Im new and will beat this

sdds

New member
Hi all Iam new and working on getting better. In my experience one has to analyze and question the negative thoughts that create panic to stop them dead in there tracks. I have made major progress recently by analyzing thoughts and finding what needs changing, also a little help from beta blockers...

I face my biggest challenge today, go to a family dinner that is hosted by the parents of a boy who used to bully me at school 10 years ago and TBH I am apprehensive. I have no choice, cant avoid it this time - I believe this will do me good but will be very hard for me.

This is how I feel:

He will see Iam nervous and laugh.

He has a girlfriend and I don't, so he will think what a loser.

Everyone has a good job and I am looking for work, they will think I am no good.

Everyone will be relaxed and confident and I wont.
 

Kinetik

Well-known member
Hi sdds. It won't be as bad as you think. A lot of time has gone by and trust me, that guy really won't be thinking in bullying terms anymore. He likely has too much going on to pay you much notice. Don't forget too that people in long-term relationships often wish they were single again. I wouldn't be surprised if he was jealous of you, in fact. You've got all your options open whereas he's stuck in the same old job with the same old woman at his side. I'm not saying everyone thinks in those terms, but some do. Just try to relax and maybe get a few drinks down you before you go. You'll be fine.
 

sdds

New member
Thanks Kinetik, I have taken my beta blocker, calms me right down. I have stopped using alcohol as a social add, sometimes makes me worse. I feel quite nervous now, but the time has come to leave.
 
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