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Old 01-06-2017
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its interesting how a girl can call you on the phone, be excited to talk to you, literally say she loves you ..and then 24 hours later just erase you from her life...after a year and a half of this she just suddenly says she doesnt want to be friends with me anymore, blocks my number, and pretty much erases any sign that ANYTHING ever happened between us.......its almost feels like she's just finished with me..i had served my purpose in her life so she just threw me away.


after all the times i was there for her and listened to her cry and talk about her life and how hard things are for her, tried to give her advice, was there for her when she felt completly alone......after a year and a half of that she just throws me away like I'm nothing.
Girls - more specifically the less mature ones, will use and abuse you.
They will keep you around until they find something/someone they consider better or more useful.

But in 'ditching' you they have in fact done you a favor. (Although you may not currently see it that way). The best thing for anyone is to have these sorts of ppl (toxic ppl) cut from their lives.

So my friend, try to look at it as a positive rather than a negative. Because a girl worth knowing wouldn't treat you that way.
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Old 01-06-2017
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My mum's kicking off and being "eccentric"... again. Why am I forced to suffer this immature, stupid behaviour?
Oh boy... "eccentric." I used to know a girl who covered all her shitty behavior with that word, that and "passionate." They're code words for childish.
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Oh boy... "eccentric." I used to know a girl who covered all her shitty behavior with that word, that and "passionate." They're code words for childish.
Aye, that's true. I'm getting really fed-up with having to put up with it, though.
Just having to accept it, otherwise I'm an "uptight" arsehole.

It's stressful being only member of my immediate family who's self-aware enough to realise people tend to treat ya based upon how you treat them or conduct yerself. Y'know the hilarious thing is, my family would contextualise what I just said there as me saying I'm better than them were I to actually say that out loud. Can't win at all.
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its interesting how a girl can call you on the phone, be excited to talk to you, literally say she loves you ..and then 24 hours later just erase you from her life...after a year and a half of this she just suddenly says she doesnt want to be friends with me anymore, blocks my number, and pretty much erases any sign that ANYTHING ever happened between us.......its almost feels like she's just finished with me..i had served my purpose in her life so she just threw me away.


after all the times i was there for her and listened to her cry and talk about her life and how hard things are for her, tried to give her advice, was there for her when she felt completly alone......after a year and a half of that she just throws me away like I'm nothing.
You should never give a woman more than she gives to you. Many women can not, and will not respect a man who does that.
Not saying that you did that but it sounds like you were there for her a lot from what you wrote here.
The best thing to do in this situation is to learn from it and give the next one less of your attention.
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Old 01-07-2017
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"Novelty is one of the keys to happiness". Interesting...
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Aye, that's true. I'm getting really fed-up with having to put up with it, though.
Just having to accept it, otherwise I'm an "uptight" arsehole.

It's stressful being only member of my immediate family who's self-aware enough to realise people tend to treat ya based upon how you treat them or conduct yerself. Y'know the hilarious thing is, my family would contextualise what I just said there as me saying I'm better than them were I to actually say that out loud. Can't win at all.
I hear you. Any time I'd get fed up she'd try to twist it around like I was the one with a problem. "God, you're so petulant! or "Are you a woman?"

Just remember that you're actually the one who's well in this situation. They're simply trying to maintain the status quo and keep things the way they are.

You don't have to win the argument to be right.
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It's a hard life when you're loving but ugly.
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I hear you. Any time I'd get fed up she'd try to twist it around like I was the one with a problem. "God, you're so petulant! or "Are you a woman?"

Just remember that you're actually the one who's well in this situation. They're simply trying to maintain the status quo and keep things the way they are.

You don't have to win the argument to be right.
I'll try and keep that in mind, as far as being well goes. Gonnae be difficult, mind you. Since it's always me who is made-out to be bad guy most of the time. It's not easy being blamed for someone else's faults.

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It's a hard life when you're loving but ugly.
Same here, mate. Even though most probably wouldn't consider me ugly - but that's BDD for ya. Though, I've got a disability to contend with - so it's not like I've got it any easier, myself.
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It's difficult trying fit in socially when ya standout so much from those around you.
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Old 01-08-2017
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It's difficult trying fit in socially when ya standout so much from those around you.
It's nigh upon impossible, mate.
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I am not a huge fan of Joni Mitchell's music, though her lyrics are very good-I do really like her and respect her very much as a person after I watched an interview with her. She's a better artist than a musician imo, she paints amazing landscapes. Also, she speaks the truth about society more poetically and intelligently than anyone I have ever heard.
She's a massive recluse too which makes her my hero.
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Old 01-08-2017
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I'm a broken man. There, ah f**kin' said it. I'm miserable as f**k. Yay! You win, family!

It's always my fault. I'm always the bad guy, just like ma dad. The cold, inconsiderate, selfish [email protected]$%@*! Or so I keep getting told, anyway.
Must be true then, huh?
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Old 01-09-2017
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She exists to me now as memories and a selection of vestigial entries on contact lists. Entries that I can only assume will never say "Online" again.

Someday I'll accept this, and I'll move on.
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Old 01-11-2017
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She exists to me now as memories and a selection of vestigial entries on contact lists. Entries that I can only assume will never say "Online" again.

Someday I'll accept this, and I'll move on.
That's tough sledding; I wish you the best.
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It has been a while since I have been on here. My laptop broke and since I am broke I am making do with some old computers now.
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It has been a while since I have been on here.
Hey! Long time no see. Welcome back, Hoppy.

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My laptop broke and since I am broke I am making do with some old computers now.
Not a bad idea, making the best of what you've got available.
Though, what you said, just reinforcing why I decided to keep my old laptop when I bought a newer one.
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I'm really scared for my future. I'm probably going to die of Alzheimer's or some type of dementia. Given how much information my brain has process at any one time. It's overwhelming, really. Stressful, even.

Since it's always down to me to remember things; beit: Being aware of posture and gait whilist walking - something that takes more focus when yer disabled. Or some trival info; what I said in a previous conversation, etc. Or more over, it's me correcting my own mother when she mispronounces a word or she'll feign being dumb and pretends not to know the words she's trying to say. Then she'll get irritiated by my correcting her, half-jokingly, half genuinely pissed off.

It's just frustrates me, because I'm not nearly as educated or as sophisticated as I might first appear to be.
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Old 01-12-2017
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I'm nervous but also excited to start this new job in february but right now I just have idle hands.

..and it doesnt help AT all that I miss my friend so much.. I know she's busy but I don't see why she can't just contact me a couple times a week at LEAST. There was no good reason for her to write me off COMPLETELY...at the beginning of the month she would call me almost everyday after work and then it seems like in the blink of an eye it all just changed.


Sometimes I wish I could forget about her, the way she has obviously forgotten about ME.....but then I listen to one of the voicemails she had sent me and I just want more than anything to be friends with her again..
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It has been a while since I have been on here. My laptop broke and since I am broke I am making do with some old computers now.
Good to hear from you again, Hoppy, hope things are OK despite being broke.
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Old 01-13-2017
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..and it doesnt help AT all that I miss my friend so much.. I know she's busy but I don't see why she can't just contact me a couple times a week at LEAST. There was no good reason for her to write me off COMPLETELY...at the beginning of the month she would call me almost everyday after work and then it seems like in the blink of an eye it all just changed.

Sometimes I wish I could forget about her, the way she has obviously forgotten about ME.....but then I listen to one of the voicemails she had sent me and I just want more than anything to be friends with her again..
You got KICKED IN THE GUTS mate, and it's gonna take a while to get your breath back. I'd probably react in the same way, or worse. That's why i tend to avoid personal dealings with people in general.
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