Opposite sex

NightTimeForever

Well-known member
I'd say this is where the majority of my SA lays. Despire encouraging comments from others, I don't have the confidence in that area. Of course, it doesn't help that some members of the same gender have been less than "silent" in their negative opinions on the subject.

I dunno, maybe I really don't deserve confidence. It's just frustrating...very, very frustrating :evil:
 

hoddesdon

Well-known member
One of the hallmarks of this website are all the negative, self-defeating thoughts e.g. "maybe I really don't deserve confidence". They are an integral part of social phobia (I read that a little while back).

Obviously, I have them myself, and have had them in the past. I can look back at mistakes I have made because of them, and, more particularly, because I did not recognise them for what they were. If I had recognised them as part of this medical condition, then I may not have just accepted them as reality.

Perhaps it would be a good idea for everyone to recognise them for what they are, and be mistrustful of them. Perhaps then self-fulfilling prophecies would not be set up.
 
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