SERIOUS!!! penis goes limp during intercourse

Hi there, Im new here.

Ok, when I am with a girl, I can stay rock hard forever during the foreplay session. It wont go limp or anything. But, just when everything feels right and its time for the condom to go on, thats when it happens.... I get scared for SOME ****IN STUPID REASON and my penis goes limp....

Ive already had one girl dump because of this. Its not gonna happen again, because either I will take viagra, or just shoot myself IN THE ****IN HEAD....
This is so frustrating, I cant figure out the cause, or cure.

Can anyone help me with this? Im totally lost, and everything seems hopeless because I feel like Im in chains in the bottom of a lake somewhere. And if this is what my life will be like, then its really not worth living, this really REALLY sucks....

1) Does the girl have vaginal dentata?
2) Are you afraid of condom leaking and getting girl pregnant?
3) Are you afraid of sexual intercourse?

Try Cialis, it worked for me. Get samples from your doctor and refuse to pay for the drug.

Could be performance anxiety?Plus when you stop to put the comdom on you have a break in sexual activity so to say,it might help if you and your sexual partner find and "intresting" way to put it on.

Other than tha be open about it...i know it must be awkward as hell but a decent girl should be understanding and be able to help.

Questions:
1) Does the girl have vaginal dentata?
2) Are you afraid of condom leaking and getting girl pregnant?
3) Are you afraid of sexual intercourse?

Answers:
1) No
2) No, Im pretty sure condom wont break. Thats not the fear.
3) Im not afraid of intercourse, as I am making a useless tool of myself.

The problem is that Im afraid of what she will think of me. Its so embarrasing to let my d-ick go limp during intercourse.... all these thoughts are running through my head, from the past, all the awkward moments, people Ive met, dumb things Ive done, etc... and then it goes limp because I start thinking. I cant control it.

Look if it helps, Im 25, I dont have any health issues "thank GOD", Im in shape and my member is good size. The problem is in my head and I just dont know how to cure it. This only happens for the first 3 or 4 times I have sex with a new girl, then it goes away and I can bang hard even if Im badly drunk. But it wont fly with this new girl Im dating, she wants things here and now!

I think I need a psychologist...

If you're afraid of it going limp, you should try wearing a penis ring (cock-ring). It keeps blood in the penis so it remains fully erect as long as you put it on.

maybe the females you are with are too demanding. someone above said it: any decent girl isn't going to give you slack about it. it happens! i'm sure you've already tried but try not to THINK so much when you're in the process.

hey Ashiene, Ive heard that before from a friend. Thats what Im going to get later today. Give it a shot, see what happens. Thanks for the advice, I really need to break this barrier. Once thats done, the sex will feel like a pleasure, rather than a some "chore". Like, better do her right tonight or else its ultimate failure in which case she dumps me and has bad thoughts about me throughout her life.


When I was 21 and some girl I was dating asked me to stay over. We were going to sleep and started making out and playing around, I was so goddamn horny, and she said alot of nice things about me and my you know what. But then, when time came for the condom to go on, I said I felt sleepy and drunk and we went to sleep. I was so f-u-c-k-i-n afraid of screwing up and looking bad that it ruined my whole feeling. I couldnt do it and went to sleep with blue balls the size of grapefruits. I was so pissed and humiliated the next day....

this is SP World not SI World (Sexual Intercourse world) isent it ? :/

Maybe you could try talking about it with the girl you're seeing before you have sex? I mean not immediately before you have sex, but just some time when you're alone together having a chat over a couple of drinks or something. If you tell her something like sometimes you want to please a girl so much that you end up getting too stressed to enjoy things and lose your erection - then you won't be worrying about how to explain it to her if it does happen. If she's a kind person (and I wouldn't want to be with someone who wasn't kind!) then she'll be understanding. I agree with Danfalc that it sounds like performance anxiety. Girls get it too, but nature's a little kinder to us in that it doesn't show as much!

moved to off topic

hmm princess_haru, thats a good idea. But if I mention anything about losing erection then that means theres something wrong with me, something negative. I cant stand the fact that someone might be knowing a bad thing about me, or have pity for me. Especially a girl that I want to be my life partner. Theres something wrong with this logic I know.

I cant open up to females anymore, I cant let them read me or find out how I am when Im mad. I like to keep it normal and civil, but deep down I know that I am the furthest thing from normal. So Im just trying to play the game as best as I can. So I guess if I fail in bed then I fail with her and its all gone down the drain, I dont care anymore.

I dont know where this problem came from, or why I think the way I do. Its like if I hear a laugh in the train, I think they are laughing at me. Or if some girl looks at me, I think she thinks how weird or bad I look, or is there something on my face. Its never a positive feeling, its so hard...

Im going to get the cock-rings, or viagra or cialis or whatever... Im just gonna force it through my f'd up thoughts, and give her head till she cums her brains out. I refuse to live alone.

God I hope this works out with me and this girl...

Ok, so I dont give a damn if noone reads this or not. But guess what, surprise!... it didnt work out between me and this f-uckin girl... hmm, what else is new.

This is so messed up, everytime I find love, it always ends, its always taken away somehow from me. I feel like killing myself. If this is what life has to offer to me, then theres no point in it.

Im hungry, and the only thing I ever see is a steak on a string, close enough to smell it but not close enough to eat.

I'm sorry to hear it didn't work out :: From reading your posts, it sounds like you need to be kinder to yourself and not see everything in terms of failing or winning. It can take quite some time to get where you want in life, and seeing every attempt which doesn't quite succeed as nothing but a failure is really depressing and harmful. I believe if you want something badly enough and are willing to keep trying, you'll get there eventually. I know it's frustrating when you want to be in a relationship now and not have to wait, but trying to force things never really works, in my experience. Keep trying and keep positive!

You are putting pressure on yourself and you don't need to. And if the girl is pressuring you to keep "it" up, then she's not worth sleeping with anyway. My bf had the same problem as you the first time, so I told him we would wait until we were more comfortable around each other because we hadn't been together very long. We wanted each other but there was still some shyness. If you start dating someone new, definitely talk to them ahead of time and tell them that you might lose "it" the first several times and make sure they are willing to try it several times before you finally get comfortable enough to stay up. Or wait until you've been together long enough that you aren't afraid of their negative judgment (although most girls wouldn't judge you for that anyway).

It's not that big of a deal to most girls. I'm not sure why losing an erection is such a stigma for guys. I have never cared about that; I thought it was cute that I meant enough to the guy to make him lose it.