This is a support group .... ?

Bo592

Bo592

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I want to encourage everyone here to write more hopeful. To my knowledge a support group is a group of people encouraging other to face their fears and accept who you are. It great that we have a place to vent and ask for advice. But what is the point to this if all we do is agree that we all have no hope.​
If you have a grim truth that you feel like sharing , share it but only if you have a positive way of backing it up afterwards. We all know what mostly brought us here was being bulled and having a poor view over who we are. So I want to encourage everyone here to try and make more hopeful threads ones that will support our confident's more instead of bring us down.
 
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gummybear22

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i agree with the op that this place is full of dark mess spouted off. needs more happiness. sure it's hard to find sometimes, but first you have to LOOK. there'll be at lEast 1 thing.
 
Odo

Odo

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I don't think that people should feel obligated to put a positive spin on everything they say... that would make things worse. It's nice to be able to vent things online because chances are in real life we hold it inside and don't really deal with it. Sometimes people just need to get that stuff out there and sometimes even though they're typing it out deep down inside they don't completely 100% believe it.

If you personally don't like negative threads then don't post in them or better yet just ignore them, and if they're being insulting or antagonistic then you can report them.
 
Bo592

Bo592

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It nice to get thing out in the open and get the feeling of freedom to express ourselves that a big part of support groups too. But if everyone is jumping off the cliff then who will be there to catch us.
 
coyote

coyote

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Bo592 said:
It nice to get thing out in the open and get the feeling of freedom to express ourselves that a big part of support groups too. But if everyone is jumping off the cliff then who will be there to catch us.
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i'll do my best :thumbup:
 
LoyalXenite

LoyalXenite

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Odo said:
I don't think that people should feel obligated to put a positive spin on everything they say... that would make things worse. It's nice to be able to vent things online because chances are in real life we hold it inside and don't really deal with it. Sometimes people just need to get that stuff out there and sometimes even though they're typing it out deep down inside they don't completely 100% believe it.

If you personally don't like negative threads then don't post in them or better yet just ignore them, and if they're being insulting or antagonistic then you can report them.
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I agree, while more positive threads would have a positive effect, I, and im sure others too, post on here all the negativity that i cant vent anywhere else. Putting a positive spin at the end of it all would just be a bitter sarcastic joke and make it less of a release.
 
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jaim38

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LoyalXenite said:
I agree, while more positive threads would have a positive effect, I, and im sure others too, post on here all the negativity that i cant vent anywhere else. Putting a positive spin at the end of it all would just be a bitter sarcastic joke and make it less of a release.
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I agree too. It reminds me of this video that I watched yesterday:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0CuhZOYuKDg

Everytime the baby cries, the father stops her by distracting her. Uh, it IS normal for babies to cry. Crying is a way to release one's emotions, but we've been conditioned to suppress our tears and emotions and this is especially true for men. There are long term effects of bottling one's emotions, but crying too much can be bad too. Everything in moderation.
 
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gummybear22

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i don't think you have to put a positive spin on everything you say, you being a general person, but we should try to see good things once in a while rather than staying in a pit of despair all the time.
 
awkwardamanda

awkwardamanda

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I do not agree. Having to be positive about everything is ignoring the elephant in the room. Many of us around here spend an awful lot of time feeling like crap. That's the reality. Pretending every situation has a good side just seems phoney and is only going to make me feel worse. If you want to be more positive, go ahead, but no one is going to make me be an optimist. Finding a positive side in everything is just a band-aid solution. It's a band-aid that's too small and really doesn't cover the wound.
 
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nicole1

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Instead of pressuring people to be positive all the time, why don't you go ahead and write positive threads. This is a place to discuss, not to make you happy. If you want positive posts, go ahead and post something positive for others, not put them down for not being your idea of supporting.

Some of these people are venting; they are entitled to do so. You can't control what others post.

Don't read it if it makes you feel bad.
 
Bo592

Bo592

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I am not saying that you have to hold it all in intel you blew up. I said it was o.k that we vent . I am saying their is a study going around about us that the reason none of us get better is because our heads are full of nothing but negative thoughts . We will never get will intel we can see the bright side of things. We have alot of negative thought right now trashing our lives as we speak. But when all we read is negative then all that we are doing is pouring more negative thoughts in us making us worser.​
There is hope for all of us talking is not as hard as we make it out to be. Talking is nothing more than our thoughts being express through our voice. We understand each other hear because we all going through the same thing. Think of a sport fan would be a complete nerd if he was surrounded by comic book geeks. Thank about it for that moment he would be completely out of place there with nothing to talk about of interest with anyone. The sport fan that was normal consider cool is now unpopular. Popular is nothing more than a large group of people agreeing to one thing.
 
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Bo592

Bo592

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SmileMore said:
How do you suggest people see the bright side then? It's not that simple.
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There is always a bright side to things. As I said before we are all making this out to be harder then it really is. The best thing that we can all do in a support group like this is to help each other with our thoughts.our actions is our reponsibility and our actions come from our thoughts. There is hope trust me .....
 
Hoppy

Hoppy

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Part of therapy is venting and complaining. I don't mind, I just skim over posts like that, and mostly ignore it, since it has been covered so much.

What I do like is when someone come on here, complain, read, listen, and slowly start to work on bettering him/herself. Those are the people making this place so wonderful and are an inspiration for me.

(One of my favourites was a woman who started a thread complaining that she will never marry, and nobody liked her. And two years later she came back to tell everybody she is now happily married and have a child.)
 
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SmileMore

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Bo592 said:
There is always a bright side to things. As I said before we are all making this out to be harder then it really is. The best thing that we can all do in a support group like this is to help each other with our thoughts.our actions is our reponsibility and our actions come from our thoughts. There is hope trust me .....
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No, i don't agree we are making it out to be harder than it is. Sorry.
 
Bo592

Bo592

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Yes, I believe we can get better. This SA is not going to ruin our life. Sorry if nobody like my positive quotes I just don`t feel like saying down in the dump thing anymore. I am going to start saying what ever make me feel good. I know we can get better it not impossible.
 
Odo

Odo

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Bo592 said:
Sorry if nobody like my positive quotes I just don`t feel like saying down in the dump thing anymore. I am going to start saying what ever make me feel good. I know we can get better it not impossible.
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But you're not really being positive-- you're being negative about negativity.
 
coyote

coyote

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i guess it shouldn't be surprising that negative people tend to view positive encouragement as a negative thing

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