Some people just don't understand

I'm really having a hard time with my teacher. I explained to her on numerous occassion that I suffer from social anxiety, yet she thinks I need to be more out going and open to others. She claims that she understand my condition, but her words and action prove otherwise. I hate when people say they understand your problem, in reality they don't. I'm socially retarded, when nervous I speak and act weird. Then afterward the conversation, people will blankly stare at you and say the dreaded word "oookkk" I hate being social with others, I always end up embarrasing myself.

I feel the same like you chickenmaryjane. Other people think we're just overreacting. They say they understand us, yeah right, they don't understand anything.
You could try to to talk with a counselor but it won't do much/anything to their behaviour. Or you must be lucky ..

MaryJane, how about if you just tell her trust has to be earnt? And if maybe she can provide some structured exercises in class (if you're comfortable with those). Some of us can be more comfortable talking in class when it's required than in breaks or such when you are 'on your own'.. Only do this if you're really more comfortable with it.
Otherwise, how about if you say 'my Daddy was a loner too'? or such? (If he was-?)
My Mum shushed our sports teacher by saying she was bad at sports too hmm..?

Or you might find a good article or book and give it to her?

It may be the people/teachers want to do good but don't know how to go about it. Sometimes teachers can overstep boundaries too, a girl told me her teacher wanted her to go meet her real dad and it was trouble for all involved, the dad didn't want to have much to do with her etc. Sometimes teachers just don't know better. Can your parents talk to her if she's making you feel uncomfortable?

I think some people are just naturally shy and forcing someone to not be isn't helpful. It's better to structure class so that kids can get to know each other, for example in languages or such, this is possible. It depends hugely on the teacher and her personality too..