upupandaway
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Hello, I’m new to the forums.
I have a friend that I really care for, and she is going through some rough times at the moment, and I’m not sure what I can do or say, to cheer her up. She has had ‘those types of thoughts’ but is unwilling to take it further because she doesn’t want to dishonor her family. She has shared that without my friendship, she would not have been able to go on for as long as she had.
Here’s her situation,
She keeps eating, even when she has no craving. She has shared with me that she would like to eat to the point of her body exploding, so that she has no body and nobody remembers her.
She imagines inappropriate thoughts like dirty jokes and things of a sexual nature, while working.
She is afraid of her future. She is an actuary, but doesn’t like her job. She wants to return to grad school to get her master’s degree, but is not sure if she will exceed in other areas.
She thinks all the mistakes she has made in the past, will be repeated.
She feels lonely, like she has been abandoned. She shared that people are born alone and pass away alone, therefore, it must be natural to be alone. She’s unable to forget why people left her, leaving her alone.
She went through a depressing period in her life, and was frustrated because she felt so lonely, despite being in a live-in arrangement with her then ex-fiance. She couldn’t shake off the loneliness. After her breakup, she believed that she’ll never feel lonely if she was committed to somebody. She dated her friend’s acquaintance, saying beforehand that she will give up her life to him, whether she was attracted to him or not. After that meeting, she was so suffocated that she cried afterwards, feeling miserable.
Other people have told her that everything will be okay, but she says, “How can you understand me, when you’re not me?”
She has drinked herself to the point of being drunk and watched porn. She feels, that others would view her as being ‘sick and disgusting.’ She feels like a jerk by telling me all her negative feelings, and believes she is ruining our friendship and that I am disappointed in her.
She feels that she has to find meaningful things in her life to stand all her negative events. She hasn’t found one yet. Overall, she’s not sure how to feel better.
Again, would like some advice on how to cheer her up. Hoping for favorable responses.
I have a friend that I really care for, and she is going through some rough times at the moment, and I’m not sure what I can do or say, to cheer her up. She has had ‘those types of thoughts’ but is unwilling to take it further because she doesn’t want to dishonor her family. She has shared that without my friendship, she would not have been able to go on for as long as she had.
Here’s her situation,
She keeps eating, even when she has no craving. She has shared with me that she would like to eat to the point of her body exploding, so that she has no body and nobody remembers her.
She imagines inappropriate thoughts like dirty jokes and things of a sexual nature, while working.
She is afraid of her future. She is an actuary, but doesn’t like her job. She wants to return to grad school to get her master’s degree, but is not sure if she will exceed in other areas.
She thinks all the mistakes she has made in the past, will be repeated.
She feels lonely, like she has been abandoned. She shared that people are born alone and pass away alone, therefore, it must be natural to be alone. She’s unable to forget why people left her, leaving her alone.
She went through a depressing period in her life, and was frustrated because she felt so lonely, despite being in a live-in arrangement with her then ex-fiance. She couldn’t shake off the loneliness. After her breakup, she believed that she’ll never feel lonely if she was committed to somebody. She dated her friend’s acquaintance, saying beforehand that she will give up her life to him, whether she was attracted to him or not. After that meeting, she was so suffocated that she cried afterwards, feeling miserable.
Other people have told her that everything will be okay, but she says, “How can you understand me, when you’re not me?”
She has drinked herself to the point of being drunk and watched porn. She feels, that others would view her as being ‘sick and disgusting.’ She feels like a jerk by telling me all her negative feelings, and believes she is ruining our friendship and that I am disappointed in her.
She feels that she has to find meaningful things in her life to stand all her negative events. She hasn’t found one yet. Overall, she’s not sure how to feel better.
Again, would like some advice on how to cheer her up. Hoping for favorable responses.