Maybe some people are better off this way? (Very long sorry)

Today some one who I guess I could consider a friend of mine asked me if she would like to see me perform at a dance off later tonight.
I decided to go because I thought it would be a good way to I guess in a way make me less depressed because I guess contact with people is good for that.I left her a text message asking her which building the dance off is in (we live on campus) and she didn't respond back to me.
I made a guess as to where it could be and luckily I found it my first try. When I arrived there I saw a friend of mine from high school I wanted to talk to him but I guess I was just to scared so I didn't really say anything to him. When I walked up to the area that the dance off was supposed to take placed I noticed all the people standing around and I begin to think to myself... Wow I am really really alone. I saw a few people dance including my friend and I just left without even talking to her (I don't really think she wanted me there) I thought to myself that maybe I was happier alone? Or that maybe someday I would grow accustomed to it I guess.
Another thing is the fact that I hate mostly every one I mean I guess I just don't trust them its hard to explain please do not take this in the wrong meaning but its the best way I can explain it.

TL;DR

Should I just get used to being lonely? Or should I do something to kinda fix it? If so what should I do?

Also how do you all feel about being lonely do you enjoy it or do you dislike it?




Sorry for that being so long just feeling pretty down about this I guess :s


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I just found out that girl actually did want to hang out with me but afterwards I guess.... wow maybe I am just paranoid?

That wasn't long at all! My topic starters are long.
It's not normal for humans to be alone. It just isn't right for us. Social contact is written into our versions of happiness. It varies, of course, but it's always there. Everything we have ever built requires social contact. We shouldn't have to be alone.

Hmm well is there any ways that I could make keeping in contact with people easier? Its not really hard for me to make friends (all the time) but its harder keep in touch with them.
Well to be honest I lost all the friends I made on the first day of college to tell the truth so idk what to do. I don't have any friends online to hang out with either so as you can see its really tough for me to make friends :?

hayashi said:

Hmm well is there any ways that I could make keeping in contact with people easier? Its not really hard for me to make friends (all the time) but its harder keep in touch with them.
Well to be honest I lost all the friends I made on the first day of college to tell the truth so idk what to do. I don't have any friends online to hang out with either so as you can see its really tough for me to make friends :?

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That's what shyness, depression, and social phobia do, isn't it? The best thing is to just do it. Get a phone number and call someone. Email if you're too nervous. Talk to someone in class. Apologize for having been out of touch. Most people understand depression, so you can tell them that you've been having some trouble but are getting over it. Yes, if you have to lie, then lie. They want to hear that you're at least trying to get better. Ask them if they want to see a movie you're interested in with you or if they want to go to ... and ... (fill in the blanks). Make it something casual.
But in the end, what you have to do is find some way to find the will to do something. I have a great and terrible sense of commitment to myself, so if I tell myself I will do something by a certain time, or before I get to do something I enjoy, I will do it. I hate disappointing myself. You'll have to find some motivation somehow. If it's peer pressure, getting us on this site to ask you every day if you've done it, then we are available. But you have to get started. You're in college or high school, I take it, so this is the perfect time for you. You have classes with people with similar interests. You can dance, apparently. You're in the perfect position; you just have to do it.

I'm sorry for lecturing. I get that way sometimes.

This kind of stuff happens,You're not paranoitd you was just i insecure at the time...

Its hard to me to stay in touch with people i know, even my lifelong friends complain that i'm always "missing", but you, you already make friends and even like to go out and have fun , most of us wouldn't do it. Felling insecure is fine - you are living!!! - but don't let it end you friendship, .

I totally agree with helyna "just do it" - with copyright infringement and all

Helyna said:

hayashi said:

Hmm well is there any ways that I could make keeping in contact with people easier? Its not really hard for me to make friends (all the time) but its harder keep in touch with them.
Well to be honest I lost all the friends I made on the first day of college to tell the truth so idk what to do. I don't have any friends online to hang out with either so as you can see its really tough for me to make friends :?

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That's what shyness, depression, and social phobia do, isn't it? The best thing is to just do it. Get a phone number and call someone. Email if you're too nervous. Talk to someone in class. Apologize for having been out of touch. Most people understand depression, so you can tell them that you've been having some trouble but are getting over it. Yes, if you have to lie, then lie. They want to hear that you're at least trying to get better. Ask them if they want to see a movie you're interested in with you or if they want to go to ... and ... (fill in the blanks). Make it something casual.
But in the end, what you have to do is find some way to find the will to do something. I have a great and terrible sense of commitment to myself, so if I tell myself I will do something by a certain time, or before I get to do something I enjoy, I will do it. I hate disappointing myself. You'll have to find some motivation somehow. If it's peer pressure, getting us on this site to ask you every day if you've done it, then we are available. But you have to get started. You're in college or high school, I take it, so this is the perfect time for you. You have classes with people with similar interests. You can dance, apparently. You're in the perfect position; you just have to do it.

I'm sorry for lecturing. I get that way sometimes.

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Lol well thank you I guess I could put more effort into it I guess. I am actually not sure how well it will work out but I will try and fine more people who share some of the same interests as me later next week perhaps?

PS I sadly am not gifted in dancing but thanks for thinking so lol.