Small victory

richkid

Well-known member
Today I went to a pub quiz to see some people from high school. This was a bit odd because I wasn't part of there group haven't seen them for about 5 years only contact was through MSN. I took the plunge though and went to the pub quiz, I was shitting myself thinking they wouldn't actually be there or were only doing it for laughs. Got there they were out side in the beergarden lucking they remembered who I was and they were so nice. I talk to a few of them the best I could they talk to me for a bit but I always felt like the outcast. Then I realise what was i expecting, I wasn't close friands to these people, they all satyed in contact so had been friends for a good 5-6 years so I was just glad they talked to me. I Survived that what counts right. I can't stop feeling a little down because thats what i missed out on through my high school, the parties the druken nights. One person ask me who have I stayed in touch with, i was like nobody. Think thats sometimes that hurts the most that I fell I've missed out and things could have been different, I guess i'm still bitter about the past and haven't got over it and not sure how to.
 

Orlando

Well-known member
Richkid,

I'm glad that you had a good time with your old friends. I understand about regret....but thinking about the past really doesn't improve the present...actually, it kinda ruins it. Zen says you should stay with the present.....I try to do it but it's hard, however, I tend to enjoy things much more. (I have trouble concentrating when I panic!)

For people with SA, what you did was a great feat! You took a chance and faced your fears.

Now, it is just another story/adventure you can talk about with others! Good for you! :wink:
 

symbiosis

Active member
I agree - well done! Small victories add up to (hopefully) more confidence and a different view of ourselves.....

You are so right Orlando about being in the present - stewing on the past makes for instant unhappiness in the present..... but this can be damn hard to do at times....especially when you feel you missed out in the past due to SP. I reckon making the most of things now and setting goals for the near future help with this. (Especially goals that relate to what you missed out on in the past!)

Cheers, Symbiosis
 

john_g

New member
when i stew over the past it just makes me more depressed. the few good memories i have of being younger seem to dissapear day by day and the bad and lonely ones take over.

i know what i have to do, stop thinking about the past and concentrate on the present, because the now are the memories of tomorrow, and i want to be able to remember good times rather than regrets.

so maybe i have kinda missed out on my childhood, but by going over it again and again in my head im gonna miss out on my young adulthood, im only 22 for christs sake, i have to start seeing it as the start of my life rather than the end of a childhood i didnt really have.

luckily i still look quite young, (it always used to bug me) but now i can see it will be an advantage to me in my new lease of life :D
 

blankmind

Member
yes i go over things that happened in the past all the time ,and i agree it does no good whatsoever,but at the same time is really hard not to do it.
but going over and over it wishing i'd done things differently or said things differently,all it amounts to is sleepless nights and headaches,because its done and dusted and there's nothing we can do at all.
i used to look young for my age,but now i've started getting grey hair and i'm sure it's from all the worrying :wink:
i wonder if i did'nt have this problem would i have kept my youthfull looks :roll:
but yes i thinks it's best trying to always look forwards,never look back and never have any regrets because there gone for good.
 

arlequin

Well-known member
Congratulations on your victory! The truth is that you were very brave to go to the meeting. I don't know if I'd had gone if I were you.
If they called you it must be because they had good memories of you otherwise I guess they had not bother in calling you. We tend to underestimate ourselves.
It's not worh thinking in the past, we can't change it. But think in the future (this can be changed)
 
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