Introduction

Hello I'm Blake. I'm having a really hard time getting over social anxiety and learning how to interact with people, especially girls. I feel like there is something everyone understands about me that they can't explain to me and I feel stupid and immature. I want people to respect me but I'm so withdrawn and it seems like the only way people know how to interact with me is to try and get under my skin. When I talk to girls a lot of the time I feel like I'm doing something wrong and a lot of girls just suddenly stop talking to me and ignore me completely leaving me clueless. I feel very discouraged. I'm uncomfortable with male gender roles and I reject the term "man" to describe me. I feel like this further adds to other people getting the sense that I'm immature but a lot of the traits displayed by men such as aggressiveness, testosterone, having muscles, talking in a deep voice, for some reason it bothers me. I don't like that girls can just wait around and guys will approach them but if I wait around almost always nothing ever happens. Maybe it's instinct-based that guys are always expected to make the first move but I find it ridiculously unfair and I have a hard time accepting it. I feel like girls have it easy and as a guy I have to constantly face rejection and competition with other males to get what I want. It is so terrifying. Well, that's all I can think of to write about right now.
 

PhillipJFry

Well-known member
Hello!

I recently joined this forum too and think it's pretty cool. I also think you're over analyzing your situation; there's allota ladies in the world, and I'm sure you'll find one of them that lives close by and enjoys you the way you are.

But you should know girls have it hard too. Imagine if your unfertilized eggs bled out of your ****** for several days every month for the next 35-45 years. (Not to mention you'd be awful at math and driving.)
Also, Darwinism affects people too, so competition and rejection are just the price you pay to be alive. It's not that terrifying.
 
Hello!

I recently joined this forum too and think it's pretty cool. I also think you're over analyzing your situation; there's allota ladies in the world, and I'm sure you'll find one of them that lives close by and enjoys you the way you are.

But you should know girls have it hard too. Imagine if your unfertilized eggs bled out of your ****** for several days every month for the next 35-45 years. (Not to mention you'd be awful at math and driving.)
Also, Darwinism affects people too, so competition and rejection are just the price you pay to be alive. It's not that terrifying.

I really hope this was meant to be ironic... :thinking:

The previous comment was vulgar but true so it's fine with me, haha
 

SelfHater

Active member
How old are you? I have alway been bad with girls. Many guys give up trying to get a girl more so today than ever. A guy on youtube has a hidden cam and posts his failed attempts. He gives advice, asks for advise. I came across it by accident. Do not know if it useful other than seeing how bad "the game" can be.

Back in the stone age when I was in school, I think I came off as snobbish. I was an introvert and to this day a have no clue of what people really thought of me back then. Anyways, eventually I stopped trying. I turned 16, got my first job and a car. I drove ALOT. 100% of my paycheck went into my car for gas or myself for food. I liked the alone time. Found some cool places, sometimes I would drive out to no place particularly and go for walks a hundred miles away from my home. Sometimes a hole in the wall bowling place, big cities, the beach, what ever. Sometimes, very rarely I would stumble across somebody like myself, you could tell by the license plates and that fact they seamed to also be enjoying the alone time.

What eventually happened is I got a different job. I worked at a grocery store. I worked with a lot of girls and occasionally would have to bag the groceries for them when it was busy. So during that time I became friends with them. When it rained out some would ask for a ride home. I became friends with them and they would introduce me to their friends. Soon I had a crowd of female friends that I hanged with regularly. In fact they thought I was cool. I did all that alone driving and knew many places they did not. Lakes to go swimming on a hot day and so on.

Anyways my son Is a lot like me. He is still too young for a girlfriend though but he is at that age when they start thinking about that stuff. I know he asked two girls out and got rejected. He thinks I am joking but I tell him if I had to do it over, I would be one of those dudes on the cheerleading team in school. Unfortunately so far he turned to video games to pass the time. I don't think he is going to meet girls that way but what does "the old fart" know anyways? For me I just stopped trying and was myself, but I was also around and talking to girls because I had a job that exposed me to many girls. Yeah I know I am weird. I stopped trying to hide that.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CzcjL-uLpwY
 

PhillipJFry

Well-known member
I really hope this was meant to be ironic... :thinking:

The previous comment was vulgar but true so it's fine with me, haha

I was going erase that part cause I thought people might take it seriously, but then I didn't cause I thought it was kinda funny anyways; like when people call me cheap cause I'm jewish or something. I'm sorry if it was offensive. I definitely don't consider it to be true. My mom's a great driver, and my calculus tutor in school was a women.
 
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