The ultimate fear

ShyBeliever

ShyBeliever

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What is the thing that most people are scared of? I think death is the obvious answer. But why is death that scary? Maybe death is something that is not that important at all. The legendary Alan Watts has something interesting to say about this matter:

Death - Alan Watts - YouTube
 
Section_31

Section_31

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i dunno, death does bother me but its not my ultimate fear....for me losing everyone i care about, and being alone in life, THAT scares me worse than dying....id rather be dead than al one.
 
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johan

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death doesn't scare me so much. i wish i was dead. The ultimate fear is not to be alone ether but that everyone will hate me and that is the main reason i am alive. i am scared of everyone will hate me if i kill my salf.
it's realy stupid i know.
 
Esperance

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Well, death is the end of everything and totally unknow. No matter how good is our science, we will never be able to "beat" the death and we will never know what happen when we are dead. This is what scared so many people I think same if this is not my ultimate fear
 
surewhynot

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johan said:
death doesn't scare me so much. i wish i was dead. The ultimate fear is not to be alone ether but that everyone will hate me and that is the main reason i am alive. i am scared of everyone will hate me if i kill my salf.
it's realy stupid i know.
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You wish you were dead? Excuse me for a second, but that's b***s*** right here. And that's not my opinion, that's fact. You could look at it in a million different ways, it makes no rational sense to desire death.

You eat everyday. That's proof of an urge to live.

You enjoy some aspects of life, for example, you enjoy spending time on the Internet, or else you wouldn't be here.

You keep living, because, even though you might be unhappy, you still believe in achieving a state of happiness in the future.

If you are dead, you will never achieve happiness.
However, if you are alive, it is atleast a possibility.

Stop, just stop. I keep hearing people who wish they were dead and what not. No, you don't. Survival instinct, we all have it, our being is programmed to avoid death, just like a computer, we will never escape that desire to strive on.

Okay okay, think about it this way:

How long will you live? Around 75 years probably.
How long are you going to be dead? For billions of years, no, for ETERNITY.

We're all going to be dead eventually, that's free. Death is free, it's easy, everyone gets it and no one ever loses it.

Life is precious, it goes away in an instant and never comes back. You have to hang on to it, or else you never see it again.

Snap out of it, and live a ******* life that's worth living.
 
Hellhound

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My ultimate fear is not being able to escape this situation, or things getting even worse. I fear escaping, but having the person I love change drastically and then me being unhappy and ending up commiting suicide.

I just can't believe in happy endings.
 
Section_31

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Because of depression some people cant "snap out of it". In fact thats one of the worst things you can say to someone suffering from depression....

Im not at all trying to pick a fight with you on here SWN, but honestly, the aggressive tone of your response if IRL would probably make the sufferer whos trying to open up clam right up and not want to talk to you about it....no offense at all intended. Just saying...ease up a bit.

Your right about survival instinct. But many of the time people who DO wish they were gone are simply scared to carry out their wish. Survival instinct yes, but it doesnt necesariy override the sadness some people carry which fuels these desires....so in that sense many will still wish for it.

Im not one of them, but i understand whats behind it. to an extent.
 
xDreamseller

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Death, I'm not afraid of. I am however afraid of the pain that will come before it. I feel like I have a heightened sense of pain, more so than other people. Call me a wimp of whatever, but I honestly feel like I feel pain stronger than the average person does.

I think my biggest fear would be losing my eyesight and hearing. Without that, I wouldn't see (lol...) any point in living. If I ever lose either of those, I'm killing myself right there and then. In the words of The Walking Dead, I'll "Opt out".
 
madmike

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I've always wondered why death scares people so much. I'm not in the least scared of it. I don't actively seek it out either (there was a time, but I like to think I'm past that now) but I'm not afraid of it. I mean, either there's another life afterwards or it's the end of everything. And if there's another life, I doubt it'll be all bad or all good. There'll always be challenges.
 
madmike

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Haha, sorry, the pretzel story is kind of funny despite the fact that it must have been pretty traumatic for you. I guess you're right though, we all have a certain fear of the unknown, even if it only kicks in in the last moment. I actually tried to kill myself by swallowing a load of pills once. Ended up throwing them all up. Still not entirely sure whether I made myself sick on purpose or whether it was all the alcohol I consumed with them. If it was the first, then I guess I was also scared...

Ruditchka said:
I had wicked nightmares all my life and the fear of waking up from one and being afraid to just fall back asleep and risk going back into it is pretty scary(the unseen evil-somethings in my dreams are the worst ones). I usually get up wash my face and wait at least 5 minutes to go back to sleep.

But worst also is the fear before you die and then how you just say to yourself, "this is it, I'm gone", but don't actually die. Its scary until you give in to it). Happened to me a few times, once in cub-scouts when a bigger kid was having fun dunking me in the pool and just as I gave up, someone stopped and pulled me out. Another was like 16 when me and a friend went to shoot his bb-gun behind his house a few hundred feet and I had a handful of pretzels to eat when he asked if I wanted a turn. I shoved them all in my mouth, chewed them up and tried to swallow the whole thing. It just stopped, dry in my throat and I couldn't breathe. I started running to his house for water but I was out of air still 100 feet from his house. All I thought was "this is it" because I knew I wouldn't make it, and just then I swallowed it somehow. The dying part is easy because ya usually pass out and that's just it(unless diff death) But it was fearful. Its different when you're not suicidal at the time!

unsecure heights I can't do. I'll get dizzy/vertigo and fall to my death!
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truffleshuffle

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Ruditchka said:
I had wicked nightmares all my life and the fear of waking up from one and being afraid to just fall back asleep and risk going back into it is pretty scary(the unseen evil-somethings in my dreams are the worst ones). I usually get up wash my face and wait at least 5 minutes to go back to sleep.

But worst also is the fear before you die and then how you just say to yourself, "this is it, I'm gone", but don't actually die. Its scary until you give in to it). Happened to me a few times, once in cub-scouts when a bigger kid was having fun dunking me in the pool and just as I gave up, someone stopped and pulled me out. Another was like 16 when me and a friend went to shoot his bb-gun behind his house a few hundred feet and I had a handful of pretzels to eat when he asked if I wanted a turn. I shoved them all in my mouth, chewed them up and tried to swallow the whole thing. It just stopped, dry in my throat and I couldn't breathe. I started running to his house for water but I was out of air still 100 feet from his house. All I thought was "this is it" because I knew I wouldn't make it, and just then I swallowed it somehow. The dying part is easy because ya usually pass out and that's just it(unless diff death) But it was fearful. Its different when you're not suicidal at the time!

unsecure heights I can't do. I'll get dizzy/vertigo and fall to my death!
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I too have horrible nightmars or just weird dreams. If I wake up I usualy can;t go back to sleep because of them. I have also had the ok this is it im gone stuff too. One time I was on my motorcycle hit a hole that I didn;t see. I flew over the handle bars and the bike did a flip over me. SOme how I made it with out any injuries.The bike flipped across the dirt road and just needed a few minor repairs.
 
xDreamseller

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My only near death experience is when I was younger, learning to swim. My parents had me at a depth I couldn't stand in and told me to swim from one to the other...I didn't make it, went underwater and don't remember anything between then and being out of the pool. Didn't need CPR or anything, I guess I just blanked it in my mind, so I wasn't scared or anything...I still can't swim though and hate water. (Even though I really wish I could like it...so I can do high dives)
 
truffleshuffle

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Ruditchka said:
haha.., I've had quite a few of the dirt bike crashes, and yes, exactly what I mean, for that second or so when you think you're not gonna walk away this time, its deff fearful/scary! Just got rid of my '05C R250 2-STROKE AND yAM YZF 400 4-STROKE after having it happen twice on the old railroad tracks/trails twice about 6months ago... Go riding alone, drive crazy, and didn't want to be found under my bike 3 days later!
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We had 4 bikes and a three wheeler Two of the bikes we got from a guy who raced motocross a 2 stroke 125 kyz and 250. Then when had a trail bike and a street legal honda. The honda was the one I crahsed. I also ran the three wheeler up a flight of stairs on the deck of the house because my clutch poped and it just took off.
 
jonas89

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no! death really doesn't bother me, but I fear more losing someone to it tho, that are dear to me
 
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aNOTfox

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I'm the same, my own death doesn't bother me, but the deaths of others does.
Suffering from OCD, I have a lot of irrational fears. I go out of my way to ensure that the plugs/oven/iron are switched off so there are no fires, and the doors are locked so no psychos can get in xD but this is always for the benefit of others living in the house, never my own safety. might sound silly but hey ho!
 
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Flanscho

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Death is scary because it's the ultimate end of my existence. When I'm dead, I will not be able to perceive anything anymore forever. I do not exist anymore. There will be no hope, no love, no happyness, no future, nothing, forever. That's not comprehensible to our minds, and not easy to bear.

There is a slim hope for everything in life. No partner? You might find one. Cancer? Maybe one of the new cures help. But death? There is no escape, no matter what you do. You will fade into nothingness, and that moment will come sooner than you think. Same as when you were a little kid, being an adult seemed eternities away, and now, all of a sudden, you are there. Death will come at the same speed, and then all is gone.
 
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jc972

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My ultimate fear is someone hurting my wife or kids. My own death ain't on my list of fears because the way I see it, that's when my problems will be over. :brindis:
 
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