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theoutsider

theoutsider

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vj288 said:
I've seen other people who constantly take the high road eventually snap, and often its when after doing everything right things still break badly for them. And I think it largely comes down to them believing by doing the right thing all the time they deserve good things their way, or that they are entitled to respect and good fortune. When things go bad, it becomes "Well, why do the right thing if I'm going to be returned shit all the time?"

I think that's a line of thinking that breaks people down. Finding ways to remind yourself why it is you take the high road may help push that snap farther away.
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Thanks and I hear you but I never expect things to go well for me because I try to do the right things. I'm just getting tired of putting up with people's crap. Lately, the slightest instance where I take the high road leads to hours of me having an internal battle, basically admonishing myself for not unloading on them like they probably deserved. I know ignoring the negativity, not letting the trolls in life bring me down to their level, letting a smile be my umbrella, etc etc etc, is the right thing to do, it's just that all the tolerance builds up in me sometimes.
 
vj288

vj288

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theoutsider said:
Thanks and I hear you but I never expect things to go well for me because I try to do the right things. I'm just getting tired of putting up with people's crap. Lately, the slightest instance where I take the high road leads to hours of me having an internal battle, basically admonishing myself for not unloading on them like they probably deserved. I know ignoring the negativity, not letting the trolls in life bring me down to their level, letting a smile be my umbrella, etc etc etc, is the right thing to do, it's just that all the tolerance builds up in me sometimes.
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Yeah, doing the right thing feels a lot harder than it should be. I'm sorry if I insinuated that you expected reward or something for doing the right thing, it didn't sound like that in your post at all, I just know it can be an easy mentality for people to adopt when they do fall to the low road - even for just a moment.

Why is it that you choose to take the high road? I know its "the right thing to do", but that doesn't stop lots of people from not opting out. Is there some reason or purpose behind your decision to do the right thing when given the opportunity, and if so is that reason or purpose being satisfied? I think a lot of times taking the high road sucks. A lot of us just don't bother. I probably don't as often as I should. I think if you're able to do it day in and day out its a good thing. I don't know if being aware of that helps the crap stink a little less, but I'd like to hope it does. That may be a mental air freshener you already use, which might make that comment not at all helpful.
 
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theoutsider

theoutsider

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vj288 said:
Yeah, doing the right thing feels a lot harder than it should be. I'm sorry if I insinuated that you expected reward or something for doing the right thing, it didn't sound like that in your post at all, I just know it can be an easy mentality for people to adopt when they do fall to the low road - even for just a moment.

Why is it that you choose to take the high road? I know its "the right thing to do", but that doesn't stop lots of people from not opting out. Is there some reason or purpose behind your decision to do the right thing when given the opportunity, and if so is that reason or purpose being satisfied? I think a lot of times taking the high road sucks. A lot of us just don't bother. I probably don't as often as I should. I think if you're able to do it day in and day out its a good thing. I don't know if being aware of that helps the crap stink a little less, but I'd like to hope it does. That may be a mental air freshener you already use, which might make that comment not at all helpful.
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For me it's spiritual growth and maturity. I feel like anybody can give in and push back with the same force they're being pushed with. This is what I used to do when I was younger and, although it feels good while doing so, in the long run it never got me anywhere. In fact, it often made things worse. At first taking the high road was satisfying as in, "I know they're expecting a rise from me here but I'm not going to give them the satisfaction". That was great in the beginning but I've found that taking the high road too many times creates a sort of build up of held in emotions which need to be released. The good news is those emotions can be released in a positive way if channeled properly. But I also feel like, when deciding between reacting and taking the high road, there should probably be a happy medium. So far, my choices have been one extreme (always reacting) to another (always taking the high road). My goal is to find the in-between.
 
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