Sounds stupid (any advice?)

HexNoir

HexNoir

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It might sound stupid, but on the topic of shyness and SA, does anybody else bottle their emotions up? Sometimes it takes a good explosion for me to be my old self again after a while of bottling everything up. After exploding comes sincere apology of course, but I'm almost thankful that my family is full of people willing to push me over the edge... it's almost therapeutic in an odd way since nobody does any severe harm to the other and we get over it afterward.

I want to be able to let a normal amount of emotion out into my everyday life. Fuck shyness and S/A for now, this is my real problem. Anybody have any tips for me? It's literally killing me!!

Thanks in advance.
 
EveM

EveM

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It doesn't sound stupid, I think it's quite normal. I think I bottle my emotions up too. Sorry I don't have any tips for you but hopefully someone else does :)
 
HexNoir

HexNoir

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Wow. I took some risks and just decided to let my true self show. And honestly... it feels great!

I always knew shyness was just an internal problem with the self, but I think I'm beginning to understand even more about it... and I never knew how deep this could go. If shyness is just perception, all we really have to do is let ourselves flow, on a mental and even emotional level... or else it's easy to get clogged up. The pressure can build and create a ton of negativity... that's why there has to be some sort of outlet. Otherwise, you get the product of anxiety (or so it seems). So I guess honesty in emotion plays a pretty big role in healing, or at least it did for me.

Now I feel like an element of positivity is emanating from me, due to the fact that I let it out. I wanna keep practicing this attitude - I hope some others can benefit from my mistakes and hopefully give this a try too. Trust me, it feels great.
 
Atlantis

Atlantis

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I think I now how you feel. Sometimes I have moments of insight and I feel like if everything was possible.... I mean, I feel my shyness going way, and I feel courage to do what I want to but my shyness kept me from doing. But usually this condition doesn't lasts much.

Sometimes I try to let out my emotions, but I don't know how to start. It is difficult to know if I am just afraid of showing my true self or if I don't even know what my true self is anymore. Sometimes I get so confused that I don't even know what I fear anymore. When you know what you fear it is easier because then you at least know what your repressed emotions are, sometimes I don't even know what is repressed anymore.
 
socialhelp

socialhelp

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Vulvectomy said:
Wow. I took some risks and just decided to let my true self show. And honestly... it feels great!

I always knew shyness was just an internal problem with the self, but I think I'm beginning to understand even more about it... and I never knew how deep this could go. If shyness is just perception, all we really have to do is let ourselves flow, on a mental and even emotional level... or else it's easy to get clogged up. The pressure can build and create a ton of negativity... that's why there has to be some sort of outlet. Otherwise, you get the product of anxiety (or so it seems). So I guess honesty in emotion plays a pretty big role in healing, or at least it did for me.

Now I feel like an element of positivity is emanating from me, due to the fact that I let it out. I wanna keep practicing this attitude - I hope some others can benefit from my mistakes and hopefully give this a try too.
Trust me, it feels great.
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Hi. I always wondered why the more I tried to push myself the more I failed. I read a book that helped me understand for the first time in my life a life-changing realization. The way that I was thinking about myself actually kept me shy. The book is called Don't Call Me Shy by Laurie Adelman and in it I learned how to change my thoughts and now I am much more comfortable reaching out to others and I appreciate myself for what I can do. It is amazing to me how my beliefs about myself held me back. This book is the best that I've read on shyness because it helps you understand yourself. The book is written for parents of shy kids and for shy adults who can learn how to change their thoughts so that you can change your behavior.
 
sidney

sidney

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i do that aswell, for problems like what we have i think its normal lol
maybe if ur around the right person then cry if u need to dont held it back and punching a pillow might help
i cnt do things like that tho so i know how hard it can be i just cry every night like i have been doing for the past 3 years, honestly, nearly every night thats no joke :(
 
recluse

recluse

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I bottle my emotions up. I actually love having a good cry becasue it really relaxes me, but i can't..I feel numb.
 
Allan

Allan

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I bottle myself up too. It used to come out after becoming extremely frustrated, I would go totally berserk for about 5 minutes, then feel totally drained. Last time that happened, I passed out spread-eagled on the floor from pure exhaustion. My teenage body must've been considerably less used to that.

Now, I still bottle up how I feel, but I can't release it, for some odd reason. Stupid school-sanctioned anger managment course...
 
HexNoir

HexNoir

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Wow. I'm only on day 5 and I've improved a ton.

So far I've learned how to decrease anxiety by about 90%, actually feel good about myself for once (and really good at that), and best of all, I didn't pay anybody for any of it!

I don't think anything's ever lasted this long for me. I might have found a real, live cure for this disease after all!
 
Atlantis

Atlantis

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Vulvectomy said:
Wow. I'm only on day 5 and I've improved a ton.

So far I've learned how to decrease anxiety by about 90%, actually feel good about myself for once (and really good at that), and best of all, I didn't pay anybody for any of it!

I don't think anything's ever lasted this long for me. I might have found a real, live cure for this disease after all!
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What do you mean... when you "explode" your shyness go away ?
 
HexNoir

HexNoir

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Like when you get really angry and tell somebody exactly how you feel.Or get so sad inside that you can't keep from crying. It's kind of like how the more you bottle emotions up, the worse it's going to be when the lid comes flying off.
 
Psychedelicious

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I do this alot, and because I don't feel that I know how to properly show emotion or emotional responses to a lot of things I often don't show it at all, and it gets bottled up. Then after awhile I can't take it anymore and get really upset and angry and I can do really stupid things while like this. It's also REALLY hard for me to cry, even if I want to I usually just can't seem to it. So I kind of get really agry most of the time, and can throw things or hit things, etc without realizing the consequences. Not good.
 
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