Not showing care, interest

anomicdeer

anomicdeer

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I don't know if this is an off topic thread but I posted it here anyway,

Anyone else find it difficult to care or have interest (like showing sympathy) when someone dies? I don't know why but I can't ever seem to care when someone dies. It doesn't make me cry. Whether it's a celebrity or someone in the family I never even meet. I haven't had many people that I know die. Only a grandmother and cousin (I didn't cry or feel bad). Plus I do fear sometimes my mother dying because I live with her and at the moment don't have a job but mainly because I wouldn't know what to do and I fear having to talk to other people on what to do and being responsible for funerals and stuff. Plus I have a child and having to work even harder is stressful even thinking about it.

Anyway, anyone else the same?
 
jimmy75

jimmy75

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It's similar for me except I do care about family members dying. If it's a stranger it doesn't really bother me. I used to think that something was wrong with me but I realised that the majority of people don't, in fact, care about strangers. I think most people just claim to give a damn about strangers they haven't met. So the fault isn't in me not caring about strangers, the fault lies in basic human nature and that we're only evolved to look after and care about our nearest relatives.
 
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jaim38

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2 of my relatives also passed away this past month! I also find it very hard to cry for people who I'm not close with. I'm not sure why, but probably growing up in an abnormal household has something to do with it. My brother hates to see me cry and often insults me for it. I've also learnt to suppress my emotions in the presence of bullies. I think I've harden myself / close myself to people so that I don't get hurt. Don't get me wrong, I may not cry in public but I do allow myself to mourn and grieve in private, feel the pain before moving on.
 
MikeyC

MikeyC

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People mourn differently to others. Crying doesn't always come by so easily. You might still feel a little sad but not to the point of shedding tears. That is normal.
 
Diend

Diend

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i think the funeral business is a huge money sink for those unable to afford it. treat the person better when they were alive. i am already happy that a person gets to live into old age and dies when they are senile and their body stops functioning. i have witness many of my relatives bodies shut down from old age. they no longer remember their loved ones or control their bodily functions. i will be happy if my parents die of old age and that i have been a filial son in their final years.
 
Kiwong

Kiwong

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When my mother died. It was like everything was held at arms length. My Mum didn't want to worry us children. I didn't cry much, I felt more fear, I had nightmares for a long time afterwards. I also felt guilt. How can possibly be doing so well, the most person in my life had died, and life goes on, and the family rarely talks about her anymore.
 
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