Miserable whining ...

mewdew

Member
I've been lurking these forums for a while and it just seems to me like everyone here is so miserable. Just like me...

I don't know, this just feels so wrong, don't you think? A lot of us are just posting here to whine about how awful our lives is... and it seems like there's nothing we can do to make it better.

I wish I have a different life...A life with a bunch of friends and a girlfriend and a fun outgoing personality.. that's what I want. Except I have an awful self image because I think i'm just not attractive, and I have awful social skills, and anxiety that makes daily life very uncomfortable. So I know I'll never have that life because as soon as I actually take the first step to try to change, I'll instantly sink back into my shell because of my low self esteem that leads to social anxiety. I'm stuck and there's nothing I can do!

So that's my story, we all have one. And it looks like a lot of people are stuck in the same situation as me.

How are we supposed to get "better"?! nothing ever changes, I bet many of us have been trying for so long. For me, I've tried therapy, medication, and I've had good people trying to help me... in the end, I always go back to my shell and give up on my goals..

It's nice to be on a forum where people are actually going through the same things I am. I truly understand what it's like when some of you mention how ugly you feel on the outside and how you feel like roadkill on the inside. It's.. comforting, but it seems all most of us is doing is venting and actual change is nearly impossible..

Am I wrong about this? are things not as hopeless as it seems right now?
 

Flowers-Of-Bloom

Well-known member
There are a few sucess stories on here, but you're right, there are a lot of people here that just need a place to vent.

The thing is; these forums aren't going to solve the problem. They're just a place to support you and let know you're not alone WHILE you're working to help yourself. Unforunately a lot of people don't help themselves or seek help.
A part of getting better is overcoming your own thoughts by sheer will. Therapy and medication, as well as these forums, is just a support.
 

sabbath9

Banned
Hi mewdew, welcome to SPW!

you don't need high self-esteem to have a full life, and you can kill your self image daily if u want, change is available if you increase your willingness to let your emotions / thoughts come and go as they please
 

Illusions

Well-known member
Yes, it just won't do, all the whining... even though we can't help it. Well, like Flowers-Of-Bloom said, will plays a huge role. You have to muster the strength to change your mindset (which is almost too much to ask of SAers since it's all in the mind) and somehow believe that things will get better for you.

Oh yes, welcome to SPW and all the best to you. :)
 

mismeek

Well-known member
I think the main thing is that you have to really REALLY REALLY want to change. A lot of people get discouraged because of all the set backs..and believe me there are A LOT..but you just gotta keep truckin' ya know? You gotta break the routine.. i know i know easier said that done, But it works!

welcome! see you in the chat box!
 

BlackKids

Well-known member
I feel pretty much the same way as you. A positive attitude goes along way. There's no point whining about how bad things are because they can always get worse. :)
 

Fighter86

Well-known member
Yes, I think we whine here quite abit, but not everyone does that, some of us here are quite positive. As for myself, I just need to rant/vent you know, I spend 9hrs working all day, and when I get home, I just feeling like venting, nothing seems to be going right, I don't have anyone to talk to, I'm just frustrated and want to say so and this is a place for me to express my feelings::(: Not exactly the most positive thing but...
 
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