Setup with sister's coworker's niece

Tiercel

Tiercel

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Alright, this one is quite a feat. Apparently a coworker of my sister wants to know if I'd be interested in meeting her niece. I've been told she's a "Colombian niece," though I'm unsure if that's in reference to her heritage or if she's currently living there. There's even a picture that goes along with this story, but I won't be posting it here. I'll just say that I'm sure most guys would approve....

The weird part is that I've only seen this woman coworker once (let's just call her Woman to preserve her privacy). Several months ago my sister coaxed me into making an appearance at her place of employment. Apparently she must have mentioned her twin brother enough and in that particular way which makes others want to meet me. And apparently, Woman has asked through a man (hereafter referred to as "Man") if I'm married. Seeing as I'm still single, Woman wants to set me up with her niece. I'm still not sure if I'm the one who made an impression, or if it was my sister.

So now I've got to tell my sister something more than just cocaine jokes. I know telling bad jokes was my way of not actually giving her an answer to send back through the grapevine. So aside from her fashionable clothes and the little girl she was posed with, I really don't know anything about this Colombian niece. About the only thing I do know is that she scares the s--- out of me.

So do I or don't I? And how have you handled it when others have tried to set you up with someone you don't know?
 
EasySkanking

EasySkanking

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^ True man.

Even if you come out with ****-pants, scared look and crying, I think you'll enjoy it. For what it's worth, you have a very friendly face. You look like someone that's nice to talk to ;) - like EscapeArtist said (Where the hell is she anyway? :O) you have a welcoming face!

Good luck dude, do it for us at least!
 
PunkRotten

PunkRotten

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Don't let your mind wander. You have not even met her. Try to see it as an opportunity to just meet someone. Talk a little bit, try not to let your mind fast forward, try to stay in the moment, be friendly etc. Who knows what the future has in store. You can make a friend out of this, and maybe more. Just give it a chance. You've got nothing to lose!
 
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Rembrandt Broam

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"Colombian niece". I like that. Sounds like a street term for a drugs mule. :D

You should definitely go for it. As others have pointed out, what have you go to lose? Good luck!
 
coyote

coyote

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There's no harm in meeting her, she might be nice. She might like you.

Besides, you don't want to piss off the cartel - they have a long reach.
 
Waybuloo

Waybuloo

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Just because someone set you up you don't HAVE to go along with it. Do you actually want to meet her, are you attracted by the woman in the photo in any way? Are you interested in finding someone to go out with? If yes then go, if she seems a bit off or crazy don't involve youself in a second date. Simples.
 
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userremoved

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Yeah I agree with the others, just treat it like any normal meeting and go for it. These opportunities don't come too often from my experience.
 
NathanielWingatePeaslee

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Tiercel said:
Alright, this one is quite a feat. Apparently a coworker of my sister wants to know if I'd be interested in meeting her niece. I've been told she's a "Colombian niece," though I'm unsure if that's in reference to her heritage or if she's currently living there. There's even a picture that goes along with this story, but I won't be posting it here. I'll just say that I'm sure most guys would approve....

The weird part is that I've only seen this woman coworker once (let's just call her Woman to preserve her privacy). Several months ago my sister coaxed me into making an appearance at her place of employment. Apparently she must have mentioned her twin brother enough and in that particular way which makes others want to meet me. And apparently, Woman has asked through a man (hereafter referred to as "Man") if I'm married. Seeing as I'm still single, Woman wants to set me up with her niece. I'm still not sure if I'm the one who made an impression, or if it was my sister.

So now I've got to tell my sister something more than just cocaine jokes. I know telling bad jokes was my way of not actually giving her an answer to send back through the grapevine. So aside from her fashionable clothes and the little girl she was posed with, I really don't know anything about this Colombian niece. About the only thing I do know is that she scares the s--- out of me.

So do I or don't I? And how have you handled it when others have tried to set you up with someone you don't know?
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Most of the time, when you meet a stranger, it will not go ideally. It's simply improbable that the person will be compatible with you in the ways that make a long-term relationship work.

But.

No matter how badly it might go, it's still an opportunity. That means if you don't go, you may end up hating yourself for not trying. I would. I know that from experience. The feeling of hating myself for not trying is worse than the reality of a bad or just mediocre date.

Don't expect miracles and I think you'll be okay. :)
 
Tiercel

Tiercel

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Well, I emailed my sister tonight and asked some questions. Of course I didn't just pick up the phone and call her; that would take initiative that I just don't have. Silly telephones.... :rolleyes:

But like I said, I don't even know where this woman lives. She could be somewhere local, or down in South America. If she's close by, why the hell not? Even though my first reaction is usually to run like hell. And that, more than anything else, has me convinced that I probably have an undiagnosed case of AvPD.

But my life is sort of like this clip. Especially the part from 1:55-2:04.

YouTube - George Costanza Does The Opposite

Actually, I should just tell my sister to convey George's exact words to this lady. Then see if she still wants me to meet her niece.

:D

EDIT: Oh, and it wouldn't be as stressful if this niece wasn't attractive. I'm just terrified (as usual) of being judged harshly. Regardless of whether such a judgement is accurate is irrelevant; I automatically assume I'm never good enough for anyone. Something I really need to stop doing.
 
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EasySkanking

EasySkanking

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Hahaha!

"My name is George, I'm unemployed and I live with my parents :cool:"

"I'm Victoria, hiiiii ;)"

Lol!

That definately sounds like a good idea. If every thought that we have that we are not good enough is wrong (which we all know that thats the case), then everytime we have those thoughts, we should ignore it and instantly know that the opposite is true ;)
 
Tiercel

Tiercel

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Well, she's not even in this country. So that half a week of anxiety and insomnia was all for naught.

Maybe I should thank my sister anyway? :rolleyes:
 
EasySkanking

EasySkanking

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Lol! Oh well...

*sigh* I thought maybe for once, one us lonely hopeless romantics would get the girl. Guess I was wrong - God has a strange sense of humor, imo ;)
 
Kiwong

Kiwong

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Isomnia and anxiety, women can do that to ya!

A mountain monastry is the way to go I reckon.
 
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