JOB interview

Depressed4life

Depressed4life

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Hello people i am new to the site and i have a job interview and i am very very nervous.I been to one interview with k-mart and it went really really bad because it was my first interview and i got pretty nervous and plus those questions were hard.I have an interview with Target and i really need the job.The interview is next week and boy i am freaking out because my friend told me that they ask you a lot a lot of questions.LIke if they ask me what do i qualify whats that suppose to mean?
 
Joey86

Joey86

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Yup interviews are the pits. The best way to get through them is to practice answering some interview questions. Google search typical interview questions and you'll get an idea of what to expect. Write down some points on paper on how you could answer these, then rehurse them orally by yourself, or if you have a friend available, ask them to practice this with you.

When they ask you about what qualifies you for this job, match the qualities given in the job description with yours and give examples. For example, for retail places like kmart and target, they usually require staff to be able to manage their priorities between say attending to a customer, cleaning up a mess on the floor, general merchandising etc. Use an example from your past to illustrate this. Eg, you could say that you're a busy person (even though it might not be true lol) and you manage to juggle school, extra-curricular activities like sports, etc etc.
 
Depressed4life

Depressed4life

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hey

Joey86 said:
Yup interviews are the pits. The best way to get through them is to practice answering some interview questions. Google search typical interview questions and you'll get an idea of what to expect. Write down some points on paper on how you could answer these, then rehurse them orally by yourself, or if you have a friend available, ask them to practice this with you.

When they ask you about what qualifies you for this job, match the qualities given in the job description with yours and give examples. For example, for retail places like kmart and target, they usually require staff to be able to manage their priorities between say attending to a customer, cleaning up a mess on the floor, general merchandising etc. Use an example from your past to illustrate this. Eg, you could say that you're a busy person (even though it might not be true lol) and you manage to juggle school, extra-curricular activities like sports, etc etc.
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Good idea...thanks so much!!
 
Uberfuhrer

Uberfuhrer

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I've been trying to get a job, too. I got laid off from my job at JCPenney over a year ago, and I haven't been able to get one since. I've only gotten three interviews so far and none of them have called me back. My most recent interview was at The Olive Garden. The person I talked to said he would call me to set up a second interview, but he never did. I called them (which is a miracle for me, because I hate telephones), and they said if I didn't hear from them by so-and-so, the position was filled or circumstances have changed.

I'm running out of options, now, seeing how I don't drive, meaning I don't have many places to look.

Partly why I'm trying extra hard is because I'm lonely and I need some human contact. I'm 22 (23 in March) and still a virgin, haven't dated or had a girlfriend, so I'm just so frustrated.
 
Joey86

Joey86

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Having social anxiety just adds another level of difficulty with job interviews, but I've found that with all the job interviews that I've had, pretty much every applicant is nervous in one way or another, for obvious reasons other than social anxiety.

It's funny, but I think we can use this to our advantage. Being socially anxious, we are use to dealing with nervousness, and have used different coping mechanisms to deal with it. I think we could use this experience to shine in interviews, and land job opprotunities. Eg, I sleep deprive myself the night before the interview so I don't have the brainpower to be self-concious and nervous lol.
 
Depressed4life

Depressed4life

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they didn't even called. Now two months later they sent a card saying thank u for applying but we can't give u the job blahblah. As if i didn't figure that out when they didn't call two months ago.
 
M1tCh

M1tCh

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Depressed4life said:
they didn't even called. Now two months later they sent a card saying thank u for applying but we can't give u the job blahblah. As if i didn't figure that out when they didn't call two months ago.
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Yeah, I hate receiving such notices... I'd rather not hear back at all from potential employers who aren't interested anyway.

Sorry you didn't get the job.
 
krs2snow

krs2snow

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Depressed4life- May I suggest you take this opportunity to apply, schedule and go on every interview you can. It takes practice! Everyone who goes on an interview is nervous. Everyone! I've learned there are basically 3 types of interview-ers. The 1st is the guy who has no idea how to conduct an interview. He asks you only a few questions, does most of the talking and then says "Do you have any questions?" The 2nd is the guy who has a list of questions he is supposed to ask. He asks them but he has no idea what is a "good" answer from you and what is a "poor" answer. Then there is the 3rd type. This guy knows what questions to ask and he is looking for certain responses from you. Responses that show you meet the qualifications the job requires. You prepare yourself to have an interview with the 3rd type of person and hope you'll get the 1st type! To prepare, do your research!! Whether you're applying to scrub toilets or be the CEO of a multi-million dollar company, do your research. Look the company up online. Write down a few key points to mention in the interview. Like when they first opened their doors, how many employees they have, what their sales were last year... whatever you can find that's interesting. This will show the interviewer that you took time to prepare yourself and are taking the interview and possible job opportunity seriously. Then practice, practice, practice! Seriously, if you are prepared before you go into the interview you will feel much, much more confident during it. I went on 10 interviews before I got my most recent job. It was my first time really interviewing and at first I sucked! I have horror stories about interviewing! On one, I started getting red in the face and it got so bad the interviewer thought I was choking! I kid you not! He stopped in the middle of his question and said "Are you all right? Do you need some water?" :oops: But I got better because I kept working to prepare myself and I went on every interview I could get- even if I wasn't really interested in the job. Definitely look up interview questions online and write your answers out. This helped me a ton! Many interviewers today like to ask questions where you have to give an example. "Tell me about a time when...?" These questions are tough unless you have written out some possible responses before hand. You can do it! Prepare, prepare, prepare, and then prepare some more!
 
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flchick81

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Yeah I feel the same way

I have been trying to get a job for about a year now too, the last job I was at for 6 yrs so I felt comfortable there. But thinking about it makes me ugh, having to deal with new people which I don't know I don't know just scares the hell out of me. But I figured the best way to get over your fears is to take them head on, which doesn't sound easy at all. Even when I get an interview I'm soo nervous, that I won't know what to say or that I'm not good enough for the job. My hands get shaky and ugh, they probably think I'm nuts.
 
Depressed4life

Depressed4life

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Life sucks

I never worked before and i have applied to like 8 places already and nothing. :(. I recently applied to mc donalds..i doubt that they will call. I dont even want to work there b.c of my anxiety and people but i need a job.
 
krs2snow

krs2snow

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What about a paper route? You can make like $300-$500/mo. and no people to deal with. It's not just for kids. I know grown adults w/routes. Maybe a grocery store. Apply for stock person. Not too many people and work mostly on your own. Or how about delivery? Like a pizza place. You'd have minimal contact. Cleaning? A lot of places hire people for eve. work for 2-3 hrs. a night on your own. Or janitorial work? Maybe you could look into taking the postal exam and be a mail man. They make good money but it does take time to test and get in. Or something with the city or even construction. A lot of construction jobs are hard labor but you don't need experience. And city workers make decent cash too... Just some ideas. Keep trying. Where there's a will theres a way.
 
Depressed4life

Depressed4life

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I am only 16. I will be honest, i seriously don't have any desire to work at all. I have no energy or motivation what soever. The only reason why i want to have a job is to be able to buy myself clothes because my parents don't give me anything. IN reality i just want to sit down,sleep, use the computer and die. I have no future whatsoever. I have wasted my life thanks to my parents so i just want to die.
 
krs2snow

krs2snow

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Depressed4life. You have not wasted your life. You are young. You have soo many good things to look forward to. Your life is just starting! You need to get some help. That's all. You need to talk w/someone about how your feeling and get some help! Have you ever seen "Homeless to Harvard" ? It's a true story about a girl w/totally F'd up parents. She was literally homeless and by a fluke she applied to Harvard and was excepted. The main point behind her story is that she never felt "stuck". She knew life could be better. Your's can be too. I know it doesn't feel like it now. But, it can get better. You have to try to help yourself, though. Talk to someone. A teacher, school counselor, your principal, a friend's parent, someone. Let someone in to how your feeling and what's happening in your life. Ask someone to help you. It makes me so sad to hear someone your age feeling this bad. You have soo many things to live for. I don't know you but I do know that. I am quite a bit older than you and certainly don't claim to have all the answers. But I know this for a fact, life does not have to be so damn hard! And if it is hard, then you've gotta figure out a way to get your thinking, your feelings and your perceptions back on track and open your eyes to all the wonderful possibilities you have and all the life you've yet to live. Please, please consider.
 
Depressed4life

Depressed4life

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I don't see any reason to live anymore. Seriously i don't see no light and i learned to accept that i am just not good enough for this world. My parents don't care, i cant' ask for sh.it but if is my parent's grandkids she gives them everything. She doesn't understand anything and she is always ignoring me. There were so many things that i wanted to do like my sweet16 and my parents ruined everything. I just want to die because i am not going to contribute anything to this world. I will never ever forget my parents for what they did to me and for the person they created of me. I can't let go like other people, i don't have a personality and i dont even know who i am. They created this image of me just because they care too much what people have to say about them so i have to pay for that. I don't go out, don't have any friends, don't go shopping, can't talk in public, i blush and i don't even know how to go out. I can walk in a street not knowing where i am going or what's the name of the street i am walking around. I don't know how to take the train or anything. I am always confuse and i learned to accept the fact that not everyone is born lucky or happy and that i am one of them. My parents think that they are the best parents in the world because they give me food and thats it and let me tell you...food is not enough. They never tell me that they care, never congratulated me when i get good grades and even though that i am a16 year old senior, they still don't care. My dad tells my mother to let me screw myself as if i am a bad kid. ALL I DO IT STAY LOCK UP, DEPRESSED, CRYING AND WANTING TO KILL MYSELF. I can't take it anymore. My sister understands it, shes 20 and although she doesn't have anxiety or social phobia, she feels the same way. I have a bf that supports me and everything but he is in my parent's native land and the day that my parents find out, watch them talk crap like they always do. They want me to be with somebody that they want, somebody who has a lot of money and an education as if they finished school. None of them made it anywhere, and when there is love i don't care about the money or the education level. Although my bf loves me very much, i just want to die.
 
jennybean

jennybean

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It sounds like you are extremely depressed. i would put getting a job on the back burner and try to get some professional help. If you don't want your parents to know, please visit your school counselor and they will be there to listen and can probably get you into a psychiatrist. Don't give up and don't let your parents ruin your life any further. Don't let them win. You deserve to live and you deserve to be happy. Are you religious? When i felt suicidal and was searching for my place in this world, I read A Purpose Driven Life. It helps. PLEASE see your school counselor or another professional.

God Bless,
Jen
 
Depressed4life

Depressed4life

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I used to believe and have faith in god but i stopped when i was 8. My counselor doesn't even know me, he has a lot of students so i don't even bother to go to his office unless is something for college which i dont even want to go. I don't even want to work to be honest, i dont want to do anything with my fuKKed up life, the reason why i have try to get a job is because i need the money badly and because my parents and my sister are always pressuring me. I feel extremely tired all the time with no energy, like i have no emotions just an empty hole inside. Anyways, i say all the time that i would call the hospital to contact a psychiatrist and i can't do it. I can't even talk properly, i don't know what to do anymore. One thing that i can tell you is, i can't wait to graduate HS b.c i can't stand having to deal with so much ppl and the pressure. I just wish i could finish HS and then stay lock up in the house like i have been doing for years. I am not looking forward to college at all, neither do i want a career. I actually wanted to study psychology and my mom keeps talking how i won't make any money and she tells everybody and they say that i will end up washing plates. I seriously don't want to deal with ppl, i just want to die.
 
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shon

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Depressed4life said:
I used to believe and have faith in god but i stopped when i was 8. My counselor doesn't even know me, he has a lot of students so i don't even bother to go to his office unless is something for college which i dont even want to go. I don't even want to work to be honest, i dont want to do anything with my fuKKed up life, the reason why i have try to get a job is because i need the money badly and because my parents and my sister are always pressuring me. I feel extremely tired all the time with no energy, like i have no emotions just an empty hole inside. Anyways, i say all the time that i would call the hospital to contact a psychiatrist and i can't do it. I can't even talk properly, i don't know what to do anymore. One thing that i can tell you is, i can't wait to graduate HS b.c i can't stand having to deal with so much ppl and the pressure. I just wish i could finish HS and then stay lock up in the house like i have been doing for years. I am not looking forward to college at all, neither do i want a career. I actually wanted to study psychology and my mom keeps talking how i won't make any money and she tells everybody and they say that i will end up washing plates. I seriously don't want to deal with ppl, i just want to die.
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I can't call a psychiatrist either......or make other appt's. I have kids and I'm supposed to be responsible for them too, imagine that! You would probably make a good psychologist. That was always my dream. Prove your family wrong. My dad tries to take credit for how good me and my brother turned out. He says we're good because he "stayed on our asses"...yeah, wtf ever!! You need some goals to focus on and know things will get better at some point.
 
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flchick81

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Yeah these job interviews scare the hell out of me, but so does sitting home all the time. I think when you sit home all bottled up that you start to get even worse. Ive had S.A.D. since I was like 15 and it's really bad now 11 yr''s later... haha. But then again I think it's because I don't get out anymore, and I feel there is just no meaning to life at some points. And I would fill out applications and nobody would call me back. Until yesterday I got a call back after I faxed my resume asking me to come in and fill out an application, thank god. Actually I know it's going to be scary and all, new people.... ugh.... but I can't sit home much longer, I know the sitting here isolating myself from the world is what's going to kill me. So screw S.A.D... I'm getting a damn job.. lol I don't care how nervous and scary it's going to be, when I had a job I was alot better off... I don't know I'll probably freak out once I actually get in the parking lot of the place... lol
 
Depressed4life

Depressed4life

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Actually, i am used to not go out anymore. I feel tired all the time, like i have no energy and like i am dead so i actually enjoy just sitting down in front of a computer 24/7. I just don't like be out doors anymore...whats the point you know? I wish i was normal....god i hate this.
 
abbylee

abbylee

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krs2snow said:
Depressed4life- May I suggest you take this opportunity to apply, schedule and go on every interview you can. It takes practice! Everyone who goes on an interview is nervous. Everyone! I've learned there are basically 3 types of interview-ers. The 1st is the guy who has no idea how to conduct an interview. He asks you only a few questions, does most of the talking and then says "Do you have any questions?" The 2nd is the guy who has a list of questions he is supposed to ask. He asks them but he has no idea what is a "good" answer from you and what is a "poor" answer. Then there is the 3rd type. This guy knows what questions to ask and he is looking for certain responses from you. Responses that show you meet the qualifications the job requires. You prepare yourself to have an interview with the 3rd type of person and hope you'll get the 1st type! To prepare, do your research!! Whether you're applying to scrub toilets or be the CEO of a multi-million dollar company, do your research. Look the company up online. Write down a few key points to mention in the interview. Like when they first opened their doors, how many employees they have, what their sales were last year... whatever you can find that's interesting. This will show the interviewer that you took time to prepare yourself and are taking the interview and possible job opportunity seriously. Then practice, practice, practice! Seriously, if you are prepared before you go into the interview you will feel much, much more confident during it. I went on 10 interviews before I got my most recent job. It was my first time really interviewing and at first I sucked! I have horror stories about interviewing! On one, I started getting red in the face and it got so bad the interviewer thought I was choking! I kid you not! He stopped in the middle of his question and said "Are you all right? Do you need some water?" :oops: But I got better because I kept working to prepare myself and I went on every interview I could get- even if I wasn't really interested in the job. Definitely look up interview questions online and write your answers out. This helped me a ton! Many interviewers today like to ask questions where you have to give an example. "Tell me about a time when...?" These questions are tough unless you have written out some possible responses before hand. You can do it! Prepare, prepare, prepare, and then prepare some more!
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This was really great advice! Tahnk you! and really funny and true too abdout the 3 types of interviewers too... made me laugh, and I needed that after my tonight:) Im in the process of interviewing right now and I can honestly say that the first couple were horrible, but I'm getting better as I go along. Hopefully I'll land something good soon... :roll:
 
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