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vj288

vj288

not actually Fiona Apple
I was at a bookstore the other day, and as I was walking around I noticed this one guy go up to a girl and just start talking to her. He introduced himself and started complimenting her, which I thought was odd considering her boyfriend was clearly 15 feet away.

I then get to the car and my girlfriend (who I was there with) told me this guy just came up to her and started a conversation with her and gave her all these compliments. It then donned on me.

That guy was doing exposure therapy! I thought it was pretty cool to see it in action. It's nice to see people trying to better themselves out in the real world like that :thumbup:
 
BlueDays

BlueDays

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vj288 said:
I was at a bookstore the other day, and as I was walking around I noticed this one guy go up to a girl and just start talking to her. He introduced himself and started complimenting her, which I thought was odd considering her boyfriend was clearly 15 feet away.

I then get to the car and my girlfriend (who I was there with) told me this guy just came up to her and started a conversation with her and gave her all these compliments. It then donned on me.

That guy was doing exposure therapy! I thought it was pretty cool to see it in action. It's nice to see people trying to better themselves out in the real world like that :thumbup:
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I believe I experienced that same thing myself, in January of this year.

It was in the Fruit & Vegetable section of the grocery store. This guy walked over and started getting some of the same fruit I was packing into a bag, and just struck up a random, friendly, non-sleazy, casual, non-demanding, pleasant, conversation with me.

Because it was all of those things I just mentioned, I was wondering for the next few hours, WHY did he did he do that? :thinking: Later that day I realised he was doing exposure therapy too! :thumbup:

Luckily I was really friendly back towards him and continued the the conversation for as long as he continued on with it. I would have felt horrible if I didn't indulge his conversation and realised later that day, that I had ruined some of his exposure therapy. PHEW! :giggle:
 
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SilentAndShy

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Two weeks since my twins were born and I'm riddled with anxiety so when I need to be out and about doing things, I'm inside unable to get in my car for fear. I look at my kids and wife knowing I'm letting them down...
 
BlueDays

BlueDays

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SilentAndShy said:
Two weeks since my twins were born and I'm riddled with anxiety so when I need to be out and about doing things, I'm inside unable to get in my car for fear. I look at my kids and wife knowing I'm letting them down...
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Your wife has been around you long enough to know that you have anxiety, she would be expecting it and be very used to it by now.

Can you maybe do some other things that you are ABLE to do, to kind of "compensate" for being unable to do whatever you need to do outside your home, that you aren't able to manage doing right now?

A mother with two newborns would appreciate you helping around the house. Could you do some housework, cooking, laundry etc? because she would be so sleep deprived with feeding both twins throughout the night!

So by helping her and the twins in those other ways, you can still be showing your wife you that you care. Then hopefully she will appreciate you so much for helping (by doing the other things you are able to do inside), that she won't mind about your anxiety right now. Do you think that would help?
 
DeadmanWalking

DeadmanWalking

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SilentAndShy said:
Two weeks since my twins were born and I'm riddled with anxiety so when I need to be out and about doing things, I'm inside unable to get in my car for fear. I look at my kids and wife knowing I'm letting them down...
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First, congratulations on fatherhood, SilentAndShy.

Second, I agree with BlueDays. Maybe you can find ways to make up for the things you can't do. Spend some time with the kids so your wife can step out and take a breather. It's the little things that can make a big difference. Babies at that age are easily amused and don't take much to feel loved. You'd also be doing some good to sit down with your wife and talk about your feelings with her and how the two of you can work together to get through this.

In the meantime, however, you can also work on getting to the point where you can do the things you feel like you can't. Step out of your comfort zone and challenge yourself, even if it's making small steps. You can do it.
 
BlueDays

BlueDays

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I dare you to watch this at least twice, and manage to NOT end up yawning yourself...



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PugofCrydee

PugofCrydee

You want to know how I got these scars?
Intelligent people tend to have less friends than the average person. The smarter you are, the more selective you become.

- Nikola Tesla


I must be the frikken smartest person in the world then lol.
 
Pyrophosphate

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I got my computer science degree more than two years ago. I've worked at the local McDonald's ever since. I've almost completely lost hope that I can ever have the career I wanted.
 
BlueDays

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Pyrophosphate said:
I got my computer science degree more than two years ago. I've worked at the local McDonald's ever since. I've almost completely lost hope that I can ever have the career I wanted.
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My deepest sympathies, Pyrophosphate. :sad:
Horrifically, that kind of situation is becoming more and more common.

Have you tried being a freelance website designer etc? Although, I suppose there are millions of freelancers out there, in the same situation as you are though. :thinking:
The frustration must be driving you mad!?


(on a side note - good to see you back in here, Pyrophosphate :greeting:)
 
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BlueDays

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PugofCrydee said:
Astrophysicist Dr. Neil DeGrasse Tyson was asked by a reader of TIME magazine, "What is the most astounding fact you can share with us about the Universe?" This is his answer.

It's god- damn poetry. (and nearly made me cry lol)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9D05ej8u-gU
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That is a profound perspective he has!

Although a very beautiful one, it contradicts what we - living in this modern, western society - have had pumped into our minds, since childhood though.

Modern society has succeeded in annihilating any sense of community that humanity had left. It now only worships everything to do with individuality.

That is the only way that there can be 8 billionaires that own the equivalent wealth of the bottom half of the world's population.

Destroying our sense of community is the only way that that situation can be acceptable on our planet. Even when there are millions of young children, living without clean water to drink, and starving to death each year, through avoidable malnutrition.

We are preached to that the individual is all important, and it is a bad thing to rely on others for help.

The dumbed-down masses now go along with these selfish ideals of "Every man for himself" , "Dog eat dog", "Look after your own, and forget about everyone else" - even though many are only a few pay checks away from losing the home they live in.

Moderns society has successfully achieved this by creating populations who no longer think they are good enough as they are. If you are not a perfect individual, then it is your own fault, and you have no worth to society/humanity. You have no power to change the toxic cult of worshipping the Individual.

Therefore when I just watched that video, my mind instantly thought "how can parts of useless, and pathetic me, be part of this majestic universe"!?

Individuals held back by low self-esteem, is just how the world's billionaires like it.

A society full of people who are taught to believe they are not good enough to be considered a part of humanity, let alone the universe - as Dr. Neil DeGrasse Tyson just spoke of in that video. :sad:
 
vj288

vj288

not actually Fiona Apple
BlueDays said:
My deepest sympathies, Pyrophosphate. :sad:
Horrifically, that kind of situation is becoming more and more common.

Have you tried being a freelance website designer etc? Although, I suppose there are millions of freelancers out there, in the same situation as you are though. :thinking:
The frustration must be driving you mad!?


(on a side note - good to see you back in here, Pyrophosphate :greeting:)
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I was going to suggest something similar Pyro. I have been working from home since April, and I am managing to make ends meet without any advanced computer know-how. But from what I have read from work forums I follow and a few work blogs, having that know-how opens a lot of doors and can make the process a lot easier.

You may not have the job or income you want, but I imagine working to a point where you making at least as much as you do at McDonald's should be very attainable. Just something I would consider looking into if I were you. The option has been a life saver for me. :thumbup:
 
BlackPuma

BlackPuma

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PugofCrydee said:
Intelligent people tend to have less friends than the average person. The smarter you are, the more selective you become.

- Nikola Tesla


I must be the frikken smartest person in the world then lol.
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But, is that still true if it's not one's own selective process that's the issue? I'd probably be friends with anyone who was nice and willing to stick around. And I'm not exceedingly smart either.
 
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