lonely

did you feel lonely because you didn't have lots of friends and always at home alone?i always feel that because i'm always at home and my friend only came once a week because she's working.but still i fell boring when she came.:roll:

I know how you feel here. I am always stuck at home, and I have not one single friend. I am just stuck here all day, without any hobbies or interests and not even one friend . I also, like you, feel really boring. I think even if I ever did have firends, I would bore them to death.

Yeaj its the same for me, I have no friends and have had none for years and years. I am always alone and so lonely and, this life seems a real waste for me because, there is just no purpose for me to even be living.

its real lonely always being alone and, people just do not like me. In the jobs I have had which did not last too long, they always made fun of me, made a patsy out of me and all this just got me so depressed so badly that I ended up being on a disability because I cannot cope with people.

in my life people have been always so hurtful to me and made fun of me and it still happens, and this is perfect strangers. I wish I could be accepted like all others out there seem to be.

You all know what I mean by that and, that is, all others all being happy, having what always looks like millions of friends, are very popular, and some are married and have kids and, god, I wish I could have all that too but, see, in my case I have and always will be a nobody.

The thing also is, is that if I were to die, no one would give a care because I am a total nobody.

It seems all other people have their name up on a markee and are so popular and everything but, if my name were up on the markee, all people would say is "Who is that??' "Who? "Who is it?" "never heard of him ".

Yeah, I am am total loser

And oh yeah ,ever notice that in any dreams you have, its only in those dreams that you are accepted and people like you and, of course when you wake from these dreams, you about cry because the dreams were so vivid and so like it was real life and, you realize you are back to your lonely all alone depressing sad worthless life

Am so sick of this same thing day after day, week after week, month after month, and year and year after year after year
And all I do is get older and, I am one of the older members here, am 46 and all my life I havenever been accepted and , listen, you know I talked about what people have doen to me on the few jobs I have had? Well, I always wanted to be accepted and ,me being so wanting for people to like me, this one job they had be go looking for a can of "Spotted paint"
and, I did not know there was no such thing and, I just wanted to be accepted and thought I was helping and, so when I came back to the store I worked in and I told them i could not find any, they then all laughed at me real bad and said "THERES NO SUCH THING!!". and god did I cry ,I am very sensitive and emotional and, I was so hurt so bad and I truly felt to just end my life!!

Stupid people, they are all so very mean and hurtful and to cruel. I wish so badly I could just get revenge on all those in my life that have made a fool of me, made fun of me and everything!!

But anyways, I just wanted to say that I too am lonely always, have no friends at all, and this life I have truly sucks and I just wish i would die, as there is no point in living !

Hi guys.

I was touched by some of the posts in this message string. I am so sorry that there are total sh*ts out there that are happy to pick on people in this manner.

Misternobody, don't put yourself down in this way. Everyone is a somebody. Did you parents/teachers tell you that you were a nobody when growing up? My parents did and it's made me into the anxiety stricken person that I am today.

Ok, so it *seems* that your life is cr@p right now, but how about starting out in small steps. Perhaps think of something you are interested in and join a class or group. Don't think about making friends or being the most popular person around.

Do you find it helpful that you have a great community in this forum? People who do want you to suceed and be happy?

It always seems as though other people are happy and have loads of friends, but this may not always be the case and may only *seem* that way.

Jodie

I've lived alone now for about 4 years, so I'm used to not having much company. I had a decent amount of friends where I used to live, so I had somewhat of a social life on weekends but then I had to move out here a year ago because of my job. So I have work friends, but we rarely do anything outside of work. To make it worse all of my family lives out of state, so really I have no social life here.
The main times I get lonely are after I either go visit my parents or they come visit me. I get used to having people around for a few days and then when they leave it's really quiet for a few days.

But I find that the internet and tv helps me feel less lonely, it's almost like characters on tv shows are my friends sometimes (how pathetic is that?).

i don't have any real friends as well.my few friends just came and chat or call me.i think if i really have problems none of them will come and help me.i don't think i'm a true friends myself either.and i can relate myself to misternobody.i'm really sorry to hear that.i would love to be your friends and talk to you.all your ex-coworkers is a jerks.i didn't worked since last year.because i can't cope with the peoples there.i have been bullied by the one in charge of me and some of the co-workers as well.one of them always love to scold me everytime i do something wrong and always making fun of me.the rest is making fun of me as well.because i'm always nervous when i'm at work so i always did mistake part of it is my clumsiness as well.the one in charge of me is scolding at me in front of everyone everyday whether the mistake i make is small or big.she just doesn't like me.i feel like wanting to cried all the time.and i think i became depressed as well.i just can't mix with most of them because i'm scared and nervous to talk to them because of my SP but they thought i'm unfriendly and keep making fun of me.i'm lonely,nervous and always scared at my workplace.it's really hard even if it's just a few months.i quit 9 months later and never dared to work back because i scared the same things will happen again.i rather be at home than being bullied or making fun of again.

I feel alone. I have had BFs one after another since I was 21, but I still feel lonely. Mainly because I don't know why they are with me. I think most of them like me at first because of my looks and then they realize how boring and timid and angry and jealous and insecure and weird and awkward I truly am. So, it causes me to become more lonely because I don't think anyone truly likes who I am.

I have one o'r two friends who i rarely see, and i have a few aqquaintances at work. I sometimes go to the cinema with my workmates but in truth i feel lonely even in the company of people, most people would say that the solution to loneliness is to be with people but not in my case. I end up feeling more lonely because i don't feel part of anything, i feel as if i am in a dream and i don't know what to say to anyone.

i understand,it's like even if you're with your friends together you still feel boring at heart.i have been going out with my dormmates when i'm studying in the short 2 months but i never felt happy.i fell nervous,boring and lonely instead. :roll:

I am home most times too although not alone as my mum lives with me. But it's not the same as most 'normal' people would think that it was lame to be living with your parents at 35. I do feel lonely alot. I have acquaintances who I work with and have been out to breakfast with one of them on the weekend and a couple of friends (who I also met through work) who I don't see very often. We usually contact each other by email and one of them by phone also, but she always phones me.
If I am with people I still feel alone as I don't feel like I am fully participating. Anything I have ever done I have done it but not fully participated in it so I feel like a fraud and haven't achieved anything. I think that is my view of having social phobia, not fully participating in life!!!!

Well, I think I have tons of friends, but that isn't enough. I wouldn't be so anxious about calling them if they called me first every once in a while. Nobody except my one best friend actually calls me to see if we can get together! I have to chase the rest down, and I feel like I'm pushing them to do something they don't want to, whether I am or not. And then, I see my friends planning stuff to do together when I'm RIGHT THERE and completely ignored. Then, I wonder how many friends I really have. I don't understand what's wrong or how to get closer to them. So just having friends isn't everything you need.

misternobody: I'm sorry you feel that way. Just reading your post made me want to cry. I wish I could take all the bullies in the world and put them in the mind of the people they tease. I know what it's like to wish I could die, but things get better. There's got to be something good in your life. You don't have to always be a nobody. There must be something you can do.

milo001 said:

did you feel lonely because you didn't have lots of friends and always at home alone?

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Yes, in the past it didn't bother me, but now I have reached a point where I'm about to become schizophrenic because of loneliness.. I'm seriously afraid that I might become schizophrenic, since my brother also suffered from schizophrenia and eventually committed suicide.

bulldog21083 said:

I've lived alone now for about 4 years, so I'm used to not having much company. I had a decent amount of friends where I used to live, so I had somewhat of a social life on weekends but then I had to move out here a year ago because of my job. So I have work friends, but we rarely do anything outside of work. To make it worse all of my family lives out of state, so really I have no social life here.
The main times I get lonely are after I either go visit my parents or they come visit me. I get used to having people around for a few days and then when they leave it's really quiet for a few days.

But I find that the internet and tv helps me feel less lonely, it's almost like characters on tv shows are my friends sometimes (how pathetic is that?).

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Yeah, when I was living alone I constantly had the TV on to fill the space. The only time I turned it off was when I went to sleep, and I always kind of dreaded that time, because the quietness made me lonely. This past year I didn't have a TV in my dorm room, and I really regretted it, as it would have filled the void for me when I was alone in there.

Yes, there are most definitely times when I feel lonely.

All I do is go to work then come home and sit in my room by myself. It can get very lonely. I mean, I live with my parents, so I do things with them sometimes, but it still just doesn't feel the same as it would if I had friends my own age.

I've gone through high school feeling lonely with no friends, I've gone through college feeling lonely with no friends, and I am now at work feeling lonely with no friends.

Try as I might, I just can't seem to meet people and create friendships. Like, in college I went there with the mind set that I was going to put myself out there and make friends, and I really tried and went to meetings for clubs and organizations, and tried to seem friendly and smile at people in class, but none of it seemed to work for me.

jodiesmitham said:

Hi guys.



Ok, so it *seems* that your life is cr@p right now, but how about starting out in small steps. Perhaps think of something you are interested in and join a class or group. Don't think about making friends or being the most popular person around.

Jodie

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i agree with Jodie's suggestion. even if you dont feel like theres anything you're interested enough in to make the effort of going out to a class or group. have a look at some neighbourhood centre's brochures of activities. see if theres something you might like. like Jodie said, dont do it just to make friends. just do it, and i bet you will be glad you did, and fnd it has some benefits you never would have even thought of.

an interest group or class is good for people with social anxiety because theres something else to focus on apart from each other.

i wish i had done this when i was in my teens or 20's, when i was so isolated and had no interests, well i thought i had no interests. now i'm older and have so many interests. even if you dont make a good friend, you will have company at those specific times, which can make up for a lot. i dont like to have a lot of company, but i like having company at the groups.

and it will give you something to talk about, too, which just staying at home doesnt do.

all the best

akele

It's very strange because I had no idea I suffered from SP until I had a funny turn at work while during a presentation (see my other post). After reading through a number of these posts, I realise I have actually suffered from this all my life. I can think of only a few situations in groups of people where I have genuinely felt comfortable (ironically when I've been the centre of attention).

When I am around a group of people, I tend to look forward to going home and being on my own or with my partner. However, I feel I am missing out by doing this so I'm trying to find some activities to pursue. Photography seems to be quite interesting and doesn't really involve other people.

Akele, what sort of interests do you have?

The one great thing about the internet (more specifically these forums) is that you feel a sense of closeness, no matter where you live in the World). At least if friends, work colleagues of family can't understand you, there will be people here on this forum that will.

Jodie

This is a double-edged sword. Because if I'm doing something social, I'm always thinking of excuses to try to bail. But if I'm home alone, then I feel miserable. The grass is always greener on the other side and I'm screwed either way. I have tons of hobbies to try to fill up the time (reading, exercise, guitar, going online, etc.).

I tend to feel lonely at times, I had a very close group of friends that I did every thing with but gradually theyve all disapeared. Now I get enjoyment from my sister as shes grown up now, shes the one that keeps me sane.