Shyness

MRnomates

Well-known member
I was wondering do you people not go out because of being shy or nerves or both, shyness is a big fooking problem for me some1 looks at me and me head goes into complete paranoia and u feel self concious of ya face, anyone else get this has stopped me from socilaising just about all my life.
 

tommydog

Well-known member
lol :lol:

errr, did you notice your on a social phobia forum dude ? :lol:

most people here feel that way !

Thats what sp/agoraphobia is. Have you been diagnosed with having a problem ? if your still at the stage of not knowing whether your ill or not, its probably early, so go and talk to your gp and do something about it now before it gets worse.
 

Homer

New member
Yeah, sounds very familiar. You maybe step into the bus and you feel everyone's looking - but even though people are, they don't neccessarily have to be thinking bad things about you; it's even pretty unlikely they are. I am aware of this, but still, I make it a problem. I, like many many, have a blushing-problem so great that I blush because I'm so afraid that I'll blush. This usually does not stop me from going out of the house though, but somehow, every move I make when I'm with people is so terribly CONSCIOUS, I have to concentrate so hard on what I'm doing that even just walking straight can become a problem.

Just hearing that I'm not alone with this phobia (and that it actually is social phobia) has been an incredible help to me.

You're not alone. We'll beat this!
 

MRnomates

Well-known member
Its gotta be the worst phobia ever, i used to scream like a girl when i saw spiders but since i hallucinate on a daily basis now for 5 years of seeing huge spiders dangling in my face i an't scared of them no more i pick them up etc.

Seeing a psychical spider u don't come across 1 that often but you see people on a daily basis and it still don't get any easier y is that?

I couldn't go into it with a doctor because they laugh in ya face n it pisses me off
 

MRnomates

Well-known member
They do though i've seen loads of different docs about my chronic fatigue n they have smerky little faces like tony blair
 

sparkarella

New member
Homer you sound just like me! Am new to this site ...any site...so am still in the amazement mode of finding out that others are experiencing what i am....its strangely comforting. I've lost count the number of times i blush but its really not the most satisfying thing to be doing....especially blushing when somebody simply speaks to you or looks at you....fabulously annoying! I'm at a point where i'm deciding whether to take beta blockers or not...they have proven to get rid of the physical symptoms of anxiety...blushing being one of them. Hope your blushing has behaved itself today, have you tried any medication for it?
:oops:
 

spacecadetglowuk

Active member
Shyness is nice

I'm shy but I cover it up so well, when I'm out I act like I'm confidant, I can do it for a few hours but it is a strain.I do find other shy people appealing and comfortable to be with though.

but remember as the song goes....

'Shyness is nice, and
Shyness can stop you
From doing all the things in life
You'd like to'
 

Yossarian

Well-known member
God bless the Smiths.

Yeah I get this MRnomates. If someone smiles or laughs I always think it's at me. I used to try and sneakily check in shop windows to see if I had bird crap or something on me etc. I can reason it out in a minute or so but no matter how many times I go out or it always happens like a reflex or instinct.
 

Homer

New member
sparkarella: Yes, I have tried medicine and it has helped in a number of ways. I went to see my doctor quite many years ago (I'm 21) and the doctor took me through a test (for depression, social anxiety and things like that) and then gave me Seroxat tablets. These worked rather well and I, a student in high-school at the time, was able to stand in front of the class (you know the regular giving speeches, lectures etc.) without my heart pounding too fast and my head nearly exploding. It seemed to somehow cut the "high tops" from the anxiety curve so I didn't blush as much and was able to keep calm under such pressure like lectures. I stopped taking Seroxat though - they were expensive, had side-effects I didn't particularly like (such as a strange feeling of carelessness) but also just because I didn't want to take medicine, was stubborn and felt this wasn't me. Probably a silly thing to do. But after having taken these tablets and talked in front of the crowd without feeling (terribly) miserable a couple of times I saw that I *could* do it - and that helped me in a way.

But I'm back on medicine now though some four years later, and Zoloft this time. I have accepted the fact that I may need to take medicine to beat this thing, it will help me build up my self-image/self-esteem.

Best of luck to you sparkarella (and to all of you)! :)
 
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