im a female- why do i tend to easily make guy friends more then girl friends

vancouver24

vancouver24

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so i'm straight, i have a bf, and i noticed i have only 1 female friend and she isn't even close to me.

I'm the kindest person and sometimes i'm too kind and i scare people away.. a lot of people have said i'm good looking but i don't show off myself or show any pride ..also i don't even think i'm that beautiful.

so what could be the reason that i dont have female friends?
how can i make female friends, without looking like a lesbo?
im getting tired of my boys, cuz they all seem to be waiting for me to break up with my bf...they even encourage it lol

i feel so alone in this world...
 
nonsuch

nonsuch

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Join a book club or yoga group..on meetup.com...be sure to mention that you have a lot of guy friends...sneaky maybe, but I think it may work......
 
Arthur_Dent

Arthur_Dent

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Probably you do are beautiful, so the most of the other girls around you envy you. That would also explain the attitude of your friends. Then may be you'll have to get gay friends.
 
Phoenixx

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It's interesting you made this post since I have been thinking of this a lot lately. My whole life I've found it easier to become friends with a guy than to become friends with a girl. Maybe it's because I only have an older brother as a sibling? I really don't know. I do have friends that are girls, but the process of "becoming friends" was more challenging to me.

Ironically, as many guy friends as I've had I haven't had a single boyfriend. >.>
 
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Kinetik

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Well lots of guys are eternal opportunists when it comes to an attractive member of the opposite sex, so it doesn't surprise me that you have a lot of male friends. But I'll never understand these dudes that hang around in the background trying to force a girl to dump her boyfriend or wait for some small chance to get with her. In my experience it's either instant chemistry or nothing. I think you have to strike while the iron's hot or if there's nothing there, keep it moving and look elsewhere.

As for female friends, I think your best shot is probably networking with some girls you knew back in the day (on Facebook for example) or else finding some sort of hobby or education/job opportunity that can place you among your peers again.
 
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Hastings & Main

Hastings & Main

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Maybe your fear of coming off as a "lesbo" is holding you back? Females have a much different way of showing friendship with each other than males do (who would rather punch each other in greeting than hug). This may sound ridiculous, but perhaps you're viewing yourself through a man's eyes when looking at the way you act in society? You can laugh me out of the room if I'm way off base ::p:.

And showing a bit of pride in yourself - meaning self-confidence, liking yourself - attracts others to you.
 
Kiwong

Kiwong

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Congratulations on being able to make friends at all. You are way ahead of many anxiety sufferers.
 
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starone

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I feel exactly the same way. I have a boyfriend whom I spend all my time with and love very much, but I'm desperate for a female friend, someone I can vent to and go out with. I don't want a ton of friends but if I could at least have one, I'd be happy, so I know how you feel
 
Entangled

Entangled

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Hmmm yeah I've had had mostly female friends in my life.
I dunno they mostly started out from just small talk or by having something in common (work, classes, hobbies, ect.) and talking about that.
And don't worry you wont be labeled a lesbian just by engaging in conversation.
 
TaylorSwift'sHubby

TaylorSwift'sHubby

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U can try to find a girl who shares similar interest with u. That is the quickest way to befriend a stranger and the easiest way to slip into conversation. But given ur situation, and if ur anything like me, I kno it can be hard, but that's how I met my best frend so I figured its worth a mention....
 
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Patrick26

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I wish i could have female friends, even if it's just 1. I talk to the girls at my work, and flirt with them but we are not friends. I consider friends people you hang out with on a regular basis.
 
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ApplePie4Kitty

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I have this same problem. It's even more of a problem now because I'm engaged now and I've never had a real guy friend who didn't like me as more than a friend.
 
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bsammy

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ApplePie4Kitty said:
I have this same problem. It's even more of a problem now because I'm engaged now and I've never had a real guy friend who didn't like me as more than a friend.
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well yeah being a guy i have always found it diffcult to be just friends with a female without wanting more..usually women and men arent just friendss, they dont just hang out together unless here are other motives..
 
Ithior

Ithior

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Phoenixx said:
It's interesting you made this post since I have been thinking of this a lot lately. My whole life I've found it easier to become friends with a guy than to become friends with a girl. Maybe it's because I only have an older brother as a sibling? I really don't know. I do have friends that are girls, but the process of "becoming friends" was more challenging to me.

Ironically, as many guy friends as I've had I haven't had a single boyfriend. >.>
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I relate to that, I'm a guy and I find it easier to become friends with girls. Maybe it's because I have a twin sister and I used to follow her around all the time when we were young. I even did ballet for a year or so because of that. When talking to guys my mind just goes blank and I never have anything to say. I also haven't had a real girlfriend, though I did mess around with a few girls when I was around 14.
 
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