Is anyone a parent w/SP?

Mary

Well-known member
Having just recently become a mommy, I am wondering if there are any other parents on here who also have Sp and how has it affected you as a parent? Or affected your kids? I am trying not to let it affect my baby but allready I am struggling because everyone in my husbands family (mine too) wants to see the baby and I am dreading it...although I do want her to have a relationship w/his family. I know how important it is but I can't help feeling this way. I also get feelings of inadequacy about my motherhood and if I am being a good mom.
Any advice on how to deal w/this? :?
 

Marlene

Active member
i am not a mother yet, but i also have fears about raising my kids. i am afraid that they will also have this problems. in my case it is because my mother have social anxiety and i think i have pick up a lot of belief and behavior from her.
but you can prevent this going to child psychologist if there is any problems. if i was in therapy from 10,11 years i would not have this problem wright now, i am sure of it.by the way my sister does not have this problem, so you never know!
good luck!
 

rado31

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Marlene said:
i am not a mother yet, but i also have fears about raising my kids. i am afraid that they will also have this problems. in my case it is because my mother have social anxiety and i think i have pick up a lot of belief and behavior from her.
but you can prevent this going to child psychologist if there is any problems. if i was in therapy from 10,11 years i would not have this problem wright now, i am sure of it.by the way my sister does not have this problem, so you never know!
good luck!

In my family noone has shyness or SA , just me. So it isnt genetic, more like some behaviour heritage (my pa is general anxiety control freak, and i m not blaming him)


So, how can you know that if you were in therapy , you wouldnt have this problem. Here are people who are treating this from their teens with no effect (14 y) . I myself find it when 25.

And, Marlene, if there is something you should treat in yourself it is -showinism. For yours pupils sake one day , not for me. You should be ashamed of it.
 

Marlene

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Explain, i dont know what that word mean? are you reffering that i am a nazi?? you are f..... crazy?? my grandparents ware killed in ex yugoslavia by germans solgiers!!! you need psychiatric help!!
 

rado31

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Marlene said:
Explain, i dont know what that word mean? are you reffering that i am a ****?? you are f..... crazy?? my grandparents ware killed in ex yugoslavia by germans solgiers!!! you need psychiatric help!!


Sorry for them, but you are you. I consider this little conversation over, because noone is allowed to talk to me in this manner. Please ignore me, and you will be gently ignored by me.

Goodbye
 

Marlene

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i cannot believe what are you writing. i am not a native english so i did not understand what you ware saying. for your information during the second world war the germans had ther influence in yugoslavia and they have killed over 5 000 people, including my grendparents, so my father was an orphan. you are a complete IDIOT!
you should be banned from this forum!
 

Foxglove

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Hi Mary. First of all, congratulations on your new baby. I guess it's normal that all the relatives want to have a look at the new little one. If you're uncomfortable having visitors in your home, like I am, maybe your husband could deal with the relatives. You could use that time to do something for yourself. You could go lie down, or read a book, or take a walk. That way, you don't have to be right there when the relatives descend on your house.

My son is 10, and I often worry and feel guilty that my problems have a negative effect on him. He doesn't have many friends, and I always feel that is my fault. I don't belong to the mother-gossip-group at his school. They all think I'm weird or backward, and are probably reluctant to let their brats play with my son. I prefer solitary activities, which my son also enjoys. Instead of hanging out at the soccer field, like most other boys in his class, he likes to go with me into the fields and woods and observe wildlife and catch frogs, snakes and toads. I worry that I will turn him into an outsider like me. My husband is "normal" though, he's very social and gregarious, and I hope that offsets any deficiencies I may cause.

Greetings from Foxglove
 

Mary

Well-known member
First of all, thank you Marlene, Roxy and Foxglove for your comments and advice.

Foxglove, I understand what you mean when you say you worry your son will become an outsider because you don't socialize as much w/the other moms. I worry about that too. Wouldn't it be nice if all the parent's w/sp could get together and their kids would be friends? :)

Rado31: I don't understand your rude comments to Marlene or why you chose to verbally attack her in that manner but you should be aware that these forums have moderators and they can ban you for the kind of things you have said..Also it was not right at all what you did or said to her. YOU are the one who should be ashamed of yourself! :?

Anyway..so apparently there aren't too many parents on here but again, thank you to those who replied!
 
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