Online Dating vs Old Fashioned Dating

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Gadfly

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You'll soon have a penis picture collage. It's what guys do...or at least the ones with few other assets. I'd offer mine to pad your collection, but I'm a grower not a shower. Online is a perfectly valid way to find dates assuming you're contacting people you can feasibly (and quickly) meet in person. You'll find a lot of men eager for a hookup, which many women have a problem with, so keep your guard up if that doesn't suit you. An erect penis makes for a forked tongue. From the female end, men need to watch out for the large minority of women who really don't ever want to meet, those who prefer the fantasy and safety of endless cyber romance. If someone is hesitant to meet and the excuses keep coming week after week, don't waste your time. Even the most thorough communications online don't approximate real interaction. You may know their history inside and out, know their voice and face from Skype and have been pals for years, but the moment you meet, it's a fresh start.

Beware of the bad pennies...
 
bleach

bleach

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online dating seems like a waste of time for a man, the technology makes it too easy for your competition to "approach" far more women then they ever could in person, which forces you to do the same thing just to get a response from anyone. writing thoughtful messages doesn't help because the girls either never read it because they all have full mailboxes or already got a one liner from a hotter/richer guy (one of the hundreds he spammed ut that week), so you are forced to do the same thing, just churn and burn through hundreds of profiles wth the same basic message. actually I'm not sure how this is in anyone's best interest, if you are looking for a real relationship. I heard eharmony and other pay sites are better, but when I filld out the eharmony questionnaire after 2 hours the site told me it couldn't match me with anyone, so there as no point buying an account. anyway I will be sticking with real life, where it is a lot scarier but at least I never get ignored and disregarded like I am irrelevant.
 
Hellhound

Hellhound

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I've always prefered online. It's easier for me to get to know others than seeing them in person right away.
 
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Gadfly

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In my experience, as a middle aged cat herder, the online competition is so weak that it makes even me look good in comparison. I've never spammed people with prefabricated solicitations, I just converse about what interests me. Don't fake it.
 
FallenFeathers

FallenFeathers

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I love lions said:
I want to know what you guys think?
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I prefer old fashioned dating. Don't get me wrong I wouldn't rule out dating someone I got to know online, but I have never liked the idea of using online sites because things seem to fall into place for me better when they occur naturally.

I think there are creeps online for sure, the internet seems to attract them sadly (and by creeps I mean predators and the like), but at the same time as you said, you would face the same risks meeting someone In say a club or whatever. Take away the fact some people are not who they pretend to be, there are hidden depths/sides to everyone we don't always get to see until spending time with them, that applies online and in person.

As for the picture, that would be your choice. But I think most sites recommend you add one, we all know meaningful relations go beyond looks, but online where you don't really have the chance to meet in person and have that chemistry just click with your personalities, how you look is probably going to be the thing which will attract people initially.
 
NathanielWingatePeaslee

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This gave me a good laugh. It's not a scientific study, but it's quite likely true nonetheless.


CNET said:
OkCupid experiment proves men don't mind dating sociopaths

Here's a fascinating experiment: A woman's profile -- full of obvious red flags -- is put up on dating site OkCupid. Within hours "she" is inundated with romantic messages. Men just look at the pictures? Really?
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OkCupid experiment proves men don't mind dating sociopaths | Technically Incorrect - CNET News
 
Xervello

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Definitely prefer Pespi over Coke. Oh, wait, wrong thread.

For the record, yes, people can't really "date" online as was suggested, but that's not to mean people can't find love via an online relationship. I, too, used to believe that physical chemistry was needed in order to deem something love. But if a person can have an emotional connection with someone online that impacts them physically in a profound way, is that not love? I've since changed my mind. I believe it is.

But if one is capable of dating the old-fashioned way, that's the best way to go.
 
KiaKaha

KiaKaha

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Dating eh?

Pfff.

What a load of disappointment.

Not that I am bitter or anything.

Rule number 1 - move fast act like a lover not a friend - as soon as you see an opening swoop in.
Rule number 2 - Don't show one single smidgen of insecurity EVER.
Rule number 3 - Never EVER get your expectations up - in fact I would call this one 'the golden rule' - feeling a moment of happiness with someone? Crush it.... crush it fast to ensure that it doesn't morph into something more than a fleeting emotion.
Rule number 4 - Be nice but not TOO nice - there is an ultimate, extremely delicate balance between success and failure.
Rule number 5 - after it inevitably ends - move on, go to SPW and make a rant about - add the experience to the long list of failures resulting in your bitterness, confusion, heart ache and despair - further repelling any future potential dates.

Rule number 6 which particularly applies to emotional masochists - repeat rules 1 through 5

and so on and so forth...
 
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megalon

megalon

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This might be straying off the topic a little bit. I was debating making it a new thread, but I decided to put it in this one instead. Anyway, one thing I am currently having much trouble with in the online scene is knowing how and when to go past the initial 'asking questions' stage. It always turns out we message back and forth a few times asking questions about the other one's profile. I get stuck there, not knowing how to proceed, until one or both of us loses interest. It never fails.
 
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awkwardamanda

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Xervello said:
But if a person can have an emotional connection with someone online that impacts them physically in a profound way, is that not love? I've since changed my mind. I believe it is.
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The trouble is, if you haven't actually met them yet, it's too easy to fill in the blanks and imagine them however you want to. That's more like infatuation with some made-up version of them.
 
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