Social phobias-mental problem(health)-eye fear-eye contact

I'm from China,Male, born in 1983.
I dodn't know what happened to me.
From the year of 2002, I'v suffered from the mental problem--social phobias-eye light fear-eye fear-fears of eye-eye contact,or which is called eyelight phobias.I can not call it exactly in English.
Then I can't control my eyelight. Befor other people, I always stare at boys or girls or cops or other men,,or glance men or women' eyes ,skin,even sometimes bosoms , organs, or glance other things(every things you can imagine) ,which indeedly I didn't want to watch.
No friends,No people understand me.

Please touch me immediately if you have the same symptom: Email: [email protected] MSN: [email protected] ICQ: 169096437

I want to find the frinds like me that come from all over the word.

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Okay, this is a pretty common one: you are not quite sure you are capable of following the "rules" concerning length of eye contact or manner of eye contact. You are afraid that by looking into your eyes, people will draw negative observations about you and will condemn, reject or otherwise treat you cruelly. I don't personally have this problem, but sympathise with those who do. Good luck with your recovery.

Thanks for your reply.
I came into contact with somebody like me on net in China.
And I saw part of them. I found their symptoms were milder than that of mine. I can not control my sight every where at any time even at home with my parents.

When I walking on road,I saw so many people looked angerly at me.Do you know why?Because of my neurosis(or called phobias)--Eye Fear.
I didn't want to look others or to glance other including still things side away,but I can't control my eye(or said my mind exactly). Some times(for example:in a bus) cop or others may suspect me as a thief.So no people understand me.
Is any people like me?Touch me immediately.I'm so lonely.
No friend.Just pain with me.

I am not optimistic about my recover(Because somebody said they've seen the doctors but no use.)
What I want to do is to gather the people like me in this world to talk or face to face to communicate .I think we'll understand each other.

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A Chinese Boy's Story about Social Phobias of Eye Fear
Gao Weiliang
Let me talk about my story(forgive my poor English).
All of this has been happened in my high school. There was a girl classmate sitting before me.
One day,Ididn't know why(even now I dodn't know why.Maybe there was some conflict between her and her boyfriend) ,she looked at me, stared at me.I knew I was not so handsome,even I thought I was a little ugly.
She's a pretty nice girl.She didn't suffer from social phobias(eye fear).I knew it,and I knew ,she has not really loved me.Alas,maybe it was my error.I fell in love with her secretly.She was so beautiful that most boy students of our class might admired her,more or less.
I did not speak lots to her, till now .I wrote to tell her do not care for me if she has not loved me. But in fact,when she got along other boys I could not helped expressing my sadness.Then she looked at me again and again,and smiled in a friendly way.
I wrote against my will once more to tell her that not be care for me,not to looke at me again,but she did not do so when she saw my sadness.Maybe,maybe she shew sympathy for me.I didn't speak lots to her.
Another one day, we were attending a lecture,so strange,my eye always paid attention to her,I always felt she was in front of me.Even I could not stop noticing that, so as long in a conducting class.This was the first time I felt my Eye-Fear symptom.Passably ,at that time every thing could return to being right after class.
But her profile always reminded me to look, reminded me to note that--the terror of Social Phobias Eye-Fear.Afterwards I gradually paid attention to all studends in class;to all people on road;even to my parents at home;and now to still things (every thins you can imagine).
I finished my high school and strarted higher education in 2002.
It is terrible mental problem (illness). I don't how I passed my college life.Went to sleep when I attending class or skipped the class in order to avoid disturbing others.And other students were also asleep to avoid my eyelights.It was an extremity of pain ,an untold suffering .
No friend.I've seldomly went out.I'v been scare talking with a person,been fear of going a place where person stand,because of the Eye Fear(the mental problem).I can't control my eye.
I was graduated from college in 2005.
[To be continued,forgive my poor English.Contact me if you were similar to me--Email:[email protected] MSN: [email protected] MSN Spaces: http://spaces.msn.com/oddlight/ ICQ:169096437]

I know how this feels also

I have this problem to an extent also, i kind of overcompensate a bit.Sometimes i make eye contact for too long and worry the other person will feel uncomfortable.I guess its like this if you arent focusing on what they are saying.But i can really understand how your feeling.

But I think to you, it is normal life,to me,it is illness.
I cant't control my eye to look people or other things. I always glance sideaway before others.Or to look other's body impolitely.
I'm so scared communicating with others.

China, huh. I'm supprised they have the internet there.

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You live in China now gaogwl? Have you ever sought out a therapist to help you with this?

TO:Clash
China's development is remarkable, furthermore I'm living in a rural village.
Most city family of China own computers. I'm in the East of P.R.China (Why I use the word "P.R.China"? Because Taiwan ,which is not controlled by central goverment ,called China itself too at present),where is along the coast , more flourishing than other area.
But we can not deny there's some area of which children can not go to school for being short of money,even the people always suffer from starvation.
http://english.gov.cn/2006-02/08/content_182571.htm

To Rko74:
I'm living in China.I didn't see the doctor. I'v got in touch with few Chinese like me on net.They said although medical (mental recover) expenses is large, doctor can not help them at all. So I said I am not optimistic about my recover ,but just want to communicate with people similar to me. My illness's very serious. I'll talk something about my phobias hereafter. Thank you for your care.

Clash said:

China, huh. I'm supprised they have the internet there.

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I'm surprised you didn't know we had internet here.
Of course,in Chinese mainland (P.R.China),because blockade of the government, sometimes we can not browse some pages which are against Communist Party of China

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Just curious, what compels you to stare? What are you thinking when you notice yourself doing it.

gaogwl said:

Of course,in Chinese mainland (P.R.China),because blockade of the government, sometimes we can not browse some pages which are against Communist Party of China

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wow 8O this reminded me the novel 1984, the Ministry of Truth and stuff.

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A Chinese Boy's Story about Social Phobias of Eye Fear (2)
Gao Weiliang
Did you try?We gaze something,and our mind might notice other thing.Our eyeballs may not roll,but the lights can't stop noticing the things by the side.You can not control it on purpose untill other affairs take the place of your mind. When it becomes illness,it becomes terrible devil.
It is some like obsession. The more you want to control yourself,the more you can't hold.
At first we may be sensitive to somebody's eye.Subsequently may to the opposite sex,to the same sex,to someone's body,even to other things such as tree,cup,anyhow every thing you touched.
Some times I walking in a street,if there's a girl before me,I might lower my head to avoid her profile. Else looking her impolitely. some girls might call me hooligan.This injured a my pride.You know,I had not wanted to look her,I've suffered from the eye phobias.Who know!Who know! So sad.
In fact,not before girl or woman, but in front of every humen I have this symptom.No one talk to me,no one make friend with me.Inversely they may cough purposely,spit deliberately,even abuse in a low voice.
Some times I was in a bus,the police or passengers might consider me as a thief.
My heaven,I'm not hooligan,I'm not thief,I'm not, I want to tell world people I'm not!
[To be continued,forgive my poor English.Contact me if you were similar to me--Email: [email protected] MSN: [email protected] MSN Spaces: http://spaces.msn.com/oddlight/ ICQ:169096437]

dzerklis said:

wow 8O this reminded me the novel 1984, the Ministry of Truth and stuff.

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What novel1984? But now the democracy of China is more developed than that before 20th - century.
Now we can learn some information that ministry didn't want you to learn in the way of net or radio .And we can comment on it on some medias like internet.
The most free regions in China is HongKong Macao and Taiwan.

Talk about me before the opposite sex

Zipper said in other column about secretaries complain about he looking thier boobs.
I'm Chinese, I saw the word boobs used here first time,but I could still guess it's meaning. My English is so poor,part sentences posted by net frieds I couldn't understant, just be felt. :wink:
Boobs, some like a woman terrorist gets two boobs rushing into White House. :wink: :lol: I'm sorry,I'm Chinese.Now I know it's meaning boobs.

Sometimes girls in red or sexy dressing are more easy catch my eyes. Also their bosom or arse( I spell right? or bottom or rump ). They are like magnet to catch my iron eyes. Not only girls or women, every person including men before me could mades me unease,mades my eyes be not certain . I can not look at one thing straight. I said ,it's my illness.

To me ,it's more painful than Zipper. I'm not a normal person.I think I'll just live as this in my rest of my life. Being always misunderstood,I'll always be looking for some one understand me,make friend with me,I'm alone.

Today a women came to our factory. She stood before me. Her face turned red angrily when I looking her. Because of my job,I couldn't avoid her profile.It really hurted me.
My eyesights are different from others.
She looked down at the earth, or looked me with a ferocious eyes.

I've been always searching for the people like me ,as the webmaster said ,but I always failed. Who is the similar to me.

A Chinese Boy's Story about Social Phobias of Eye Fear (3)

Welcome every body to embellish my article .Transshipment of these words to other web pages is allowed if original intention or purpose not be wholly changed. A Chinese Boy's Story about Social Phobias of Eye Fear (3)
Gao Weiliang
Most Chinese will live with their parents even after their marriages. We call it Chinese style.I think there are two reasons included: First:the traditional culture of china.People think it is morality for children if they support their parents (or even ground parents) whom are aged. And the second reason is :no money to buy a new house.
But you know,when you live in your parents' home,you should get along with them,get along with relatives (chinese value the relative relation very much),get along with your neighbors,etc.Sometimes the villager around my house will asked in reply in a low anger sarcasming tone: Who look you? Sometimes they might do other things that hurted my hart like mocking. I was misunderstood.I have not wanted to do so.
It is more painful to be misunderstood by the people recognize you than by a stranger.I dod't know whether you could realize it. I'm so desired to live in a place far away them.But I have no money.
I began to look for a job when I was gratuating.No company wanted me.Then I studied network of page making technique independently.Now I can make home pages. Nevertheless,no company wanted me. Ultimately a small firm called me to operate the computer with a low wages.I have no choice though I have my ambition, still now.About RMB1000 per month makes me badly off.I think people living in US or other developed country can't imagine a person could live with one hundred USDollars a month.When it adds my mental problem eye phobias,I almost want death.
Thanks to my parents.It's only them could forgive my behaver.
[To be continued,forgive my poor English.Contact me if you were similar to me--Email: [email protected] MSN: [email protected] MSN Spaces: http://spaces.msn.com/oddlight/ ICQ:169096437]

I am not just fear of eye contact,but mental disease. When you notce your breath on purpose,you'll feel choking sensation in your chest.It is some like obsession.
Also in China there are many forums like this, and which are Chinese forums.And also I wrote much about it on these webs.
I've never gone any English country,so my English is poor. Yeah,but I could express my mind,so good.
I think my English will be better.




And liking some net friends,I'm desired to find the likes from the world in this forum.

hi every body,
please recommend the people similar to me to come here if you see them.
I think we'll be not alone if we have the likes getting along.

Welcome every body to embellish my article .Transshipment of these words to other web pages is allowed if original intention or purpose not be wholly changed.
A Chinese Boy's Story about Social Phobias of Eye Fear (4)
Gao Weiliang
I'm fear of getting along with people.People especially girls/women/police/soldiers/teachers.... before me may make me embarrassed.The more I admire them,the more I feel sensitive.Also a male or a child may make me so. I may twist my head to avoid their profiles, or look them--their bodies impolitely,or oblique my eyesights sideaway caring about other still things even like stones.I always look here and there unnormally.People will think I do these bad mannaers before them on purpose,think I despised them.But they are wrong.You know. They misunderstand me.

ON A BUS
Others' purses(of course here I do not say about the people,which always remind me) will remind me about the eye phobias.Then you were definited as a thief.It was a fact in a night train that a police asked me for my ID Card and recorded my information, and told other passengers to be careful of their wealth,and did not question any other people else in that train body.

ON A STREET
I've said about it,every body gives me a angry face,or depreciating eye,or fling abuses, or cough/spit on purpose.
Of course,the eye phobias doesn't only happened to boys,but also to girls.
In any case,they normal persons discriminate against us ,they didn't know about our eye phobias,our mental problems,our anguish ,our everything else.
[To be continued,forgive my poor English.Contact me if you were similar to me--Email: [email protected] MSN: [email protected] MSN Spaces: http://spaces.msn.com/oddlight/ ICQ:169096437]