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Anyone else out there have issues with taking things too personally?

What I mean by this is that when someone disagrees or doesn't understand your side of something, you feel almost hurt by it. I noticed this a lot with myself. I will be able to socialize well (especially online) but the second someone doesn't like what I think or my opinion on something, I get angry or just really upset.
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i believe i don't get angry or upset if someone doesn't agree but if they're not liking like rude about it then i would, hope that helps
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A little, but it mostly describes my mother.

I'm pretty good at seeing things from other people's points of view, but my mom really can't do it at all. If your opinion is different from hers, you're just wrong and she'll get pretty defensive about it pretty fast.

I don't know why it is, maybe being raised with 3 brothers made her super competitive in that way or something.

Do you have brothers, or other siblings you constantly had to contend with to be heard?
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A little, but it mostly describes my mother.

I'm pretty good at seeing things from other people's points of view, but my mom really can't do it at all. If your opinion is different from hers, you're just wrong and she'll get pretty defensive about it pretty fast.
Same here. Though, for me, that describes both my mother and older sister. More so my older sister.
She is incapable of empathy towards others.
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I take things too personally like for inference if I talk to someone online and it seems like we getting along well. Then suddenly they don't talk to me ever again I take that personally. Also when someone says something I disagree with but I don't say it to them I take that personally.

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I certainly have taken things to seriously, Lilly. I used to dwell on disagreements for weeks and months and even years. They would stop me sleeping. Sometimes I would see criticism in what others said even thought they were not being critical. My mind was in a very bad place, and it caused great problems for me.

Right now I am better at letting things go, but I often look back with regret.
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I feel as though I choose my words fairly selectively so they convey meaning.
I want to get my communications and meanings across clearly so the other person knows what I'm talking about and where I'm coming from - usually in response to their communications.

I get quite... I don't know if 'offended' is the right word here but I'll use it, along with internally upset when people don't actually listen to what I mean. I take the time to speak with consideration for theirs, yet I feel no one else does.

On the other hand I know I've misinterpreted others meanings at times(though it's not through not listening and considering). So while I try not to judge, I find myself still getting a bit p i s s e d off when people don't really get my meaning.

My usual conclusions about society is generally those people are either not intellectual, distracted (short attention span), or inconsiderate.

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PugofCrydee i hope you're not talking about me, sorry if i offended you
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PugofCrydee i hope you're not talking about me, sorry if i offended you

I was talking about people in general jinxed, not anyone in particular. You haven't offended me... yet
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I have anxiety and I also experience those moments. I hate myself after when I start to think how ridiculous it is!
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I have anxiety and I also experience those moments. I hate myself after when I start to think how ridiculous it is!
this yes me also..
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Yeah I can feel hurt by it. I do understand that not everyone is going to be on my side of the fence with things and that we all have different values. But I think its sometimes that are around people that dont share the same values as us that can make it a little hurtful too. Its like you realise that those people dont hold the same opinions and understandings and so dont relate with you. It makes you feel excluded to some degree.

I would take things personally not too long ago and Im still sensitive to it, when people say so and so is pretty/ compliments on appearance of others in front of me. It would just knock me about because Id had such a long time away from people that my identity and my self-esteem didn't know where it sat in the social scheme of things. I feel it meant I was not worthy at all as a female in the looks department as Id be ignored in that way.

Funny enough, because Ive thought that way- it sort of comes to you what you fear. Its quite strange.

But Ive learnt alot through my time with the ultimate rugs my ex- that dont give all your energy away to people with different opinions and values on things. You can listen and understand a person's point of view and you can also hold on to what is true to you. You don't need someone else's validation of your own values and opinions when you know your right. That way, you keep your boundaries and emotions respected.
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