Is anyone avoiding going outside at all

Uglyduckling

Active member
For about a month, I've only been going outside when I have to go to work. That is it. It's making me feel really, really depressed. I'm sleeping alot more too. I just wish I wasn't so afraid of people and there judgements upon me. :roll:
 

Anonymous

Well-known member
Hey I'm 16 and still live at home and have no job and schools starts soon. but all summer i really haven't gone out ever. and i'm gonna be a junior in high but i'm still terrified to go back. bleh. i feel for ya.
 

Tirta

Well-known member
I never go out, if i go it's always with some people i know because i
afraid going out alone. But i still hate if i must go out.
 

terresap

Active member
Im the same too.
I hate going anywhere outside unless its the backyard. I even hate going outside to check the letter box.
I try to go somewhere with people that I know, it makes it a little easier.
I understand what you are going through UglyDuckling, its hard.
Maybe you could do something a little different, say if you drive to work then take a different route than usual, it could spice things up a little. A change is as good as a holiday.
 

introvert

Well-known member
If you feel like just lying back in bed Saturday morning, and sleeping the day away there are a few things that may help. Try getting up, even if you don't want to. Just know that after the first 10 mins it will be ok. Once your up, start doing things. Anything, no matter how small. Go shopping with family. Get some exercise, perhaps go for a jog. You don't need friends for that, and it gives a mood boost no drugs can.

Once your in a more positive frame of mind, find out about clubs, or events in your area that you could join. Something along your line of interest. And then take the step and go to them. Go alone if you don't have anyone else to join you. You will find there are a lot of others who go there alone. It will be tough. But it's the only way. You need to focus on what you want (going out, make friends), instead of what you don't want (don't want to be judged by others or depressed). So don't think "I'm going to be judged, feel bad etc." think instead "I will get to do X,Y that I enjoy, and perhaps meet a few people".

So do some brainstorming. What interests do you have? Perhaps look on the web for related information on places you could go to in your area. When you are doing something you really enjoy, a lot of the anxiety is taken away.
 
Sometimes I only go out to work on Thursdays and Saturdays. I hate being a hermit. I'm trying to get to my local park every morning and walk at least 30 minutes. But sometimes I get so depressed that I stay home all freakin' week long.
Walking is good exercise, being outside is good therapy, and exposure to sunlight is required for a healthy body. So lets get out there and lets get better.
 

annie

Well-known member
Hi sabbath92001


"Walking is good exercise, being outside is good therapy, and exposure to sunlight is required for a healthy body. So lets get out there and lets get better."

Great attitude you have - couldn't have said it better myself.

Annie
 

axrw

New member
I avoid going outside too. I dropped out of highschool a few years ago and when I decided I should "go back" I went for this distance learning thing over the internet. I pretty much don't have to go out at all now. I don't think that fact is helping me, but I can't seem to force myself to go out and do anything. So, I guess I know how you feel in some way.
 

Anonymous

Well-known member
Never leave the house

I dropped out of HS too, and I never leave the house now other than to go to two classes at a community college, and usually I miss those.
Sometimes I just drive around and look for places with "now hiring" signs too, but I don't think that counts as I never leave the car.
 

Horatio

Well-known member
I go through stages when I dont go out at all, a few months ago I only left the house once in the month and only came out of my room for meals or bathroom visits. I know it sounds like a rather pathetic existance but sometimes I just dont feel like I can handle even just being in public so stay at home.

Dont get me wrong, above anything else I wish I could just go out on the weekends and have fun instead of sitting in bed like the rest of the week, but going outside takes so much damn effort and I dont always feel like coping with that stress.

One of these days Im gonna lose it completely, collapse screaming on a bus or something. Every day I stay in bed is another day that I dont make an ass of myself in front of people.

Horatio
 

LilMissTragic

Well-known member
I go out on a daily basis. Nothing can keep me in, not even my SP as I'm more of an outdoors person anyways. Luckily for me though i live in a small town in the middle of nowhere so if I really dont want to see anyone i just head for the hills or the woods. Its a good thing to do if you can.
 

axrw

New member
I've been thinking about just getting my GED and going to college, but I'm worried I'd find myself in a similar situation, not going to classes most of the time.

A few summers back I decided I'd take a summer course. I enjoyed the class--programming--well enough, but I found my social skills had become, shall we say...crap. I ended sitting next to some girl who found it impossible to stop talking. It was like torture for me, she would always be asking questions and I'd feel like the room was spinning, or falling, or something while I was trying to come up with some answer. Everyday was a battle to get to that class. I don't know, since then I have kind of given up on forcing myself out of the house. If you can't even take someone asking what your favorite band is, I guess you're just screwed.

Hehe, I've even went so far as to consider joining the United States Marine Corps, I figured then I would be forced to go out and live life. Maybe they would instill some little bit of confidence and pride in me, who knows. Don't quite think I'm Marine material though. :(
 

Sweety

Member
Well defnitly don't want to go out this week because the schools are off don't like teenagers even though I'm kind of still one. The only time I've been out this week is to go to the docters to get me sick note and sign off the dole. I was supposed to go to the benifit office yesterday to get some forms so I could get sick pay, but there were too many doors and I didn't know which one to go in, so I just went home.
 

Crimefish

Well-known member
I never go out unless it's for a medical appointment. Other times, I try to go out, and I just stay in my mum's car. I can't get out and face people. I don't want to risk people talking to me.
 
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