This is weird!

This is weird! I have become confident at phoning places to make appointments and stuff yet with everyday conversation situations i can't function. I think it's because when phoning places i already know what i want to say and there's no need for informal chit-chat.

That's great
One thing at a time and you'll get there in the end :wink:

That's good, at least comfortable with something! I also feel better talking to people I don't know because they have no idea who I am, and I doubt they will ever see me again.

I still am nervous when phoning somewhere but i am more nervous about phoning people like my sister. I have no clue what to say in conversation.

recluse said:

This is weird! I have become confident at phoning places to make appointments and stuff yet with everyday conversation situations i can't function. I think it's because when phoning places i already know what i want to say and there's no need for informal chit-chat.

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Yeah, its the same with me. I feel more comfortable and am able to function better in more structured social situations like with business phone calls or work conversations. It's because I kind of have a script--I know what I should say. But I have awful trouble hanging out with people and doing the informal talking thing. I've progressed to the point where I can usually make a couple minutes of general chit-chat, but after that the conversation stalls and dies.

Yeah, I feel more comfortable making phone calls to stores than if I were to go in and talk to someone. I think it's mainly because the person can't see me and they don't know (or care!) who I am.

Same thoughts as above. They can't see me, and will probably never meet me. Therefore, I am more at ease. You can also have a general idea of what you want to say before you call. Heck, there are times when I actually write out what I will say.

This is still a great conquer. Because, even still, phone calls can be scary.

recluse said:

This is weird! I have become confident at phoning places to make appointments and stuff yet with everyday conversation situations i can't function. I think it's because when phoning places i already know what i want to say and there's no need for informal chit-chat.

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Good for you.

When I get nervous on the phone, sometimes I fake a funny accent. Not if I have to identify myself, like if I'm calling a store to ask what their hours are. I always figure, as long as I don't have to give my name, they're not gonna know who that weirdo customer was. You can also ask funny questions to try to break the tension. People can have interesting and wide-ranging responses to a question like "Is your place near the brothel?". Even if you piss them off, you have the info you need and they don't know who you are.

yeah I used to have to rehearse phone calls for appointments or whatever, even resorting to writing it down and reading it off the paper. But now I am fine with those calls because I know exactly what I have to do or what I want. But I feel weird speaking to my brother or sister on the phone, or even my dad. I have no idea what to say and what to talk about. It's okay if they ramble on about stuff because you can just listen but if they don't say much then I am stuffed. I tend to get my mum to answer the phone most times and I am 35!! How pathetic is that? She has the gift of the gab and doesn't feel uncomfortable talking to people so it's easier to get her to do it but she does get pissed off with me if she has to run for the phone.

HAHA and the funny thing is I work in a call centre :lol:
But because I know my job inside out and the calls are usually straight forward I don't have a problem with it. Sometimes if they start to get chatty I can go along with it but at times I might get a bit tongue-tied and stuff up what I am trying to say.

Im the opposite, if its somebody Im comfortable with then I can talk for a long time, if its a bank calling or some random stranger I freeze and need to get of the phone immediately.