Overthinking
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Was there alcohol and/or sugar involved? This can usually make things worse, as both depelete some important vitamins/minerals. I just adjust to the thought of feeling sucky a day or so after socializing.. I don't take those thoughts as 'realistic', it's probably just lack of vitamins/minerals and 'aftermath' in overdrive..
On the other hand, it may help you to journal and write down your worries and 'worst case scenarios' and what you can do if these happen? And then counter that with 'best case scenarios'? (And know truth is usually inbetween?)
Eating something with protein can help balance and 'level' blood sugar, and eating stuff with the important minerals/vitamins can help... (It depends on your overall nutrition and what you ate at the party...) Magnesium, calcium, B vitamins etc are some to watch out for..
It's good you are recognizing patterns!!
Some selfishness can be healthy, on the other hand even a selfish person benefits if others around them are happy too, sooo... maybe those people just haven't reached a level of 'enlightenment' or understanding yet?
On the other hand, it may help you to journal and write down your worries and 'worst case scenarios' and what you can do if these happen? And then counter that with 'best case scenarios'? (And know truth is usually inbetween?)
Eating something with protein can help balance and 'level' blood sugar, and eating stuff with the important minerals/vitamins can help... (It depends on your overall nutrition and what you ate at the party...) Magnesium, calcium, B vitamins etc are some to watch out for..
It's good you are recognizing patterns!!
Some selfishness can be healthy, on the other hand even a selfish person benefits if others around them are happy too, sooo... maybe those people just haven't reached a level of 'enlightenment' or understanding yet?
Kiwong
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I feel exactly the same as you, Phocas. After some days at work I can't stop worrying and thinking about what has happened during the day. The place I work is an unhealthy environment that has been one of the biggest causes of my worsening anxiety over the last ten years.
Like you I create scenarios that are often not true, but make me physically ill nevertheless. The worrying scenarios are triggered by negative past experiences in that place. Many times I have phoned a free telephone counselling service someotimes I feel better after that.
The way I deal with it is by taking a step back and testing whether the scenario is real. If someone is being negative towards me, I like to prove myself that I am doing OK, by responding positively by working harder.
I am thankful that at the end of each day I can escape into my running. Running is a lifesaver for me.
Like you I create scenarios that are often not true, but make me physically ill nevertheless. The worrying scenarios are triggered by negative past experiences in that place. Many times I have phoned a free telephone counselling service someotimes I feel better after that.
The way I deal with it is by taking a step back and testing whether the scenario is real. If someone is being negative towards me, I like to prove myself that I am doing OK, by responding positively by working harder.
I am thankful that at the end of each day I can escape into my running. Running is a lifesaver for me.
Seasons
Well-known member
Sometimes unpleasant things happen at work. They can be bad even if they don't involve you directly. If I don't feel like the environment is truly nice and things artificial I try to keep the lowest profile I can. That way, the chances of being messed with will decrease and if it is not with me then I try to get as far away from it as possible. Selfish probably but I prefer to think about it as self-preservation :
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Dronee
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Without going into details, some of the socialising at work has been unpleasant. I have realised that it is simply people being inconsiderate and selfish.
The trouble is that I am now overthinking it and worrying way too much. I am imagining all sorts of possible scenarios based around it and losing sleep.
On a positive I am recognising this as a pattern of thinking that has caused me huge problems in the past.
I need to learn how to switch off this type of thinking so that it doesn't eat away inside my head.
Thoughts? Experiences?
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You're a teacher or at least an educator of some sort? Teaching is a noble profession, I don't care what anyone says. You're a teacher. If you're like many teachers I know, you're not doing it for money, but because you want to teach. That is a reflection of nobility. Who cares what your others may be gossiping about. If other teachers are being nasty to you, then it's just their failure, not yours. Teachers are supposed to have good character, no?
At least that's what I think.
Blinkers
Active member
My workplace is full of gossip, bitchiness and backstabbing. I really can't stand it and I'm sure it shows as my work mates don't seem to include me in the conversations anymore. Which is fine by me, but it would be nice to have one pleasant conversation during an 8 shift.
I have to spend a few minutes in my car before going inside my workplace just to "psych myself" and put on my "invisible armor". It has certainly alienated me, but if I didn't do this I would have left a long time ago...
I have to spend a few minutes in my car before going inside my workplace just to "psych myself" and put on my "invisible armor". It has certainly alienated me, but if I didn't do this I would have left a long time ago...
IamThisOne
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I always deal with bad or painful thoughts or memories. My therapist suggested that I pinch myself or snap myself with a rubber band to get my mind off the bad thoughts. It works sometimes.