Son of a .... can't listen to music without... :'(

Listening to music is one of the few remaining things I do to keep myself somewhat uplifted and busy.

Well lately, whenever I listen to any music that deals with anything related to being with a girl, or having a wife and/or girlfriend (pretty much all music), for example, Cat's Cradle, I become very depressed and saddened when I hear it and I have to stop listening because it reminds me of the fact I am single, and a virgin, and have never been with another girl and how it is going to remain that way for the rest of my life.

It gets me thinking about that. And it hurts. It's driving me insane. Listening to music as I said is one of the few remaining things I do to keep myself occupied...

Playing video games became boring and surfing the web is also starting to become dull.... I don't know what to do

Can anybody relate to this or am I the only one?

oh mate, I've been going through something like this recently....it's really scary...I've just about been able to keep my head above water but I mean, music for me has always been massive in my life, but recently I just seem to have stopped enjoying it...its so weird, but it's like it reminds me of something....I'm not sure exactly what, but something bad....I think it's this meaninglessness of life thing I've been struggling with....whenever I listen to music it all sounds so pointless and empty.....but it's not just music....films aswell, and all kinds of other things I used to enjoy....thankfully I've been enjoying reading books lately, but I mean I'm getting a bit panicky these day's cause I don't know what to do with my free time...I just keep working cause like, yesterday I missed the train and had to wait half an hour on my own at a train station and I actually started to freak out cause I was scared to be alone with my thoughts.

but I'm not sure what the solution is....hopefully things will get better gradually with time....or maybe we should just take a break from listening to music for a bit.....or maybe [this is probably a personal solution] we should be more grateful for the few pleasures we have.....cause there's this quote I love by G K Chesterton "meaninglessness does not come from being weary of pain, meaninglessness comes from being weary of pleasure"....so I've been uncluttering my life recently...and trying to be more grateful for the things I have....not sure it's totally working tho!!! :?

Wish I could do something to make you feel better. Sounds like you are having quite a tough time. It's not much, but I will at least recommend you some of the music I enjoy that do not have partnership, love or sex as the main issue. So, have you tried Pink Floyd? (The Wall is a pretty intense album, Wish You Were Here is beautiful as well, but I would reccomend you especially Dark Side Of The Moon to start with. It's most definitely not about girls. Then, what about some more instrumental music? I love blues (B.B. King, Stevie Ray Waughn, just about anything), reggae (Bob Marley - well sometimes he sings about women, but not all the time. not at all all the time) and also some classical music (Bach, Mozart, Beethoven). There's much more (Oasis. Nirvana. Alanis Morissette. GunsN'Roses. AC/DC. Culture Club.). You only have to choose.


Another thing: it doesn't have to be music or videogames. Right now, what keeps me sane, active and happy, is exercise. It sounds like a big deal, but hey! Just try it. It's also an excuse to go out, and it's really good for your health. If it's a problem for you to be seen on public, do what I do - get up early in the morning, while there aren't all that many people on the streets and go take your jog. You would be surprised about how good it feels. It doesn't have to be much. I usually stay at it for an hour or so - but I do not run all the time (my physical condition is very poor as it is, however I am sure it is going to improve), it's more of a walk. But it still works so good.


And you know what else, sweetheart? Stop, just STOP thinking this way, please. It's destructive and stupid. You know what I am talking about? "I am single, and a virgin, and have never been with another girl and it is going remain that way for the rest of my life." EndOfLife? Why did you choose such a nick? This is not the end of life. By far. Are you going to be a virgin and single for the rest of your life? And WHY the hell? Does anyone/anything prevent you from having relationships? You, YOU are responsible for your own life. It is going to be what you make it. If you want to live "the end of life", okay. Do it. But it's always you who chooses.

Sorry. I am militant these days. Feel free to PM me. Maybe I'll shout at you, but I most definitely will be there for you.

Cheers. Lift yourself up. You don't have to be unhappy. And you don't deserve to.

Thanks for the music suggestions... I have only heard one Pink Floyd album, Dark side of the moon. I hated it. I labeled it as droning and psychedelic, and people have told me I am wrong on that account, well whatever. They said some of pink floyds earlier albums were "psychedelic", but not DSOTM. Well if people really think that, then I shudder thinking about how their earlier albums are.

I might check out some of your other suggestions. Right now I mainly listen to Tool (favorite albums are Ænima, Lateralus & 10000 days), System of a down, rush, rage against the machines, etc...

Now based on this, what other music do you think I would like?

... Ever tried 30 seconds to mars (lots of screaming) , hoobastank (their earlier cds), linkin park (meteora), fort minor, nine inch nails, breaking benjamin... it's a lot more mainstream...but then again you might like it?...

So, if you like System Of A Down and Rush, you might also like The Wall by Floyd (okay, should I shut up by now? :wink: ). Really, Floyd is real good and The Wall is an album to which I think many SAers can relate. And, what else.. what about some Nirvana? The Clash? Um, Radiohead? Hole? And Chili Peppers are always good, too. Green Day. Or Joan Jett, maybe.

I am in the same boat and then I watch Scot Baio and think, "life fucking sucks."

Listen to this song. It always makes me feel better. Judas Priest Heading out to the highway

http://youtube.com/watch?v=JC-ZmU29hg8

Wow Thelema, I can't stop listening to that song 8)

Tryin said:

Wow Thelema, I can't stop listening to that song 8)

Click to expand...

Thank you. I really love that song. You wanna listen to another? From the same concert You Got Another Thing Comin http://youtube.com/watch?v=2RRoCkncvYo

Thelema said:

Tryin said:

Wow Thelema, I can't stop listening to that song 8)

Click to expand...

Thank you. I really love that song. You wanna listen to another? From the same concert You Got Another Thing Comin http://youtube.com/watch?v=2RRoCkncvYo

Click to expand...

Thanks, they are so great, I am really starting to like them. (Btw, who's the band on your picture?)

Tryin said:

Thelema said:

Tryin said:

Wow Thelema, I can't stop listening to that song 8)

Click to expand...

Thank you. I really love that song. You wanna listen to another? From the same concert You Got Another Thing Comin http://youtube.com/watch?v=2RRoCkncvYo

Click to expand...

Thanks, they are so great, I am really starting to like them. (Btw, who's the band on your picture?)

Click to expand...

Thats a picture of Judas Priest in my signature.

I'm glad you like them here's another good song. It sounds great live, but I couldn't find a video of it in concert
http://youtube.com/watch?v=ki3TpFZY7cU

endoflife said:

Can anybody relate to this or am I the only one?

Click to expand...

Damn homie I feel your pain bro, me lovin' a girl I don't have and hearin' music normally makes it worse. That's why I don't listen to love music anymore, I just listen to brutal murder music. Try turning your sadness to rage instead. It's what I do.

Yes, I'm the same way. Certain songs remind me of certain people who I could've had but didn't go after or had at one time and I become extremely effected.