Life is passing me by...

And it's DAMN frustrating. I'm 23 years old and it feels as if I'm wasting my life. I don't know what's interests me. I don't know what to study. It's like I don't have the energy to do the things I want.

I feel as if I'm an actor to talk with people and that's wearing me out. I don't feel a passion where I have the energy to talk with the people and actually do something interesting and working.

I can't concentrate on my only course needed to study international development but I'm not even sure that I want to do that. Will I have a career at age 32 when I know a lot of people who at age 24 have one and even some of them got married?

It's just I don't know how to get by in life... cherishing it as if it's my own. I'm at the Humpty Dumpty who sees the world advancing.

Maybe I'm depressed because I know I made some achievements such as restarting the courses I need to get into university. But it seems all is dark ...

I need someone to tell me "it's ok, you can do it, I believe in you", but I know that's not possible because each person has it's own life to take care off. And yes, I need to believe in myself but I don't have the energy anymore.

Maybe I need to take antidepressants, but I just hate meds. I don't even take Tylenol's or Advil when my head hurts... so the thought of taking antidepressants isn't that great... what do you think?

Yeah! I know the feeling... we're in the same boat!

and I'm not really into taking meds also.
we just have to learn how to manage our moods or whatever.

Anyway, I believe that you can do it!
You only need a drive to keep it going!
So just do it! goodluck!

Atleast your not 31!

I'm feeling the same way as you with my life right now.
What gets me down is when I give into the depression and don't tend to work as hard or just don't care at all about anything for a few days.
All you can do is keep going forward though, day by day, even just little steps.
Just keep going, don't stop, one day it Has to pay off, right?

I'm also 23, have no idea what I want to do career wise, and I don't take medications. In the past 3 weeks, I changed what I want to do in the future but they are usually the same careers. I just can't figure out which one I can see myself doing for many years. I took some courses to get into an university but then I changed my mind because now I don't want to move away from home.

I know it's frustrating but everyone goes at their own pace. My brother is 26 and he just started college. He went to college twice but hated what he was going for so he dropped out both times. My dad told us both to take our time and really think about what we want to do. So my brother figured out he's into writing and he's really good at it. He's now at Pitt University that he loves for journalism.

Take your time. Really think about what you want to go for and even look up information about the career on the internet. If you think you found a career that you like, shadow an employee in that field for the day, and see if you'll like it. Ask them questions and see how they feel about it. Who knows, maybe when you look up information on the internet, you will find a career that you never heard of but you'll really like it.

I don't think it's that you're lazy. You just haven't found something that you truly love doing. Once you find it, you'll do fine. I wish you the best of luck. Don't forget, you are not alone.

I also have the same issues course and career wise. I finished one year of a university course and i've suspended it for now but I don't want to go back. It's really hard I know.

As long as I have money, I'm not too fussed about a career.

Only problem is that I haven't been able to find a way to make a lot of money without a career yet.

I'm actually doing a course atm but I'm none too motivated about it and actually prefer working in you know one of those, labourious and repititive types for people who don't have a higher education.

Thanks for the support guys. It's great that I'm not alone with those thoughts but I seriously want to get on with my life.

Caseums21: Your brother's story is really encouraging. My parents in the beginning weren't like that at all. As soon as I finished high-school, they wanted me to go to college and study anything even If I didn't want to do it (at the time, It was in the domain of computers) but I just couldn't go on. But their perceptions changed now.

And I don't feel comfortable at home, it seems I can't get all my personality out. I'm closed outside and at home. They truly time that I'm "me" is with my friends... but it doesn't last long since all of them have their life of their own.

I just want this nightmare to get over and I thank you for your support.

My life is passing by too. Some evenings I just lie down in the bed and after 1 hour I sometimes fall asleep, around 19:30... Sleeping a few hourse the waking up just to have a hard time falling a sleep when I should do. I most often do this on the weekend evenings becouse I have nothing better to do. I'm doing nothing and there is nothing to do. I hardly like anything in life much enough and no one wants to spend time with me becouse I'm boring. I do understand that though.

I'm 20 btw.

A friend once advised me to not think about what kind of job I wanted later, instead I should study something that I enjoyed and then find a way to use it when the day where I want a job comes. And to be fair that feels kind of good to me. I'm very interested in computers and game development f.ex, but I'm not too keen on math just now, so I decided to apply for a bachelor in psychology (3 years here). The inspirational part of my example stops here since my anxiety made me drop out of the university again

I'm intending to give therapy a chance and work hard to improve my life (not to mention my dog-project that I already can feel has an effect), so I can return though, because I found psychology interesting. Anyway, my point was that if you're unsure then study something you enjoy and make a career-choice later, because even though everyone seems to be in a hurry that doesn't mean that you can't do things your own way and at your own pace.

Oh, and if you're terribly unsure then I suggest perhaps signing up for shorter periods if you can (here we have bachelor which is 3 years, and master which is 5. Not to mention some "introduction'ish" stuff that lasts only a single year. Know this is a bit different in other parts of the world) and then build further on that later if you really like it. In my opinion it's a strength rather than a weakness to have spent several years gaining new knowledge.

The world of work, ain't it great-well not really. I agree with lost viking, study something you're interested in and see where that takes you. Degrees can be a bit hit and miss though, I still don't know why they have to be three years long-two max I reckon, the first year doesn't even count how stupid is that. Theres plenty of part time courses that can be taken after work or online etc I think the hardest part is knowing what you want to do.

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SOmeone that understands how i feel too. I am 16 years old and i will be going to college in september of 2008. I feel like i wasted my life completely, like i am 50 and waiting to die. I don't even want to turn 17 or 18...for what? SO that i can get older and older and older and life will continue to suck even more. I don't even want to go to college, i don't know what i want to study, nothing makes me happy, i have no energy to do things, i am bored all the time, i am tired all the time. I feel like i am a fake person because to the world i act like something else but when i am by myself i am a complete different person. I don't even know who i am........

Depressed4life dude, I don't have much energy either. I have lots of boring school work to do but I don't have the ambition still I must be good at these things becouse this is the last step until real job for me.

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Kien said:

Depressed4life dude, I don't have much energy either. I have lots of boring school work to do but I don't have the ambition still I must be good at these things becouse this is the last step until real job for me.

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I do my work too well some, since i am a senior and i almost graduating so i just could care less. Anyways, i don't even think i could ever get a real job, i find it impossible to deal with ppl. I am starting to go to the gym now because i want to be slimmer by the summer since i am going to visit my bf and i have a hard time having to walk to get to the gym and see so many ppl on the streets. My eyes get really watery and i feel like i am lost. It's really hard to deal with anxiety and depression.......it SUCKS!!

Oops... you're a birth-giver I guess. (o,o)