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    Now That You've Been Fully Vaccinated...

    ... or are about to become fully vaccinated, how do you feel about things returning back to normal? I know we haven't returned back to normal yet and, who knows, we might not for a while now but how do you feel about it if/when we do? I feel a little guilty in saying I've somewhat come to...
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    Has Anyone Heard From Kiwong Lately?

    It could be that he's doing better and doesn't need to come here. His most recent posts seem to indicate as much. If that's the case, great for him! However, I know he had some health issues in the past so I'm hoping nothing bad has happened to him. He's been a member for as long as I've...
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    Conjuring Up Bad Scenarios That Haven't Happened

    Lately, I've been having a problem with thinking about bad scenarios that could potentially happen where I wind up looking really bad. I really think this is a by product of my anxiety because in the past, many times bad things have happened that I wasn't prepared to handle at the moment...
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    Feeling Euphoric And A Lot Less Anxious After Energy Drink

    I noticed that sometimes (not every time) minutes after drinking a 5 Hour Energy drink, I feel buoyed, happy and willing to socialize. This always happens at work since that's the only time I feel tired enough to want an energy drink. I'm not a coffee drinker so the small 5 Hour Energy drink...
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    Is it Better To Be an Orphan or a Stepchild?

    I'm speaking figuratively here in terms of your dealings with people. An orphan is a person left on his or her own without support, much company or notoriety. A stepchild is someone who's been accepted by others but treated without much regard or respect, a doormat. However, he or she is...
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    I Can't Cry, Can You?

    Somebody recently asked me if I was a crier. Not only am I not inclined to cry, I can't even remember crying outside of childhood. When my mother passed away, I thought to myself, "Okay, this is the perfect time to cry, just let it all out" but no tears came. Although I was profoundly sad, all...
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    Do You Have A Best Friend?

    Not including siblings, other relatives or spouses. I could otherwise say my brother is mine but can't think of anyone I would consider as a best friend. Likewise, I don't think anyone considers me as theirs. When I was in my 20's I had a group who I hung out with fairly regularly. Back...
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    Trouble Reading Aloud In Front of People

    I attended a seminar today in which each of us were required to read certain parts of an article out loud. Each of us were assigned a section and instantly my anxiety began to ramp up. I have always been well read and can read and comprehend just about anything. On the occasion when I come...
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    Driving: Does It Help Relieve Your Anxiety Or Increase It?

    I've always found driving to be very therapeutic. Preferably, long drives thru scenic areas if possible. I'm lucky in this regard as I live on an island and there are many beautiful drives to be taken. But even short drives to the store or for errands seem to help. The only time this doesn't...
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    Feeling Absolutely Exhausted At The End of Day from SA

    Does anyone else who has to work in the real world feel completely exhausted by the time the day is over? I find it is so draining even when nothing in particular is going wrong. Just the constant awareness of my anxiety, the "normal" people going about their "normal" lives and seeming to have...
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    What's The Worse Thing Anyone Has Done To You?

    I think for me, it was someone I grew up with since we were infants until young adult age pretending to be my close friend but was really a totally different person behind my back. It didn't start off that way but I think he began to have feelings of severe dislike as we reached our early teen...
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    When You Have SA A New Indignity Is Always Just Around The Corner

    Anybody else with SA feel this way? It just seems like there's one indignity or act of disrespect directed at us at all times. It's downright uncanny. It's like people who don't even know us target us. Today, I'm walking back to work after accompanying a co-worker to get coffee. I work in...
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    Avoiding One On One Social Situations

    I've noticed my anxiety increases a lot when I'm invited to do something with just one other person. Last week a co-worker asked if I had lunch plans. I said I didn't and thought he was going to invite me out with a group. Turned out it was just going to be me and him. After agreeing, I saw...
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    Are You A Good Negotiator?

    I admit, I think I'm pretty bad at it. I've bought cars where I find out later I could have gotten it for a lot less had I been stubborn/skilled enough as a negotiator. I just bought a car about a week ago and was determined I wasn't going to get pushed around. I went in with an ideal price...
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    The Problem With Being Popular

    I've debated making this thread for a while out of fear that it will be taken as bragging. Let me try to clarify. My problem is nothing to brag about. It isn't so much that I stay popular, it's that I must be easily approachable at first and seem like somebody that people want to hang out...
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    17 Things People Don't Understand About OCD

    This was on my facebook newsfeed. I shared it so that my friends who don't understand OCD might get some insight. This is probably nothing new for most of you here but wanted to post it anyway as I appreciated whoever put this together. I cut and pasted from the site but here is the link...
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    Aside From What Brought You Here What "Normal" Problems Do You Have?

    Nothing serious here, guys. I just thought this would be interesting. Aside from SA, I have sleep apnea (another SA...lol), am claustrophobic and allergic to pollen. I'm supposed to be using some type of breathing device when I sleep for the sleep apnea but have been putting off getting it...
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    Question For Those Of You Who Are Married

    How did you handle your wedding day? Was it excruciating for you or did you enjoy it? The wedding day is always something I dreaded because you are the constant center of attention. There's pressure on you to make speeches, dance in front of everyone and just be generally sociable. I turned...
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    Happiness Is...

    Sometimes, with all the problems we all face with our varying degrees of social problems, this otherwise awesome site can get to be a little bit of a downer. I thought it would be kind of cool to list things (specific of totally random) that make you happy. It can be big or small. I'll start...
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    Problem With Ending Conversations Awkwardly

    I've been having a problem with ending conversations lately, especially at work. When someone is making small talk with me, I'll start to get anxious when we start to run out of things to say. I don't know how to end it and don't want to stand around awkwardly trying to think of something...
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