Social anxiety breeds bullies and loners alike

Island_chic

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SOCIAL ANXIETY BREEDS BULLIES AND LONERS ALIKE
Parents and teachers might misinterpret bullying behavior, which is actually rooted in social phobia.

By Cristen Conger
Tue Mar 30, 2010 07:00 AM ET

Correctly addressing aggressive behavior that's tied to SAD can be problematic.
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THE GIST:

Up to one in five people with Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD) exhibits aggressive behaviors.
Though they're more outgoing, the people in this SAD subset have a lower quality of life.
Bullies -- both online and off -- may actually be coping with SAD.


Social anxiety disorder (SAD) can manifest not only in stereotypical wallflowers, but also among confrontational bullies and promiscuous party animals, according to a new study from George Mason University.

Although SAD is clinically characterized by extreme shyness and situational avoidance, some patients engage in paradoxically aggressive, impulsive actions meant to pre-empt potential rejection.

"We aren't suggesting a different condition; we're opening up people's eyes to behaviors that look like another disorder but are, in fact, at the core... of social anxiety," said Todd Kashdan, a study author and associate professor of psychology.

Among more than 1,800 study participants with either current or lifetime SAD diagnoses, 21 percent reported aggression, unsafe sexual encounters and substance abuse problems not typically associated with the disorder.


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These people intentionally take risks, such as picking fights or using drugs, to elevate their social status or alleviate anxiety, though they generally end up unhappier, unhealthier and more isolated than their shier SAD counterparts.

"The research is very clear that when it comes to benefiting from socializing, quality is vastly more important than quantity," Kashdan explained. "This disinhibited group might interact with more people but that doesn't translate into better social support or a feeling of support, value and inclusion by other people."

Cyberbullies, for instance, gain a brief sense of peer control and status that usually gives way to anxiety and depression, says Clemson University psychologist and cyberbullying expert Robin Kowalski.

Although empirical evidence hasn't definitively linked cyberbullying and SAD, Kowalski suspects a possible relationship between the two.

"Social anxiety in particular is closely related to victimization, and at least some victims of cyberbullying subsequently perpetrate cyberbullying as a means of retaliation," Kowalski said.

Kashdan also suspects that while people with SAD are more likely to be on the receiving end of cyberbullying, online anonymity may also encourage them to bully back.

"There's a more even playing field online where people with SAD can lash out without the immediate retaliation they fear in the real world," Kashdan said.

Correctly addressing aggressive behavior that's tied to SAD can be problematic, however, since clinicians might not recognize the hostile habits as symptoms of social anxiety.

"This is the problem with psychology and psychiatry: Different disorders are designated when in fact, they're really different manifestations of the same underlying problem," Todd Kashdan told Discovery News.

Even when it's properly diagnosed, cognitive-behavioral therapy to treat SAD often doesn't address the specific needs of the risk-prone, aggressive subset.

"If this research is shared, we can hope that misdiagnoses are reduced and proper treatment is given to the primary problems that people are facing," Kashdan said.

Cristen Conger is a writer for HowStuffWorks.com.
 

mrb

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iv never bullied anyone in my life , in fact im always sticking up for people if i see them getting bullied ......
 

coyote

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This article makes perfect sense to me.

Just for the record, I've never been promiscuous with a female mongoose.

(at least not that i can remember)
 
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dreamqueen

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im a bully and a loner ;/ but im also nice and friendly but it turns into me becoming the bully cuz idk how to generate positive attention i think
 
I used to be a bully before the age of 8. I remember getting into a lot of fights in kindergarten lol. I am not proud of it. I wish I were normal.

And then I grew up and just had regular SA.
 

Blaze

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It makes sense to me as I can kind of apply it to my own childhood. When I moved to a different town back when I was 13, I got made fun of a lot at the new school I went to. I was always pretty laid back and was really respectful. Anyway that whole year was pretty miserable as nothing really changed, but over the summer I became a bit of a bully, which lasted probably until sophomore year of HS. I wouldn't doubt I used it as a way to solve my mild case of SA. I was pretty shy at this point, but it wasn't any sort of hindrance like it is now.

Definitely a loner now. /sigh
 

xxaimsxx

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I was bullied at school and there have been times when i was also nasty to my bullies. Only to stand up for myself mind. I always said stuff back.

Now though because i know what it feels like i instantly stick up for others being bullied. I feel like its my right and its what should be done.

I would rather be bullied than a bully.
 

AGR

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Its true,one of the best weapon to beat bullies is to be a bully yourself,there is a part of my life I am not really proud of,it was not really me,real me wouldnt hurt a fly....
 
I was sort of a bully up until I was 11 or 12 (only with my younger siblings though, never at school or with any other children). After that age, I just mellowed out, became a pacifist (which I still strongly believe in), and mostly a loner. I myself have never been bullied.
 

bigrob

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I was never a bully. I HATE bullies.

But the one time I remember feeling "normal" and actually was taken off all my meds was when I was bouncing at a club. I always figured something in the cascade of hormones from the "on guard for a fight" mentality actually regulated something that I was deficient in.
 

Luke1993

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When I was at school I noticed many bullies didn't actually realise they were bullies. They don't seem to think about what they've done, and if they were asked "Are you a bully?" the majority I think would genuinely say no.

So I think a lot of people don't realise, maybe even some of the posters here don't realise they've been bullies at some point but never thought twice about it Maybe I was even a bully to someone?
 

Island_chic

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I was a little bit of a bully to some guys that lived in my neighborhood. But I also got bullied at school..felt worthless.
 

Island_chic

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Its true,one of the best weapon to beat bullies is to be a bully yourself,there is a part of my life I am not really proud of,it was not really me,real me wouldnt hurt a fly....
Yes..it's true. "you have to be an ******* to deal with an *******".
 
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