Talking with my boyfriend about bullying

jellzzz

Well-known member
Hey people,

I have been bullied for 9 years, and it had a very big effect on who I am today. I suffer from social anxiety and depression and my life isn't what i want it to be. I feel terrible and worthless most of the time and I am stuck at home a lot. It took me a lot of years to find out that some of my depression and fear for other people are there because of the bullying. It took me some time to accept that because I didn't give myself the right to say: "I was bullied". Mostly because I saw buying as a physical thing. some people used to kick me, but that was it, it was more emotionaly and verbal. I didn't wanna sound like a pushover, so I didn't talk about it, but after al this years it really hurt me.

now is the thing that I wanna talk to my boyfriend about this. He is a really sweet guy, but there is a little obstecal. He has been through a lot in his live. He has been abused by is father for years. Sometimes, when he was a child, he only got food once in three days. When he was seven, he and his mother run away from his father. But his mother couldn't take care of him because of mental illness, so he ended up at his grandfathers house. He had some good times there, but when his grandfather died he was send to foster-parents who where just as bad as his father in some way. He never really had a home, but in the end, he turned out great. I admire his strength so much. But I feel so weak at the same time. He has gone through so much and turned out fine, and I can't even graduate from highschool because of my problems. It makes me feel really worthless. I want to talk to him about this but I don't really know how. Compared to him, my problems just seem so small. Any advice?
 
Hi Jellzz,

I suggest that you do talk with your boyfriend about it. You guys should try to go to therapy to talk with a professional about techniques that can help you cope with the troubles. Also there are different groups that can help you both deal with bullying. The organization that I am apart of is Bully Bear. If you would like to have us help you with anything just contact me at [email protected] and I will put you in contact with the director of the organization.
 
Top