recluse
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You know they say that a partner/wife/husband who accuses the other of cheating must be cheating themselves, because they try to shift their guilt....Is this always the case?
All my life i have had to endure my mother accusing my dad of cheating, even though he goes nowhere apart from work. My mother's accusations have even made me distrustful of my dad even though i know that my mother's thoughts are irrational. A few years ago my parents seperated for a few months because my mother accused him of having an affair with his friend's wife, the most embarassing thing was when his friend's wife came to confront my mother.......And she was pissed off! This was a very confusing and upsetting time for me as i was in the middle of my GCSE'S (final year school exams in the UK).....I could not concentrate on anything as all i could think of was; Did my dad really cheat? What if i never see him again?...All kinds of shit was going through my mind.
Anyway after i started college my mother also did a part time course in another college and soon after she had come to pick me up from the bus stop in her car, and in the passenger seat was a man she had met on her course...''Her friend''....I felt angry and hurt....She was the one being disloyal to my dad and not him..Even though i had no proof that he was more than a friend. Anyway who turned up unanounced was my dad...He still had a key for the house and he walked in to see my mum sitting down holding hands with this man....Obviously my dad was pissed off and the next time he came to take me for a day out he kept asking me, as if he was suspicious if i knew what was going on...And i answered that i had only met that guy on that night and i had no clue, which was the truth. My dad was pissed off and said that he's slit the guys throat if he saw him there again.
Anyway i felt torn between my mother and my father..Not knowing who to trust. They got back together and i had to listen as my dad told my mum that he was thinking of killing himself when they had split....Not nice to hear. Nothing has changed though as my mother still accuses my dad of all sorts. He's going away on an annual training course for three days with his work tomorrow and my mother is going mad...She even says she is ill to stop him from going as she seems to think he's going to get up to no good.
All my life i have had to endure my mother accusing my dad of cheating, even though he goes nowhere apart from work. My mother's accusations have even made me distrustful of my dad even though i know that my mother's thoughts are irrational. A few years ago my parents seperated for a few months because my mother accused him of having an affair with his friend's wife, the most embarassing thing was when his friend's wife came to confront my mother.......And she was pissed off! This was a very confusing and upsetting time for me as i was in the middle of my GCSE'S (final year school exams in the UK).....I could not concentrate on anything as all i could think of was; Did my dad really cheat? What if i never see him again?...All kinds of shit was going through my mind.
Anyway after i started college my mother also did a part time course in another college and soon after she had come to pick me up from the bus stop in her car, and in the passenger seat was a man she had met on her course...''Her friend''....I felt angry and hurt....She was the one being disloyal to my dad and not him..Even though i had no proof that he was more than a friend. Anyway who turned up unanounced was my dad...He still had a key for the house and he walked in to see my mum sitting down holding hands with this man....Obviously my dad was pissed off and the next time he came to take me for a day out he kept asking me, as if he was suspicious if i knew what was going on...And i answered that i had only met that guy on that night and i had no clue, which was the truth. My dad was pissed off and said that he's slit the guys throat if he saw him there again.
Anyway i felt torn between my mother and my father..Not knowing who to trust. They got back together and i had to listen as my dad told my mum that he was thinking of killing himself when they had split....Not nice to hear. Nothing has changed though as my mother still accuses my dad of all sorts. He's going away on an annual training course for three days with his work tomorrow and my mother is going mad...She even says she is ill to stop him from going as she seems to think he's going to get up to no good.