No one takes me seriously..

No one takes me seriously, no one ever did.
I always a really shy quiet person. Sometimes i wouldn't even say anything. I was very anxious and suffered from social anxiety through most of my life but i'm getting better now and a bit more confident and i'm able to speak out a bit more, but people don't take me seriously..!!
When i speak no one takes me seriously, they're like ''oh ok yea'' like they were humoring me..
No one tells me anything..I'm 17 and currently repeating the leaving cert. My friends have gone on to college and i haven't talked to them. I knew a few girls in repeat and i hang out with them but they tell me nothing, they don't include me in anything..the worst thing is i've known them for about 6 years and i still can't have a proper conversation with them. They can have better conversations with people they just met this year.
They don't take me seriously. I feel like they are humoring me and just putting up with me because i have no one else. At lunch i dropped a bit of lettuce out of my sandwich without realising and one of them said after ''who dropped the lettuce!'' they said it like they were giving out in a sarcastic way, just having a slag..and i said it was me..''oh i thought it was one of the others, i was gonna say something about it but since its you its ok''..
I'm gonna take it seriously, i'm more relaxed than they give me credit for. It is my own fault though for being really quiet and shy. I'm way too quiet around them and i just don't know what to say when i'm with them. I'm better at talking to other people but them i'm just blank..
Even other people don't take me seriously, people i've only known this year. I say nothing around them, i mind my own business, i try to make an effort but they look at me like i've 5 heads..i don't know what i'm doing but i could never make an impact on people, i have no best friends or anyone close and to me that is kinda sad. I feel so lonely and sad all the time because of it..!!
People love my friends and always talk to them and refer to them as the 4 of them, it's like i'm invisible..it's like people try to avoid me and i can't figure out why, because i haven't really spoken out or done anything to give myself a bad name, i don't know what to do?!..
I should have made a better effort with people and i feel so bad about it!!
I feel abnormal and so lonely..I need to change, i want to be taken seriously and treated my age..I need help!!
(sorry if it was too long but i really needed to let it out and talk)

It's hard for anyone to be taken seriously, especially as a teenager. Speaking up more and voicing your own opinions on matters is a great way to be taken more seriously, but if you're finding it hard to talk to your friends, then that will be very difficult.

On a related note, you say you're better at talking to other people than your group of friends. Are you sure you would want to hang around these people, then? They don't sound like the kind of people you can connect with on any level.

No their not. I wouldn't be that mad about them but i have no one else and i just have to put up with them for this year before college. I just need to able to speak out a bit more and voice my opinion more but i never know what to say and i come off as childish. they don't take me seriously and i'm afraid they are going to forget about me.
They're very popular people and everyone likes them but people don't seem to be too bothered with me but it's my own fault because i don't speak out, yet they look at me like i have 5 heads but they never even tried to get to know me and got to know my friends. Do i look weird or something? I know i'm quiet but i really need to change and talk out a bit more, i need advice!!

Well, I don't really have any professional advice. If a topic comes up that you're interested in and you have opinions, voice them. Your friends might actually like you talking a bit more. That's all I can really offer at this stage in terms of advice. Sorry. :/

Hi Nelly.

I've been in your situation for the longest time. You mentioned that people sometimes look at you strange, as if you're an alien. I feel that way even with my own parents. I've only gotten mad about it and I don't know if that's really the way to go. For a short period of times (like about 3 months), I really tried to open up, but after that 3 months, I realize that even now, I'm still treated like I was before. Nobody gives a damn about what I think, what I have to say, and what my plans about anything are.

I'm sorry you feel this way, and I know I can only do so much over the internet, but I feel like you have alot to say about alot of things, not just about this subject. Are you planning on going to college? Because I know that college is a breeding ground for new lives. Growing up with the people you know and trying to change what they know about you is a little on the difficult side because they are used to you being the way you are.

I know that you know it's alot easier to make a first impression other than change an existing one. What about trying to talk to a group of people you don't normally do? You'd be suprised on who you can make a connection with.

Thanks Blannabers.
I'm the same i get really annoyed about it!! People just look at me like i have 5 heads without even getting to know me. I need to talk out more though.
Yes i am planning on going to college, and i really want things to be different. I want to go out more and relax and fun but at the minute i have a lot of feelings to get out and anxiety to overcome. It makes me feel better to know someone else felt this way!

(sorry if i'm babbling)

I've been told I'm too serious by many people. Then I've also had things I've said not taken seriously because I'm so shy. It's just tough being shy in many ways. Things have ways of going against you.

OceanMist said:

I've been told I'm too serious by many people. Then I've also had things I've said not taken seriously because I'm so shy. It's just tough being shy in many ways. Things have ways of going against you.

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I know exactly how you feel. People have told me i'm too serious and need to relax. It's very tough especially when no one understands and it's easy to get left behind. I have no one at the minute and i think back at all the opportunities i missed for possible friendships because i was so shy and anxious. I'm getting better but still having a lot of trouble holding onto friends.