A woman gave me her number!

hidwell

Well-known member
Decided to have a massage today, a deep tissue full body massage. A Taiwanese woman was the Masseuse, she was very thorough and the massage was slightly erotic, after the session I asked her if she was always at this center or at others as the business is part of a chain. She replied by telling me she mainly works at this place an sometimes in Hobart, she then told me her name and wrote her telephone number on the brochure, whilst telling me she is on a 12 month work visa I didn't prompt her for this extra information she just came out with it . I have thought about calling her, but have a lot of apprehension and miss givings, does anyone have any thoughts on this topic?
 

ImNotMyIllness

Well-known member
I never had one of those kind of massages. But, she might be looking for a husband to get citizenship-Beware.
Call her and have some fun! Just don't let your guard down.
 

hidwell

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I never had one of those kind of massages. But, she might be looking for a husband to get citizenship-Beware.
Call her and have some fun! Just don't let your guard down.

It wasn't 'those kind of massages' it was in a shopping center, I just thought she was trying to make it erotic, or it might be in my head. :question:
 

Robin Yiu

Member
Going to save you the embarrassment. The context: foreign chinese + massage parlor + gives you her number.

You think its not that type of massage parlor just because it's in a mall? They're everywhere. Legit parlors hire professionals, not women who make it 'slightly sexual'. The fact that shes a chinese non-citizen doesnt help either.
 
I would wonder about her wanting to get married to stay in the U.S. But thats likely not the case. I say call her and ask if she wants to get together. Go to Craigslist and/or Backpage.com and see if that phone number is on there. A lot of times the massage and escort phone numbers are one in the same (I have WAY too much time to do nothing at work). I'm not trying to be callous or bust your bubble of happiness but it pays to be careful. Call her and go out with her and use your judgement of how she acts of she goes out with you, like if she is really forward or talks a lot about marriage run for dear life! But still, A WOMAN GAVE YOU HER NUMBER!!! CONGRATULATIONS!:thumbup:
 

MikeyC

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I'm a little suspicious of the circumstances, but hey, you never know. Call her and see what happens. :)
 

hidwell

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I would wonder about her wanting to get married to stay in the U.S. But thats likely not the case. I say call her and ask if she wants to get together. Go to Craigslist and/or Backpage.com and see if that phone number is on there. A lot of times the massage and escort phone numbers are one in the same (I have WAY too much time to do nothing at work). I'm not trying to be callous or bust your bubble of happiness but it pays to be careful. Call her and go out with her and use your judgement of how she acts of she goes out with you, like if she is really forward or talks a lot about marriage run for dear life! But still, A WOMAN GAVE YOU HER NUMBER!!! CONGRATULATIONS!:thumbup:

That thought has crossed my mind, the fact hat she said she is on a 12 month work visa suggest to me that she wants to marry some local so she can stay in Australia. Thankyou everyone for your replies, I don't think I will be calling her.
 
That thought has crossed my mind, the fact hat she said she is on a 12 month work visa suggest to me that she wants to marry some local so she can stay in Australia. Thankyou everyone for your replies, I don't think I will be calling her.

I hate to think that it might be legit and her intentions are on the level and we just talked you out of it but at the same time it just sounds too good to be true. I think you are using good judgement though. Stay strong man.
 

KiaKaha

Banned
Call her.

Just use common sense and your own judgement.

Call her - do it do it do it do it do it do it.
 

onecellinthesea

Well-known member
Hmmm... I would be suspicious... but I am always suspicious!

There is obviously something nice about you that attracted her to you, so, nice one!
However, talking about a Visa and giving your number to a client is pretty unprofessional and I personally would question her intentions. This is what I'd do if it was me - Google that number! Chances are as jc972 said, that it could be being widely advertised.

But mainly use your gut feelings, they're usually right. There's nothing wrong with calling and going for a casual coffee. It's nice to chat to new people. If you get the feeling that her intentions are untowards then you can put that meeting over coffee under your belt as a practice run for next time you get a girl's number :)
 
It wouldn't perhaps simply be a business contact number, so you can use her service again, or share the number with others you know :question:
 

twiggle

Well-known member
I think you should give it a go and contact her.

I do think that the Visa commments are a bit of a red flag, but at the moment I don't think you have enough information yet to know whether or not this is the main reason behind her giving you the number.

You may as well give it a go, meet with her, and see if there's any chemistry there. You're not committing to anything that way, but it will mean you no longer have to wonder about whether or not you should've contacted her.
 

laure15

Well-known member
You can probably give it a go but exercise caution. I know at least 2 people who were scammed my foreigners. One was a distant relative. He met and married a foreign woman (also a masseuse) who was then pregnant with his child but then miscarried. After she obtained citizenship, she finally let the bubble burst: she told him she had a husband and a daughter back in her home country and that she'll be divorcing him. Facepalm! Who knew?!

But of course, not all foreigners are like this. There are successful marriages between citizens of different countries.
 

hidwell

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Thats what I was wondering because of the context. Maybe check the number of the place against the number she gave you.

If it turns out she did give you her personal number then I don't see why it's any different to any other situation where numbers are exchanged. :idontknow: there could always be an ulterior motive in any meeting situation with anyone.

That is the first thing I did, obviously the number she gave me is different from the 3 massage centers .
 

hidwell

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Ah, well in that case then I don't see why it's different to any other situation in which a woman might give a guy her number. I mean in any situation there there is the chance of an ulterior motive but if you think like that you might miss out on an opportunity you might regret later.

Did you like her?

She gave me a very thorough massage, but as far as a relationship goes I would like to have things in common with a potential partner the sex side is not that important to me. Add to the fact I have very little to offer to a relationship, as I am on a pension and do not own my own house.
 
A call wouldn't force you into anything would it? If things get iffy, you can always leave then. Why not give her a call and see if there's a connection.
 

hidwell

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The funny thing is I did call her last night but because of her accent I couldn't understand her over the phone, ah well you live and learn.
 
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