The boredom that comes with being Socially Anxious. How do you deal?

Hey guys! I haven't been on here in like years! I decided I should come back to my roots and start posting again because I'm sort of stuck in a rut.

I'm an 18 year old girl completing her last year of high school and I'm BORED! I just don't know what to do to keep myself entertained! I do like going out quite a bit...I like going into the city. I feel like I have no SA around people I don't know. Because, I know I'll probably never see them again. However, my friends aren't always available to do this with me, and one of my bffs has SA and refuses. I understand...but I just end up sitting at home wasting away at the computer. It makes me feel even more useless that I've resorted to having my social life on the internet so I try to find something to do around the house. That ends up being watching tv. Not much better! You see, I'm filled with SA while walking around my town where everyone knows me...yet, when I step into the big, crowded, bustling city it all goes away and I feel great! Anyway, I need something to cure my boredom whilst waiting to go to the city. What do you guys do?

I'm exactly the same! I feel very comfortable in places where the likelihood of me seeing someone I know is very low, even when I'm alone. i.e. the city, in contrast to the suburbs I live in ><

You could always go somewhere alone. Maybe you could explore other places in your town that will probably not be filled with people you know? I do that a lot and it does kill time. I went to the other side of town just to watch movie on my own... and I loved it, I didn't see a single familiar face. Though you may have to travel for a longer period of time.

go to the city by yourself?

Well, one way that I chose to deal with it was to confront my anxiety and work at reducing it. While going to the city where things are more anonymous is part of a good solution, the other anxiety around people you know will continue to be there until you successfully deal with it. So, I would work at teaching yourself to relax and feel comfortable in more familiar situations, and then get ready for having fun in the city! Taking risks and breaking out of your comfort zone is scary and fun all at the same time, so I would recommend working at that to some level each day while you're at home!

flakeybark said:

No it's not

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Well, for some its not, but it is up to you to work on things and change your life. While taking risks is hard, it is necessary in order to move forward in life. Living a life all cooped up at home alone in fear is far more miserable than getting out there and taking risks (in the long run). I hope you are able to some day get out there and do what you need to do to be happy!