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I'm sick of being too scared to speak up with people. My mind is blank, and my voice is locked out when I'm with a group of people. Sometimes I just want myself to say something, getting them all to listen. But instead the only noise I make is me screaming inside at myself :( What sort of...

This little problem is really bugging me. When I speak to people I know, they don't even look at me, or they don't look engrossed in me at all. For example, I was talking to a friend about a TV show we watch, and when I began to talk about it, he looked the other way like his mind was elsewhere...

I'm so messed up right now. I'm a loner, I get attached very easily- I find it really hard to make friends at all. Then I met this really amazing girl. She lives far away and we maintain a long distance relationship (sucks right?) But now all my attention and emotion is on her. She's been...

Last night after meeting some acquaintances, I came home and realised I couldn't remember a single thing that what anyone said. I'd try so hard to listen, but the words went through one ear and out the other. My perception of myself was so high, there was no room in my head for memory.. I really...

I really want to make friends... but everyone time i try to express myself I seem to upset someone. I really hate feeling like a villain when I'm just a nice person! My friend was asking some interesting questions like 'if you were a fruit what would you be?" and later I said that "I liked...

Hi everyone. I wondered if I anyone knew how to remember stories and use them later when talking? I find the majority of conversations revolve around the past- films you've seen, adventures, memories. When it comes to my turn- my head goes blank, I find the connection between my mouth and my...

No matter what anyone says No matter how much ridicule, teasing and rejection others put you through Even when times are unbelievably hard, and you think to yourself what have I done to deserve this life? No matter how alone you feel in this uncomfortable, judgemental world.... Just...

I really don't know who I am. I have a burning desire to have friends in my life, so I've read hundreds of help books and copied other people's popular traits (e.g. teasing, humour). This has led to a mish-mash of personality, people think I'm confident but I have so much inner doubts and...

Hi. I feel really uncomfortable. I was at a party with my girlfriend and there was guy sat near us. He started talking to my girlfriend and I noticed how involved she was when talking with him, laughing at the things he said. I find it hard to make decent conversation and I wished she was more...

My brain is ruining everything- my personal life, my work, education, conversations. I can't cope anymore. I spent a lot of time alone since being a kid, so I developed an over-active brain. There are always thoughts, mostly negative in my conscious. Its become natural, my brain is wandering...

Hi. I wondered if you guys could help? I've spent the majority of my life hiding behind my parents, barely saying anything to anybody out of fear. You could call it vocal paralysis! I said 'Yes sir' in the school register, but that was about it. People referred to me as 'Quiet' 'Shy'...

Hi, I'm having difficulty finding CBT services in my area, I've been searching for ages. I have noticed there is a lot of hypnotherapists about. Has anyone tried this method out? Any success? The thought of being put to sleep and given commands is pretty scary, but it can't be as scary as...

Hi, I find it impossible to tell stories in front of people! I feel that people will drift off and decide to talk to someone else. It's happened a lot before, so my brain now thinks "You're not good enough, they don't like you". I have said things that have cut conversation dead a lot of...

Hi I feel I'm in a bit of a rut at the moment. I've tried helping myself but it's got to the point where I need someone else to help me. In my area, there seems to be very little help or hope. I went to the GP, they got me in contact with a group named iTalk, I had to wait 2 weeks for the...

I'm getting more and more depressed. I heard to treat social anxiety and to improve your social skills, you have to expose yourself to social situations to desensitize to them. I find that I am avoiding social situations more than ever! I'm not anxious about them as such, it's my social skills...

Evening all. I wondered if over-defensiveness is common amongst SAers or is just me? I find after a childhood of put-downs, over-criticism and mocking, I found myself very defensive to what people say, my mood suddenly changes. I try and respond without making it seem like I'm affected, but I...

Hello curious folk who clicked here :) I've decided to write a blog based on me acting on the ideas of 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' written by Dale Carnegie. I want to find out if the principles he wrote (such as don't criticise; always say people's names etc) in 1936 are still...

I've always wondered what makes a person popular? Throughout school, I used to look at the popular kids and ask myself, "What makes you so special?" I find all the books and advice contradictory to what I have seen. They say if you want to be popular, 'be a nice person, do favours for people...

Hi, I hope you have all had a good weekend. Now I'm going to ruin it with my whining. I've gotten to the point where I am sick of having people problems. People laugh at my conversational blunders. They can never understand my point of view. I get into arguements quickly. I have no stories to...

Hi hope everyone is having a nice evening. I'm really annoyed. I find conversation very difficult. People always look bored when I speak to them, including friends. I run out of things to say and I get these awkward silences (ahhh i hate them, I'm sure you do too?). I find people are always...