Something that might get you started on your way of improving...

mart22n

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Hi everyone! What a nice sunny warm day we have here in Eastern Europe :D

I know it's not healthy to browse these forums as they're filled with negativity. Anyway, thought I'd share my good experiences that happened today.

I went to town with a few buddies and we did some pick-up (i.e. talking to women in hope to get new contacts/relationships). I haven't been doing this for about a year, and what a refreshing 2.5 hours that was!

Just saw a pretty girl, nudged my buddy and said, "Hey, should I go talk to her?" He said "Yeah, do it!". So I went, despite ALL MY SOCIAL ANXIETY and other BS I believe(-ed) I may have and just said to her "Hi! Your white sweater looks so nice! Makes my day lighter as well!", smiled and went my way.

Hey, it's not half as hard as it seems. The only thing you have to do is act before thinking, and I believe this applies especially to people with social anxiety, and in all situations regarding dealing with people.

For example, I'm planning to do what my friend has done: go to the McDonald's in our old town or other such place and sing in front of all the people (being sober of course). Just to get a good feeling from where I can proceed with some nice pick-up.

To sum it up: people, do the things that scare you (positive things of course), don't think too much before, and you'll have a much better control over your life gradually. If I with my social phobia can do these things, you can, too. It won't harm to be a man of action instead of being a man who achieves nothing by trying nothing.

Have a beatiful day/night!
 

hoddesdon

Well-known member
Thanks for posting this. I agree that the negativity is counter-productive. It is a pity you did not get any replies.
 

Confuseddd

Well-known member
It takes a certain type of person to just do what you did though.
SA is tough, tough people can beat it :) I said on here once before that SA brings out your character (the subconcious character) like determination, heart etc.. It also shows a lack there of as well.
Good job to you man
 
Congrats dude, very nice move. I've done those confidence building things as well, but that's already quite some time ago.

Once I ordered salami pizza at MC Donalds in front of a very long queue. And when they told me that they had no salami pizza I asked since when and told that I was sure they had it some time ago. Another time a went to a grocery store, took one of the big shopping trolleys and put just one package of condoms in it. Then I went to the cassier and paid. That gave me lots of strange looks, but I felt great afterwards.

Keep the good work going,

Regards
Seeker:cool:
 
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