need some advice

well first of all Hi, im new here and i think i have SA.

So i dropped out of school a while ago, this because it was just way too stressfull. It was always one problem after another, also the idea of all the presentations and interviews i had to do was really freaking me out.

Also i find it really difficult to talk about it, or anything else for that matter. posting this is difficult enough. so when someone asks me why i stopped going to school or stuff like that i can hardly say anything, a yes or no at best.

so i'm getting admitted in a mental institution or something like that and i have to go there in a few days for a talk. and if taking the bus there is already way too scary, talking to those people there will just be impossible. I really dont know what to do anymore...

any advice?...

I understand dropping out of school as I was this close -- to dropping out myself. Being admitted to a mental illness facility is wrong, as social phobia is not that kind of mental illness! it's just an anxiety/fear disorder. So there's no reason for you to have to go through that level of treatment. I think you should discuss SA with your parents and show them the resources you've no doubt found on the web and also explain to them that this is the cause of you being unable to stick with school. You need to try and find proper help like a CBT therapist or something in your area, or talk to your doctor.

I dropped out of schoo lfor the same reasons you described. It was hard as hell to do for me because I'd worked so hard prior to my decision (I was a top 5 student). I knew I could do well on the SAT and I could get into college with that and a G.E.D., but I found it extremely difficult to say what I had to say that day in the guidance counselor's office. I admit, I cried, but I got out my feelings. One of the biggest parts of getting treatment is communicating with your doctors. I guess I have no other advice than to fight that choking feeling and cry it out if you must, but communicate what you have to say, and everything that you have to say. It's huge.

Peace

I dropped out of school in tenth grade. I wasn't a dumb guy, just couldn't handle the social pressures.

A mental institution seems a little extreme, but if you've got people who will take you that seriously, then go for it. Like you said, it's only for a few days. Hopefully you'll be able to get the help you need.

The main thing is talking to people who can help. It may be one of the hardest things for anyone, especially someone with SP, but reaching out and asking for help is the best thing you can do right now. In fact, it's the first step on the path to getting better.

Take advantage of the opportunity to speak with some medical professionals, even if it means stepping inside a mental institution. Heck, I had a meltdown pretty recently and spent five days in a hospital. There's actually something comforting about knowing that people are being nice to me only because they're being paid to. That is, you're not left wondering if they're sincere or not--because obviously...they're not. Long story short, my time in the hospital was a much needed break. Hopefully the mental institution will be a similar experience for you.

It sounds to me like you really need someone to talk to, some that you feel like you can trust. Although the internet is a good resource for finding support, there is something to be said about an unbiased professional trained to listen to your concerns and help you to talk through the difficult feelings you are dealing with. There is a new website called http://GoodTherapy.org which has an international search engine of accredited therapists and counselors who beileve in person-centered non-pathologising therapy. It is free, easy to use and run by real people who have your best interests at heart. I highly recommend their services. You are never alone.