Meeting my new neighbour(s) - etiquette/conversation tips

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nightcrawler

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I live in a house that is split into downstairs & upstairs flats (or apartments to US readers ;)). Yesterday a new neighbour moved into the flat under me and as yet haven't met her. What's the usual etiquette - should I introduce myself to her or vice versa? Also anyone have any conversation tips for once I get past "Hi I'm...from upstairs"?. I'm gonna ask if she's buying or renting, but after that I haven't got much :rolleyes:
 
Danfalc

Danfalc

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nightcrawler said:
I live in a house that is split into downstairs & upstairs flats (or apartments to US readers ;)). Yesterday a new neighbour moved into the flat under me and as yet haven't met her. What's the usual etiquette - should I introduce myself to her or vice versa? Also anyone have any conversation tips for once I get past "Hi I'm...from upstairs"?. I'm gonna ask if she's buying or renting, but after that I haven't got much :rolleyes:
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Maybe ask her where she has moved from, and how is she finding it so far. Say you know how much of a stress moving can be, and if she needs anything to give you a shout. And go from there, I play my music loud and a lot, so whenever I get new neighbours, I go round and tell them to knock on if it ever gets too loud.
 
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nicole1

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I would wait until I actually ran into her. Knowing me, depending on mood, I could wait to meet someone versus running to the door and saying "Hi, I'm Nicole! Nice to meet you!"
And let it come natural... I hate planning ahead for a convo b/c I wind up messing up anyway.
 
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Danfalc said:
Maybe ask her where she has moved from, and how is she finding it so far. Say you know how much of a stress moving can be, and if she needs anything to give you a shout. And go from there, I play my music loud and a lot, so whenever I get new neighbours, I go round and tell them to knock on if it ever gets too loud.
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Good suggestions

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I would wait until I actually ran into her.
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Yeah, then there's no expectation. Like if you knocked on her door, she'd expect you to have a reason to be knocking, and if you ran out of things to say it could be uncomfortable. But if you just bump into her, when you run out of things to say, you can just say something like "I better go catch my bus" or whatever. Then each time you run into her, you can make a bit more small talk with no pressure.
 
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I think that depends on what kind of person she is too , i mean u could start a small talking and depending on how and what she says to u , u can continue the talking , but as others already said has to be a natural thing , maybe u can set some topics to have an idea like u could talk about how is the zone there , about near markets , stores , idk what kind of person she is but when u talk and see her can understand many things can try to see her hobbyies and due to that keep talking maybe finding something in common , but always being natural that its the best thing , not trying to look be too much pressure just take it easy and be gentle and simply, be ur self ,always
 
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Lanciao37

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Just walk down there some day,Say Hi,Say your from the flat above (obviously unless your a burglar) Tell her if she needs any info about the local area or any help like that then she can come up and ask you. Then look at your watch and say you need to go,Say bye,Then leave the buillding for say 20mins.
No need to force yourself to small talk,You are strangers after all,Then go back in a week after she has settled in for a longer conversation.
 
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Vampayah88

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Don't go knocking on her door. It might get uncomfortable. You'll probably run into eachother anyway and you'll get the chance to say hi.
 
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nightcrawler

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Thanks for all of your replies! :) It seems the majority opinion is not to go knocking on her door (which I was thinking of doing :eek:) and just wait till I bump into her naturally. Like some said - if I go knocking just to say Hi the conversation won't seem so natural and may get awkward. We share the same front door & hallway so will hopefully bump into her soon enough. Thanks also for the conversation tips - have taken these on board. Will let you know how it goes when I've met her.
 
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nightcrawler

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Well I finally met my new neighbour today. She's been living there almost a week now so thought it was about time to just pop down a say a friendly hello. I know most people here said just wait till I ran into her, but I didn't want a few months to go by and be the miserable neighbour who never introduced himself :rolleyes: I was a little anxious but had a few questions ready to keep the conversation going. We only spoke for a few minutes, and I could sense the chat was getting a little awkward, but overall I'd say it went pretty well and am glad I did it. A small victory personally speaking considering my SA. Anyway she seemed like a friendly person, and to be honest she's been as quiet as a mouse since she moved in :)
 
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nightcrawler said:
Well I finally met my new neighbour today. She's been living there almost a week now so thought it was about time to just pop down a say a friendly hello. I know most people here said just wait till I ran into her, but I didn't want a few months to go by and be the miserable neighbour who never introduced himself :rolleyes: I was a little anxious but had a few questions ready to keep the conversation going. We only spoke for a few minutes, and I could sense the chat was getting a little awkward, but overall I'd say it went pretty well and am glad I did it. A small victory personally speaking considering my SA. Anyway she seemed like a friendly person, and to be honest she's been as quiet as a mouse since she moved in :)
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Yay, first conversations are usually pretty awkward anyway :D Good job
 
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