Socialphobiaworld dating ads

This isn't a complaining thread, but i'm kinda amused how most of the ads for this site (when my ad-blocker is disabled) seem to be asian dating.

I dunno about anybody else on here, but for one, my SA puts me "LIGHT-YEARS AWAY" from even ENTERTAINING the idea of dating, whether it be online or even worse in the real world. But maybe my self-esteem/neuroticism/SA/etc is worse than most on here?

Anybody taken a look at those advertised sites??

I'm in the same boat as yourself, really. After my last break-up four years ago, I haven't had a single notion as to putting myself through that misery again.

But even if you haven't heard it, the vast majority of dating-sites out there pay people to produce fake member-profiles to boost their 'user-base'. Even if you do choose to pay for the 'premium' service, you'll quickly realize that the available choices on there are rather slim.

As for the 'foreign' dating services, there's really no point to them. Even if you can find someone to fall in love with, the problems then become finding the time and monies necessary to bring them over to your own country.

However, if you're that hard up for sharing your emotional-self, then you could probably check out that E-Harmony thing. Quite a few people I know have found (some amounts of) success with it, and considering that they pride themselves on finding compatible mates based on 'science', then they might even find pairings of social-phobes on a regular basis.

Never hurts to try, of course, and once you've gotten your courage up to initially put yourself out there, then it'll become easier every successive attempt.

Might as well go for it. Worst-case scenario, you get your heart broken... but even that is at least a distraction from everything else that's going on, right?

theslowesthand said:

This isn't a complaining thread, but i'm kinda amused how most of the ads for this site (when my ad-blocker is disabled) seem to be asian dating.

I dunno about anybody else on here, but for one, my SA puts me "LIGHT-YEARS AWAY" from even ENTERTAINING the idea of dating, whether it be online or even worse in the real world. But maybe my self-esteem/neuroticism/SA/etc is worse than most on here?

Anybody taken a look at those advertised sites??

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Don't go with that "dating" mentality. That works for straight-laced, mainstream people. Very few of us here are like that.

You can "hang out" with someone of the opposite sex, right? That's where you start. Don't exclude yourself from this altogether, unless you are absolutely certain you don't mind loneliness.

Bronson99 said:

Don't go with that "dating" mentality. That works for straight-laced, mainstream people. Very few of us here are like that

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That's the point i was making, that for a site where most people have severe SA, i do find it "curious" to feature such an abundance of "common" dating-type ads, in preference to ads about say pschologists, general health, HH devices, natural herbs for depression, etc.

It's true that socialphobiaworld needs to make money somehow, to pay for its hosting, etc. But i dislike seeing all these dating ads, as they show things that i have an issue with, & which i might always have issues with ... i am simply reminded of what i don't & never will have (a kind of "tease" in a way). Also i don't like "common" stuff (things which "normal" people are into). So i usually have my adblocker on for spw, so that i dont see those "ghastly" common-place dating ads, as they are so annoying when i'm trying to read posts on here!

About dating itself, well as always, i am in a kinda of perpetual "holding pattern", like a plane always circling, but never landing (or attempting to land). I seem completely unable/unwilling to try anything out of the ordinary, to take any risk at all. But that's my life, i'm used to living a "boring" life devoid of almost all social contact. And at times i am aware of how dull/tedious/stale/empty my life is, and maybe even on occasion i have the odd whisper of desire for a partner, but due to long-standing habits i am unable to break out of my "hermit lifestyle". In theory i maybe could handle spending some time with the opposite sex, but in practise it never happens, for a number of reasons, both practical & psychological. And that's not something i feel sad about at all, as the saying goes "you don't miss what you don't know".

Well, they're better than the ads for Scientology-fronts like we used to have.

I've got Adblock now, so it's neither here nor there, but those used to really bother me. Really predatory stuff.

The ads are based on your own browsing habits-- it has nothing to do with SPW. Everyone sees something different.

I would imagine it's connected to the psychological profile that google is building on you right at this very moment, and using in order to market products (or politicians) to you.

So the real question is-- what were you looking at online to end up with Asian dating ads?:bigsmile:

^Yeah because I keep getting ads from Planet Fitness. Man I need to get in shape....

That makes sense, I used to spend a lot of time on the Anti-Scientology site "Operation Clambake" and Googling COS scandals.

Oh they are the worst! They're all hyper-sexualized and obnoxious. I'm no prude, but it gets pretty old pretty quickly. Well, that's not entirely true, I am a bit of a prude, but that's not the point. XD

They always remind me of the fact that I feel pretty damn lonely. I don't really see them around here through...maybe I did something with the "google ad preferences" for this site or something...eh...I don't know.

Some of the ads online here are catered to this site, and the threads that posted here about dating, and those advertisers who pay to be sponsored. I always close the dating sites as irrelevant, but they keep popping up here and on facebook.