral report.
 
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PGT

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#20
Yes i get that feeling. When the boss gives out the work in the morning we all stand around when he tells each of us our job. When it gets to me i always feel everybody looking and my face starts to go warm. Really bugs me when it happens but there is nothing i can do to stop it. Sucks
 
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