My crush, is he shy?

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maddielol

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he acts friendly and nice towards his co workers
but when im there he suddenly gets quiet
he acts nervous, sometimes he will smile at me.
Before he would always be willing to check out my books, and smile and laugh along with me.
Id always kind of blush when he;d talk.
Until i came over to him asked him for a stapler, and he fumbled over, and he dropped some papers, he seemed nervous. he was fidgeting.
And I always catch him looking at me, whenever I walk up the stairs etc.


But recently, its like he wants nothing to do with me?
Whenever i walk in, he will be up at the front but when he sees me coming, he turns around and gets all quiet when he was talking to his co-worker. Then his co-worker gives me this knowing look.
He wont be around me at all. He finds ways to avoid me.

Whats going on
 
mrb

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sounds to me like hes a bit scared cos he likes you 2 much .... its funny really i am a little like that myself sometimes , if flirt a little with a woman i smile talk to her , then when she starts doing it back i sometimes get a little paranoid , god knows why ? must be an sa thing ....
 
Tiercel

Tiercel

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To me it sounds like he really likes you, but is trying to get over it. Like he really likes you, but never says anything about it and figures he has no chance with you. So he's avoiding you because just being near you has become a torment for him.

That's basically the story of my life. ;)
 
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Ignace

Ignace

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Ask him why he's avoiding you and be friendly. You got 50% chance of being honest, if he says he's not in love with you, he's probably lying. Or you must have done something ****ty towards him, maybe something that you are not even aware from. So OR he hates you OR he's in love with you. Probably the 2nd one, so grab your chance !
 
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this_portrait

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I tend to act in a similar way toward guys I like, because I don't want them to think I'm smitten with them. The last time I told a guy I liked him, things went downhill from there, and I lost the chance of even having a lasting friendship. So now I'm pretending to not be as interested in the current guy I like whenever I communicate with him, and it's kinda driving me up the wall.

I would agree with Tiercel on this one. If I were you, I'd just try to talk to him more. Smile and say hello. Ask how his day is going. Things like that. Act friendly towards him, but try to not stumble over your words when you talk to him.
 
BlackPuma

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It difficult to say why he's avoiding you. It does sounds like he likes you, though. C:

I'm afraid he's really the only one who can confirm whether he likes you or not.
 
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maddielol

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Tiercel said:
To me it sounds like he really likes you, but is trying to get over it. Like he really likes you, but never says anything about it and figures he has no chance with you. So he's avoiding you because just being near you has become a torment for him.

That's basically the story of my life. ;)
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But I never did anything wrong to him.
I am always nice and considerate to him and the other works. Im smiling and being polite and respectful.

Besides I haven't seen him in awhile until this week and I almost fainted because I think he is so beautiful, but hes totally avoiding me.
WHen i walk in he wont even turn around, or he'll look like hes busy..
 
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maddielol

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Ignace said:
Ask him why he's avoiding you and be friendly. You got 50% chance of being honest, if he says he's not in love with you, he's probably lying. Or you must have done something ****ty towards him, maybe something that you are not even aware from. So OR he hates you OR he's in love with you. Probably the 2nd one, so grab your chance !
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I haven't done anything rude towards him..
 
Tiercel

Tiercel

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maddielol said:
But I never did anything wrong to him.
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It's not you, it's him. He's probably too shy to express his interest in you, and it's driving him nuts. I've been doing it my whole life, so I know what it's like. You really like someone, but you're afraid that if you tell her how you really feel it'll chase her away. And it really sucks being constantly rejected and feeling like you're never good enough for any woman. So instead of going through all that again, you just try to distance yourself from the source of all that internal stress.

Which in this case is you, I'm afraid.

;)
 
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maddielol

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Tiercel said:
It's not you, it's him. He's probably too shy to express his interest in you, and it's driving him nuts. I've been doing it my whole life, so I know what it's like. You really like someone, but you're afraid that if you tell her how you really feel it'll chase her away. And it really sucks being constantly rejected and feeling like you're never good enough for any woman. So instead of going through all that again, you just try to distance yourself from the source of all that internal stress.

Which in this case is you, I'm afraid.

;)
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Is that normal though?
Like before, he would talk and he'd be at the front downstairs and he'd watch me walk and he'd smile, he would actually LIFE HIS HEAD UP..
But now whenever i walk in, he like hides by talking to his coworker = using him as a distraction. Like he just wont even look at me.... and it makes me sad.
I want to confront him..
 
Tiercel

Tiercel

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If you like him, then by all means go after him. :D

As for being normal, though.... I know that type of behavior is normal for me, though I'm not sure how normal it is for shy guys in general. Mostly because I'm too shy to go around asking shy guys about their flirting techniques. So it could be entirely possible that he's just afraid that you'll find out that he likes you.

Good luck, maddie!

:D
 
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maddielol

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Tiercel said:
If you like him, then by all means go after him. :D

As for being normal, though.... I know that type of behavior is normal for me, though I'm not sure how normal it is for shy guys in general. Mostly because I'm too shy to go around asking shy guys about their flirting techniques. So it could be entirely possible that he's just afraid that you'll find out that he likes you.

Good luck, maddie!

:D
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Thank you
ugh
i will see him tomorrow...
watch he will avoid me.
 
shredman

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maddielol said:
Ok
he acts friendly and nice towards his co workers
but when im there he suddenly gets quiet
he acts nervous, sometimes he will smile at me.
Before he would always be willing to check out my books, and smile and laugh along with me.
Id always kind of blush when he;d talk.
Until i came over to him asked him for a stapler, and he fumbled over, and he dropped some papers, he seemed nervous. he was fidgeting.
And I always catch him looking at me, whenever I walk up the stairs etc.


But recently, its like he wants nothing to do with me?
Whenever i walk in, he will be up at the front but when he sees me coming, he turns around and gets all quiet when he was talking to his co-worker. Then his co-worker gives me this knowing look.
He wont be around me at all. He finds ways to avoid me.

Whats going on
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Im married with 2 kids now but I remember in my teens being like this guy. I remember times when girls that I'd exchanged 'glances' with would approach me and seeing them walking towards me, I would panic, turn and then briskly walk away (almost run) from them. They must have thought I was a real Ar**hole!! If you like him perservere and be patient with him. You will know if he is interested or not once you chat with him.
 
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