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    My life would be better if I had a girlfriend

    Does anyone believe this is true? For straight females it would obviously be boyfriend instead of girlfriend. I only ask because I see a pattern in a lot of posts that has led me to believe that people think that their problems would go away if they had a partner. I just want people to know...
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    Do you really want to overcome SA?

    Why are YOU on this site? What do you hope to get out of it? Do you want to change and be comfortable in your skin while in social situations? I know when I joined this forum that I would have said that without a doubt I wanted to change and overcome my anxiety but looking back on my situation...
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    What do you do to cope with loneliness?

    I've just recently noticed that my anxiety gets really out of control when I am alone and seeing as how I have been alone a lot recently, I have experienced A LOT of anxiety so my question is what do you do when you feel lonely? Please don't turn this into a negative complaining thread either...
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    Intense Fear of Abandonment/Loss

    Im currently experiencing this fear. It can be paralyzing at times. I constantly have to keep myself busy or the gears in my head start turning and I end up having very bad anxiety. The stomach tightens, the heart starts pounding and I cant sit still for the life of me..... Has anyone...
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    Jealousy in relationships....How do you cope?

    I just recently entered into a relationship with a girl I love like no other and am starting to feel an emotion I think is so ugly and I'm trying to find ways to cope with it. I know communication is key and I continue to communicate my feelings without accusing or getting upset. I take full...
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    What are YOU grateful for?

    Well, I was feeling quite melancholy today. My girlfriend came to visit me in the little town in Spain I am living in for the year and she left today so everywhere I go, it reminds me of her and I miss her. It is also possible that I wont see her until June so naturally I was feeling very sad. I...
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    Overwhelming Fear of Loss/Abandonment

    Hey yall, its been a minute since I've posted on here and I would like some feed back if anyone can identify or has any coping mechanisms with what Im experiencing. First of all, I have accepted and am happy with the fact that I'm not very talkative in huge groups. I may still feel awkward...
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    A Course in Miracles

    Does anyone know anything about this? If so, what do you think? I have found a lot of relief from anxiety through spirituality (meditating and living in the moment) and the ideas in ACIM seem really cool to me.
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    Speaking another language

    So I have realized that English is not the native language of a lot of people that are on this forum and I wanted to know how you all do with speaking a second language.....I personally struggle. I can write in spanish and understand spoken spanish for the most part but sometimes when I speak...
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    Where to find permanent happiness?

    I was reading a book today and came across a quote I wanted to share.....What do you think about this quote? "What do you imagine could bring us permanent happiness that would not also be susceptible to loss, destruction, or change and then cause us pain and suffering? Money? Possessions...
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    Drawing lines and being assertive

    Do you have issues being assertive like I do? Sometimes in life do you represent a door mat to be walked all over because people know they can? Well I certainly do and it is going to stop. I am sure it will be a gradual process and I have made a lot of progress already but there comes a time...
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    Do you REALLY want to change?

    Or are you so attached to this self-image of being shy, scared and feeling inadequate that it scares you to think about coming off as anything different? I ask this because sometimes I wonder this about myself...I always say that I want to be more outgoing, have more friends and have the...
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    Disorder of Selfishness

    Let me start by saying I am not here to insult anyone by stating what I think, it is just been my personal experience as someone who suffers from Social Anxiety. Basically I think it comes down to selfishness because I am always thinking about how I come off to other people....I am constantly...
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    New Years Plans?

    So New Years really isn't that big of a deal for me like it used to be because I don't drink and I only enjoyed it because it was an excuse to drink BUT I wanted to share what I have in store for me and I would love to hear anyone else's plans or worries....I have a few myself. I moved to Spain...
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    Outside my comfort zone

    So I am visiting London for the Christmas holiday, alone and as a result of it being Christmas, the tube and all public transportation is down. Minus the bikes you can hire on the streets. I had the plan to do it last night but my inner chatter convinced me it would be to anxiety provoking....I...
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    Goals for progress

    I have realized that complaining about how afraid I am in social situations and the fear that comes with being around other people doesn't really help me much so I have decided to make some goals for progress instead and move forward..... For me the fear is the worst when I am talking to or...
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    Rock and a Hard Place

    It has been a while since I have posted on here but now I am struggling a bit so I feel like reaching out as opposed to holding it all in and telling myself I can handle things on my own without the help of others....that has always been a pattern of mine, I am trying to break it but it is very...
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    Being Selfish

    In my past six months of personal growth I have realized how selfish I can be and have related it to the anxiety I feel in social situations. When I first heard the idea of being selfish I thought it was total BS and everyone else was selfish, I have come to realize that this really is not true...
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    Addiction, Alcoholism and Anxiety

    Hey everyone I just joined the forum recently. I used to post pretty regularly on here about a year or so ago until I decided that life was hopeless and found other priorities, drugs and alcohol. From the first time I got drunk I thought alcohol was the answer to my shyness or social phobia and...
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