Losing friends

Has anyone ever felt like they had plenty of friends when they were younger, however, as time progressed and the older you get, all those friends are no longer friends and you find yourself alone?
I used to have lots of friends and now Im getting the impression that Im not liked anymore. Im losing friends and I don't know why. Im a quiet person with a good heart so I am at a loss, its not like I'm bad. I am quite awkward but does that merit alienation??

I lost a lot of friends .. but I gained a few new ones a few years back. I still have contact with my best friend of the 'old' days, I'm happy for that. Don't know what to do without him. He recently has a girlfriend so his online time has been seriously reduced... ::

Yeah, if people get significant others or get married and get families and/or jobs, their time for you will decrease.. It doesn't mean you're not friends anymore!! Just means they're busy with other stuff!!

Best bet is to get busy with interesting things too, and find new friends/interesting people to hang out or do things with..

Also new couples go through a 'bubble' phase, when they like to be together a lot, and after a while, they're happy to be with other people again, together or separately..

People with families or jobs may have less or more money for certain things and different ideas on how to spend money & time too..
It just means you're different and have some different interests..

You can either focus on any remaining common interests, stuff you can still do together, or get to know their world (and eg buy baby gifts and such) or invite them to any of your new interests that they might like too... It's different, according to age and life circumstances..

My problem is that Im not in a relationship and neither are the 'friends'. Im young and elements of families or marriage/jobs doesnt factor.
They arent busy, but 'selectively' busy for me....

I feel the exact same way!
When I was younger it seemed I had a countless number of great friends.
However I guess we all kind of drifted apart.
I think about them all the time and the impacts they had on my life.
It is quite depressing to go from having tons of friends to practically no friends.

flynnhan said:

My problem is that Im not in a relationship and neither are the 'friends'. Im young and elements of families or marriage/jobs doesnt factor.
They arent busy, but 'selectively' busy for me....

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Hm, has there been like a 'rift' or some event that triggered it?
Or they started going clubbing a lot and you prefer quiet music and staying out of loud bars?
It would help to know the age group too: 15-18 or 18-21 or...?

Also, you might wanna look at your communication with them. Are you critical a lot/venting/lamenting, or are they and you're not? Are they very much into pursuing girls/boys and you're too shy for that? (This could be a factor too...)

Basically, might wanna look at any differences between them and you, and also to look up effective communication (some good books and websites out there)... Maybe you've been unconsciously doing something that was not so good for communication..

A girl I know started dating one of her ex's best friends and then wondered why he hasn't got any friends and only stayed at home, or with her, most of the time..
So it could be something like this, or just clashing dating interests... (For example, someone else likes the girl/boy you like too.. and that person may seem to like you better.. etc etc)

Also, some people may like smoking and drinking and cussing (or a particular music style) and some don't..

Lots of things can happen.. You can either look for reasons and try to fix things (if they are fixable), or look for new people to hang with.. (or a bit of both)