losttroy
Well-known member
Trying to Understand Me
I don't know what to do. I try to talk here in this forum and I seem to make mistakes, no matter how much I try to help. I have hurt a person who hurts just like I do sometimes, by implying he felt a certain way he does not feel!!
I have said all I know to say to him, and even tried to make things better by using one of my jokes about smoking and my OCDed hands being dirty. But he retains his anger, no matter. I don't know what else to do, except to say I am sorry I have made his pain worse.::
Another thread, there was a person who says she is tired of the attention she gets from guys because she happens to be an attractive person. I posted and tried to present the point that she should try to find someone who has had similar issues with girls, her kindred if you will, and hence would perhaps see beyond the exterior to where she wants him to.
I also was very offended by how much some posters claimed that basically "guys are just dogs who only care about one thing." I do believe sex is important to men, as much as it is important to women. But in my opinion, only ratbags care for nothing else in the package. Which was the thread maker's original dilemma.
Honorable men, those whom she needs to find, DO care about sex, and having it with their partner, but they, unlike the scum, will regard everything else about them too. Honest men will know without thinking she is not just a piece of meat, but a complex person who has feelings and hopes, and wishes to share those parts of herself also!
I blatantly misrepresented myself though, because I ended up hurting another person with my words.
And finally, I made a post in the thread about Why girls seem to like bad guys, more than nice ones. I admit I have now deleted that post, because it took someone to get me to see it was most certainly worded in such a way that presented me as a stupid fool who hates women because I cannot understand why they do what they do!! I just couldn't bear to leave it up for any more eyes to witness. And I truly apologize to anyone who did see it before I could remove it.
It is true I will never understand the person I love sometimes. Happily the one I love hates bad people, because so many have hurt her in the past. I also don't understand why some girls like what they like, other than to say what I said in that thread. I said that girls are more emotionally active than men are. I said this because I believe they are arguably the most emotional creatures in the world. That's not a bad thing though!! Women must be more emotionally charged than men because they are the mothers of our race, and have to have the tools necessary to endure the hardships of potentially baring, then raising a child.
I believe this aspect is also the reason women go to the extremes they go to sometimes. True love, romance, bitter hatred, lifelong happiness, these are the fruits of Man's beloved Womankind!! And it all comes from that emotional well. I love that about my opposing sex, and I wouldn't want it any other way! But I, like millions of other men, retain my OCEAN of misunderstandings for how girls really feel. As much as I wish it, there is no way for me to read a girl's mind. I mean, they have a film called "What Women Want." Why would such a movie ever be made if the issue was not considerably common amongst guys?
And the post I made, I stated all those things. It is just I stated them while trying to be the humor-blind ****head I seem to turn into when I start typing on a keyboard!!!
I once created a character I "played" if you will on forums like this called Pizza Dude. This was a way for me to talk to others, but be safe behind a more confident surfer dude-like mask. But I sometimes caused problems for people with it. So, I stopped posting at that forum, and killed the plans I had for a new board also, because the stupid **** was causing someone dear to me to think I was something other than who I am.
It comes out sometimes, though no matter what I do, when I visit these places. I am SOOO sorry if I have hurt anyone with my stupid ****, and I wish I could have helped someone with my words.
Do, you ever feel like you have offended anyone on here?
I don't know what to do. I try to talk here in this forum and I seem to make mistakes, no matter how much I try to help. I have hurt a person who hurts just like I do sometimes, by implying he felt a certain way he does not feel!!
I have said all I know to say to him, and even tried to make things better by using one of my jokes about smoking and my OCDed hands being dirty. But he retains his anger, no matter. I don't know what else to do, except to say I am sorry I have made his pain worse.::
Another thread, there was a person who says she is tired of the attention she gets from guys because she happens to be an attractive person. I posted and tried to present the point that she should try to find someone who has had similar issues with girls, her kindred if you will, and hence would perhaps see beyond the exterior to where she wants him to.
I also was very offended by how much some posters claimed that basically "guys are just dogs who only care about one thing." I do believe sex is important to men, as much as it is important to women. But in my opinion, only ratbags care for nothing else in the package. Which was the thread maker's original dilemma.
Honorable men, those whom she needs to find, DO care about sex, and having it with their partner, but they, unlike the scum, will regard everything else about them too. Honest men will know without thinking she is not just a piece of meat, but a complex person who has feelings and hopes, and wishes to share those parts of herself also!
I blatantly misrepresented myself though, because I ended up hurting another person with my words.
And finally, I made a post in the thread about Why girls seem to like bad guys, more than nice ones. I admit I have now deleted that post, because it took someone to get me to see it was most certainly worded in such a way that presented me as a stupid fool who hates women because I cannot understand why they do what they do!! I just couldn't bear to leave it up for any more eyes to witness. And I truly apologize to anyone who did see it before I could remove it.
It is true I will never understand the person I love sometimes. Happily the one I love hates bad people, because so many have hurt her in the past. I also don't understand why some girls like what they like, other than to say what I said in that thread. I said that girls are more emotionally active than men are. I said this because I believe they are arguably the most emotional creatures in the world. That's not a bad thing though!! Women must be more emotionally charged than men because they are the mothers of our race, and have to have the tools necessary to endure the hardships of potentially baring, then raising a child.
I believe this aspect is also the reason women go to the extremes they go to sometimes. True love, romance, bitter hatred, lifelong happiness, these are the fruits of Man's beloved Womankind!! And it all comes from that emotional well. I love that about my opposing sex, and I wouldn't want it any other way! But I, like millions of other men, retain my OCEAN of misunderstandings for how girls really feel. As much as I wish it, there is no way for me to read a girl's mind. I mean, they have a film called "What Women Want." Why would such a movie ever be made if the issue was not considerably common amongst guys?
And the post I made, I stated all those things. It is just I stated them while trying to be the humor-blind ****head I seem to turn into when I start typing on a keyboard!!!
I once created a character I "played" if you will on forums like this called Pizza Dude. This was a way for me to talk to others, but be safe behind a more confident surfer dude-like mask. But I sometimes caused problems for people with it. So, I stopped posting at that forum, and killed the plans I had for a new board also, because the stupid **** was causing someone dear to me to think I was something other than who I am.
It comes out sometimes, though no matter what I do, when I visit these places. I am SOOO sorry if I have hurt anyone with my stupid ****, and I wish I could have helped someone with my words.
Do, you ever feel like you have offended anyone on here?
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